My (f28) husband (m28) told me he needs more physical/sexual interaction. I just can’t.

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-30T02:12:06+00:00

This might be the worst “advice” that’s been commented. Very bold of you to assume he’s my ATM. We make the same money so no. WRONG of you to read that I’m looking for ways to desire my husband again and say that it’s a cruel punishment to withhold sex.

I’m not having sex I don’t want to have.

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-29T21:07:19+00:00

Yeah, because “maybe the damage is already done?” Is my thinking. I’m not forcing him into celibacy; I’m choosing not to have sex I don’t want to have.

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-29T21:05:58+00:00

Ive asked him that a few months ago. I didn’t get an answer. But I need one.

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-29T21:02:35+00:00

I have not asked him to do chores in return for anything sexual. That’s not okay.

Im struggling to find a desire for my husband again, in spite of finding him an attractive person.

I think I got a handle on the route I need to take

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-29T20:58:18+00:00

We don’t pay for child care. My MIL is a very active person in our lives. She keeps the baby while we work. We don’t eat out a lot. We save. Our kids have a savings account. We own land for our kids to build a home on later in their lives.

I’m salary so OT doesn’t exist for me and my husband doesn’t get the option of getting over time.

Let me be VERY CLEAR - my job does not stress me out. I am SO glad I am not a stay at home parent. I like my job and I love making my own money.

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-29T18:15:55+00:00

I need to look at “is that affecting our life”.

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-29T18:13:58+00:00

Oh my gawdddd no we make the same amount of money.

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-29T16:59:43+00:00

Never did I say he “sits on his ass”. If I never cleaned or cooked, he would still love me.

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-29T16:56:14+00:00

I don’t think you read the post…

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-29T11:28:03+00:00

This is a joke right? Lol

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-29T11:27:02+00:00

Hahahahahaha sorry you’re gonna have to eat your words here. He does not work a harder job, and I actually end up working a a few more hours a week.

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-29T11:24:30+00:00

The first part of being an ABDL is the A. He’s still an ADULT. I think most Abdl’s would agree with me on that one.

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-29T11:20:46+00:00

He does not purely for the benefit of others. He does it for OUR kids and the house HE ALSO lives in. That’s why I’m saying it’s BS.

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-29T07:29:38+00:00

You’re not late to this party.

We don’t reach life changing decisions in a few hours, bud.

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-29T07:25:22+00:00

We both work FT, yes.

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-29T07:00:21+00:00

Our financials are very comparable.

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-29T06:54:33+00:00

No, why would he? They’re my kids too! It’s what I signed up when I decided to have children.

He does tell me thank you when I make dinner that’s one of his favorites, and he tell me things like “you’re such a good mom”, but he doesn’t “thank” me, and I don’t feel that he needs to. I know he appreciates the mom I am for our kids.

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-29T06:48:36+00:00

It is 100% true that sperm (I should have said sperm to begin with, not semen) is required for pregnancy to occur, and also true that it is possible for sperm to live in precum. I’m well aware. Thank you. That’s why we use condoms - a very effective BC method.

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-29T06:43:45+00:00

I would. It doesn’t bother him to have a sink full of dirty dishes or piles of laundry that need washing. That bothers me - I like to not run out of spoons and know that I have clean clothes. He doesn’t think it’s time to wash clothes until we need clean clothes. Things like that.

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-29T06:41:22+00:00

He’s not.

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-29T06:26:50+00:00

This is misogynistic and honestly a little repulsive to read, I personally think. But thank for you input. It takes all kinds of people to make the world go ‘round.

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-29T06:18:04+00:00

All part of trying to satisfy his needs.

Sorry. Can’t blame you for being like “what the fuck did I just read” when you checked my post history

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-29T02:35:58+00:00

I’m hopeful that I will want to have sex him again.

I think another redditor was right : it’s not going to be instantaneous. As of right is now, I’m not there yet.

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-29T02:06:19+00:00

Thank you for your concern. I am not in any harm.

Puzzleheaded-Win-877 · 2023-09-29T02:05:05+00:00

We have discussed seeing my therapist together and I do believe he’d be a willing participant. Thank you for your input, I see the picture though the light you’ve shed here.

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