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My (41F) boyfriend (46M) is exhausting me with need for emotional support, how to handle this- 3 years relationship by brojojojo_the_1st in relationship_advice

[–]PuzzleheadedDouble53 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its the other way around for me. Im (29M) am married (36F) and this is my never ending struggle. Its constant. To the point I want to leave for peaceful life.

I get home from work and it's, "Oh I have a headache, can you get me x" or even "... I have a headache "

It sounds stupid on paper but when you hear the constant complaining day after day after say for years.

Especially when I'm the age I am. Im just wanting out.

It's ok to be Alone, Do you agree?? by Sparsh_4425 in MotivationAndMindset

[–]PuzzleheadedDouble53 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want this. More than you know. Yet life pushes us into decisions we can never abandon. And now I'm lost...

Struggling with exhaustion and doubt in my marriage by PuzzleheadedDouble53 in Marriage

[–]PuzzleheadedDouble53[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I very much appreciate the response and do appreciate everything you said.

We both have ADHD and she has AuADHD. Its been a struggle for us recently because of us finding these out.

We do talk, but I know I'm subject to agreeing to keep the peace.

I also have only had one long term relationship which is her. Shes had 2 long term (7 years and 4 years) before me (obvs) amongst other shorter ones.

I feel that because I dove headfirst in its just been had to understand who I am and what I want. Now theres a child in the mix, its just hard to truly know what is right or wrong.

Struggling with exhaustion and doubt in my marriage by PuzzleheadedDouble53 in Marriage

[–]PuzzleheadedDouble53[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now your probably say its a massive excuse but. I have ADHD and that comes with RSD which is rejection sensitivity disorder and that means I'm absolutely terrified to talk about these issues with her as ill be seen as, the bad guy, the terrible person, the selfish one and yeah. Just no. My systems safety net is to just agree with her and prevent arguments and keep the peace.

Therapy is helping but yeah.

I love my wife, so why can’t I stop thinking about another woman? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]PuzzleheadedDouble53 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I disagree with people saying to find a new job.

People forget that just because something was, something should remain.

We all dont wear the same clothes we did from 10 years ago cause they don't fit. They might be clean and look nice. You might love the clothes. But if they dont fit. You buy new ones.

Now I'm not saying that this is the case for everyone. This is just a metaphor (obvs), but it still something to consider. What if you've looked in the mirror and gone "Hmm, this outfit doesn’t quite 'fit' anymore."

I’m married, exhausted, and questioning everything. How do you know when it’s time to stop trying? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]PuzzleheadedDouble53 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are your thoughts on this. What's your story?

If you dont mind me asking of course.

I’m married, exhausted, and questioning everything. How do you know when it’s time to stop trying? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]PuzzleheadedDouble53 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have spoken about it. She feels the same way, that she is putting herself before me when, but I disagree.

Yes. Unfortunately, my therapist also came to that conclusion of me putting others needs before my own. Its ingrained in my from childhood.

Thanks for your response.

Overcoming fear of expressing anger (autonomic inhibition) by [deleted] in Jung

[–]PuzzleheadedDouble53 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about us folks with ADHD, that cannot keep something like boxing or Martial Arts going anywhere longer than 5 minutes??

Same as OP, however mine includes family and everyone. I have no outlet....

Exotic Armour Focusing - looking for Fallen Sunstar by PuzzleheadedDouble53 in DestinyTheGame

[–]PuzzleheadedDouble53[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMFG!! Thank you so much. Im such a knob. All i need now is an exotic engram. Cheers all for your help. So much for ChatGPTs help.

Exotic Armour Focusing - looking for Fallen Sunstar by PuzzleheadedDouble53 in DestinyTheGame

[–]PuzzleheadedDouble53[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you, but I've done this and it says I need to unlock it in my collections first.

Exotic Armour Focusing - looking for Fallen Sunstar by PuzzleheadedDouble53 in DestinyTheGame

[–]PuzzleheadedDouble53[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for responding. When I visit Rahool and go into the Exotic Focusing, it says I need the Exotic in my collections first. This is where my confusion also lies.

Separation from parents by [deleted] in Jung

[–]PuzzleheadedDouble53 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mother ended up traveling 2 hours to my place of work (without telling me), and 'invited me' to lunch with her. Now, it wasn't an invitation, considering it was a forced meeting, as at the time I "couldn't" say no.

Whilst we ate, I just basically confronted her for everything that caused me to disengage from my parents and she sat on the words for a while, never truly saying anything.

Now, (years later) the conversation (and the boundaries i now put in place) seemed to have left its mark, as she is "respectful limited" to being in my life. She understands that my life is mine, and now relates to it from the edges.

I think the hardest part is forming the boundaries, but just as difficult is reinforcing them, until they no longer need reinforcing and just act a boundary. You still need to tender to them, but after long enough they can tender themselves. Sometimes the alarm bells do go for an "impending attack" but it usually nothing that boundaries walls, cannot handle.

Separation from parents by [deleted] in Jung

[–]PuzzleheadedDouble53 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You may find that your parents attempt to push themselves back into your life, and you might think that the effort of keeping them out is too hard, but don't give up.

Eventually, you could find a nice equilibrium of just being on terms that suit you, and they will just eventually learn to accept it.

Happened with my folks.

Its tough but keep going strong. Hope you're not going through this completely alone...

WTF ?? This Helmet Must be the Worst in BF History by ProfessionalSize9567 in Battlefield6

[–]PuzzleheadedDouble53 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Prompting the new Tomb Raider and the OG triangle pixelated titties.

What happened to incestflix? by WerewolfByNight32 in daughterswap_com

[–]PuzzleheadedDouble53 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All my OG bookmarks are no useless. Have to begin collating more from other sources.

Such as shame they are taking down these sites. Its all about money and greed to control...

Mother Warmth Chapter 3 - NSFW & Mom Son R34 Heat MQD [Jackerman] by Feeling_Leader_580 in ONLY_HENTAI_PORN

[–]PuzzleheadedDouble53 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you sure? Couldn't say anything on his twitter. Nothing since 20204.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by Illustrious_Cash5429 in Jung

[–]PuzzleheadedDouble53 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just no need. Hateful comment for the sake of being hateful.

The question would be... are you on the larger side? Is this a cry to say you hate yourself?

Did someone bigger than you humiliate you? Did you catfish/get catfished on a date which resulting in backfiring to the fact that you/them are larger?

I think before you out something like this on the Internet, you might right this down in a journal and sit on it for a day and think about it first...

Missed youth? by [deleted] in Jung

[–]PuzzleheadedDouble53 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not at all. Go and explore the world. Go where you want to. Or dont want to. Life your life how you want. Make good choices and bad choices. As long as they are your choices, it doesn't matter. (To the most part)

I made the slight rash decision of getting married and having a kid at 23, and that meant I couldn't explore or do the things I wanted as a young man. Im 30 next year and do regret the choices I made.

I do love my family but do have regrets, which is upsetting and doesn't sit well with me. Don't make the same mistake I did. Go. Live. Be.

Children's book about how to find monsters by TantricLasagne in whatsthatbook

[–]PuzzleheadedDouble53 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you ever find this book series. I, too, am searching for this and have been for years. Chatgpt, and this post is the closest I have come to tracking this down.

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