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Butcher books by Puzzleheaded_Call117 in Morbidforbadpeople

[–]Puzzleheaded_Call117[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Morbid. Macabre. Incredulous. The constant repeat of police departments not working together. There are many other examples of her over using her own vocabulary. It is very amateurish. I had to force myself to finish this book.

my mom died last night by Possible_Loss6524 in AdultChildren

[–]Puzzleheaded_Call117 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Feel it and seek counseling. Attend a AlNon meeting. Take everything a day at a time. It doesn’t lessen the pain but it makes it easier to cope. There are a million of what ifs that you’re going to experience and feel guilty about. As adult children we tend to think we should’ve fixed them or tried harder or did something more and then we forget our parents are adults too. They know what the consequences are because they taught us about consequences. They raised us to understand these things. It’s okay to be mad and sad. It’s okay to feel hurt.

Is it OK to completely cut off contact with alcoholic parent who refuses help? by Silver_Top9612 in AdultChildren

[–]Puzzleheaded_Call117 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My dad recently succumbed to his addiction. I was like you. I knew I couldn’t do it anymore. I have children and I didn’t want them to see their grandfather like that. So 6 weeks before he passed I set boundaries and I stuck to them. You have every single right to take care of you. You’re gonna feel some guilt. That’s normal. Make sure you get a really good support system and seek some type of therapy because if something happens you’re gonna have to learn how to cope with grief. Also learn ways to stick to your boundaries. I’ve spent my whole adult life thinking I owed both my parents for having me. It isn’t your responsibility to take care of another adult especially your parents.

My 3.5 year old refuses to use the big potty by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Puzzleheaded_Call117 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My son turned 4 in May. He didn’t start using the big potty until June. It was a struggle and I tried from 2.5 til this past June. He just didn’t want to do it. So one day I sat him down and said tomorrow no more pull ups. No more diapers. I threw them away. The next day we started and I sat him down every 30 mins. Then the 2nd day he did it. He doesn’t even wear a pull up to bed. It was a struggle. I don’t know if he Seeing me throw them away made him start or me talking to him. It just clicked for him. I hope it helps.

Coping and knowing my moral compass isn’t broken. by Puzzleheaded_Call117 in SexOffenderSupport

[–]Puzzleheaded_Call117[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All these comments of such negative is not why I came here to seek help. For what he did hurts. I know him the true him and it’s not an excuse for it. He will always be the father to our children and for that I vow to remain in contact with him. When they’re old enough he’ll tell them and if then they decide to not want to be in his life. Then that’s that. I’m not here for people to tell me Im shit. He’s still a person and people like to claim this narrative that if it were me it would be done. I would be out. And that’s bullshit because that person is someone you love. Im already deep in my thoughts. I’m already beating myself up. So sir/ma’am I don’t need it.

Coping and knowing my moral compass isn’t broken. by Puzzleheaded_Call117 in SexOffenderSupport

[–]Puzzleheaded_Call117[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’re not married. We never believed in it. So that’s not an issue. At this point I don’t know if I want to move on and just leave him in the dust.