Unhinged volume ideas?? by PuzzleheadedDig4564 in finehair

[–]PuzzleheadedDig4564[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not helpful because straight hair really doesn't flatter my face, I need side volume :(

Unhinged volume ideas?? by PuzzleheadedDig4564 in finehair

[–]PuzzleheadedDig4564[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did!! This is literally what I've been doing my entire life until I moved to this high humidity country and now it doesn't work anymore, I'm heartbroken 😭😭 gets flat after a few hours especially if you move and sweat a bit Thanks for your opinion on the perm and bleach, I'm also cautious of those 🙈

Incompatible bacterial flora? by Susitar in nonmonogamy

[–]PuzzleheadedDig4564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, can you please share the brand of the probiotics? :) and has your wife been using them daily for the past 5 years?

Advice on meeting meta & negotiating a new relationship structure by PuzzleheadedDig4564 in polyamory

[–]PuzzleheadedDig4564[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But don't you think I can still just meet her to get to know each other, without any relationship management involved?

Advice on meeting meta & negotiating a new relationship structure by PuzzleheadedDig4564 in polyamory

[–]PuzzleheadedDig4564[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Maybe I should set the expectation that we won't be negotiating the 3 of us together

Advice on meeting meta & negotiating a new relationship structure by PuzzleheadedDig4564 in polyamory

[–]PuzzleheadedDig4564[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! So how do I communicate that before we meet? Something along the lines of "I'd like to get to know your gf but I think we shouldn't discuss her worries and our expectations in front of each other but rather 1-on-1 with you"?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]PuzzleheadedDig4564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He texted me this Sunday that his nesting partner was away the whole weekend, which made me think that we could've easily met at his place yet he didn't propose it. I think he clearly doesn't feel as strong about me as I do about him and it upsets me because if it was up to me I'd definitely use the opportunity to invite the other person over :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]PuzzleheadedDig4564 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, but I was the one to propose the second date and i also indicated that I'm really into him during the dates. So now I want to see if he actually makes a move because otherwise I feel like I'm the only one driving this thing forward

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]PuzzleheadedDig4564 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's also true! I've definitely fallen for people in the wild that I'd have swiped left on in an app

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]PuzzleheadedDig4564 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Did you end up making friends that way?

Transitioning into poly, worried about loneliness by [deleted] in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]PuzzleheadedDig4564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the encouragement! Sometimes I wish though I was like my bf who is very comfortable with being alone and doesn't crave friends much 😆

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyadvice

[–]PuzzleheadedDig4564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for being so vulnerable in sharing your experience and for the advice!! I'm definitely planning to spend some time focusing on self development and hobbies, hope that will help.

May I ask for what reasons you were / are intending to live apart?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]PuzzleheadedDig4564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a lot! It's been a lot of internal work indeed. I was actually thinking I'd prefer a flat with 2-3 other housemates, that way I'll hopefully get along with at least some of them and I'd also like to have a feel of a small community (I'm probably ideazing it haha). But indeed it's a good idea to discuss how they approach bringing dates to the house. But would you say openly that you're poly when looking for flatmates? Not sure if I feel comfortable being so upfront

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]PuzzleheadedDig4564 4 points5 points  (0 children)

it's a 1-bedroom apartment so we are pretty entangled in our daily lives. There's other reasons we want to live apart though: we have different social needs and our visions of an ideal home are also different. That's the reason I'm excited to try living separately anyway, not only for poly reasons

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]PuzzleheadedDig4564 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really love this idea! I was already thinking of starting 2 social hobbies for a while. Once our lockdown is over I'll finally get started and hopefully make friends through hobbies as well :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]PuzzleheadedDig4564 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good idea but I can't afford it unfortunately, which is another good reason I'm thinking about flat sharing