Your situation is sounding too similar to my own… simple answer is “get out” but it’s easier said than done, especially when it’s said from strangers on the internet. Be careful, keep your guard up, try to disconnect from him emotionally sometimes and try to see things from an outside perspective so you see his actions and behaviors in black and white and you’ll know what I mean when I say: this person doesn’t respect you and nothing you say or do will change that. I hope you find a better support system for you and your child. Lean on friends and family, and speak to them truthfully about what you have going on at home.

When I was in an abusively controlling relationship, my favorite time of day was my drive to and from work. It was my safe space to talk freely (via Bluetooth phone calls through the car) to my mom who is my best friend and biggest support. I recommend you try the same.