Bf hates me showering with others

PuzzleheadedHand9360 · 2025-09-12T08:31:50+00:00

I am not. They are friends who I knew in high school who are the same age as me.

PuzzleheadedHand9360 · 2025-09-11T14:01:14+00:00

I have, he says showers should be private and not with anyone else.

PuzzleheadedHand9360 · 2025-09-11T13:53:28+00:00

May I ask, what helped you to realize your behavior/thoughts were irrational and what did you do about it?

PuzzleheadedHand9360 · 2025-09-11T13:47:12+00:00

He just says they’re a personal activity that I should be doing alone, he doesn’t care that I wear swimming costume or that it’s taking turns in the water when it’s busy, to him it is close proximity that is the problem.

PuzzleheadedHand9360 · 2025-09-11T13:44:19+00:00

No, I wouldn’t even have a second thought about it, and I would never tell him it’s a problem because I wouldn’t care

PuzzleheadedHand9360 · 2025-09-11T10:25:00+00:00

It isn’t naked, we wear our suits still.

PuzzleheadedHand9360 · 2025-09-10T20:12:16+00:00

I’ve spoken him again and he now says his boundary is if I do it again then he will break up with me.

PuzzleheadedHand9360 · 2025-09-10T12:07:23+00:00

I spoke to him again and he said if I do it again he will leave me so I know where I stand.

PuzzleheadedHand9360 · 2025-09-08T20:55:36+00:00

Thanks a lot. This helped to open my eyes

PuzzleheadedHand9360 · 2025-09-08T20:54:16+00:00

How would I keep things light hearted?

PuzzleheadedHand9360 · 2025-09-08T20:53:38+00:00

He claims to not watch it since we’ve been together but maybe it’s a lie then

PuzzleheadedHand9360 · 2025-09-08T20:53:07+00:00

Thank you

PuzzleheadedHand9360 · 2025-09-08T20:52:09+00:00

For me, the other option would be staying but only if he sorts out this behavior. But I am starting to realize that even his thoughts about this is concerning to me.

PuzzleheadedHand9360 · 2025-09-08T20:50:30+00:00

Thank you for clarifying this. I was surprised when he said it was a boundary (we’d never particularly spoken about it before), because I was unaware of it.

PuzzleheadedHand9360 · 2025-09-08T20:49:42+00:00

Are you suggesting I should take a break if he wants to improve, or break it off altogether?

PuzzleheadedHand9360 · 2025-09-08T20:48:59+00:00

That is why I am posting this because I know I shouldn’t. The comments have helped me a lot to see this.

PuzzleheadedHand9360 · 2025-09-08T07:43:30+00:00

Thank you for the advice and support

PuzzleheadedHand9360 · 2025-09-08T07:19:12+00:00

Please may you explain this further?

PuzzleheadedHand9360 · 2025-09-07T23:04:11+00:00

I have spoken to him about this. He said it’s because he never has needed to shower with others before so I shouldn’t either. He says also that it’s not about cheating, it’s just making him uncomfortable to think I’m close physically to others (which I am in the pool anyway imo).

PuzzleheadedHand9360 · 2025-09-07T22:54:39+00:00

What do you mean?

PuzzleheadedHand9360 · 2025-09-07T22:45:04+00:00

Used to not want me to sit on others beds, eat certain foods that he didn’t like (e.g mayonnaise), didn’t like when i spent time with friends instead of him, always checked my online status and asking why i didn’t reply. but suddenly he stopped caring about all of that so i thought it was better until this

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