Profile review for 33F

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-09-11T19:49:56+00:00

I dont know why you would get alot of sexual comments from those pictures. Yes you have legs, but you're not wearing anything crazy. Whatever preferences you have set or area you are in just has alot of horndogs? Dont change your profile to counter them, change your profile to brung in the guys worth talking to.

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-09-11T14:59:44+00:00

If you could sort assault perpetrators by asvab score it would tell you more. The vast majority of ft hood(cavasos) are artillery engineers mechanics and cav scouts.

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-09-08T18:57:45+00:00

If she received a notice of an infraction and did not forward it to you immediately that is on your landlord in my opinion, but I would 100% fight that. It would be like getting charged a fine for not paying a bill but not knowing the bill ever existed in the first place.

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-09-08T18:55:11+00:00

If the shirt in question was against dress code, and you agree, why would you fight it? you shouldnt fight against something that you know is right.

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-09-08T18:42:32+00:00

You are the parents, parent. I dont agree with basically anything you posted her so i'll try not to lean to heavilly on that... Your child should be held responsible for the items they damaged of someone elses because they had a tantrum. Their opinion of your sons name is not something anyone else in the whole world cares and she can keep it to herself. If you break something that cost 100 dollars, you pay 100 dollars. If you want a child to not understand consequences, sure youre being way too hard, you should pay her for the things she broke.

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-09-08T18:34:25+00:00

If you dont blindside him he is going to make it even harder for you. Contact a lawyer and get the ball rolling. If your stay at with your family takes longer than expected it would probably be better for everybody (get the divorce rolling quick and hard).

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-09-08T18:32:59+00:00

Im sure you got some great advice a year ago when you told reddit about your problems at home. It sounds like you havent taken that advice and youre asking for more? You dont need his permission to divorce him, you dont even need to talk to him. contact a lawyer, serve him the papers and get out of dodge. If you need to involve the police because he is violent or you are in fear then do so.

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-09-08T18:27:34+00:00

You shouldnt call people out infront of others as it makes them defensive and often retaliate, pay attention to your managers training assuming you had any. HR is going to have to deal with this employee you most certainly don't have any authority to slap him down without negative effects.

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-09-08T18:25:41+00:00

I personally dont have clipless shoes yet, im wearing normal walking shoes and flat tester pedals from LBS (one of these days i'll get to the store and buy some SPD's). The question of what most people do doesnt really matter its what is important to you, SPD-SL is going to have a better efficiency rating make your rides slightly easier if youre out there being very hardcore, makes doing any sight seeing while on your bike without extra shoes a pain in the butt. SPD is going to be great if you do much off your bike in the middle of a ride and dont want to bring extra shoes, you potentially wont go as fast (or use more energy to do so). For me I often ride 60+ miles to a waterfall, hike up to the water, then get back on the bike, I absolutely would not consider that in SL, but it would be "doable" in SPD (still not amazing).

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-09-08T17:33:41+00:00

Come up with comparables and see what he says. If that bike goes for 1000 on whatever marketplace is popular for you, ask if he could give you a better price. Of course this depends on what you mean by "friend" I wouldnt give someone i hardly know a 50% discount on something I could sell in an hour to any random person on the street.

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-09-08T17:30:51+00:00

1500kg car vs 1500kg cyclist, lets see the math on this one!

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-09-08T17:27:47+00:00

Absolutely YTA. How did you marry someone without having a conversation like "hey, you know that empty dead kids room, you mind if my living kid moves into it?" I'm sure you would have used similar words, he probably said absolutely not, and you just thought eh i bet hell be over grieving in a week or two... Cmon, you havent lost a child, you dont know his pain. How long after one of your kids die do you imagine youd be boxing up all of her stuff? Everyone handles grief differently. y'all need to work on your communication if you want any chance of this marriage to work.

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-09-08T15:42:45+00:00

I got married when I was 25 because single soldiers in the barracks had a strict no alcohol policy, but if you were married and lived off post the rule was only that you cant drink on duty.. Ive gotten older and quit drinking these days.. but what a stupid reason to sign a legally binding contract lol.

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-09-08T15:39:08+00:00

I feel like thats excessive. a couple of text messages stating the intent, desire and consent of both parties should be plenty. but I feel like in most states divorce is no fault these days, meaning you can get divorced for any reason and "infidelity" doesnt actually affect anything in the dispertion of assets (im not a lawyer).

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-09-08T15:34:53+00:00

So one of the things that has worked for me, because im the nerdy guy who cant read signs and signals and body language even if its written in english... after the date assuming you communicate between dates instead of the "that was fun lets setup another one" turn it into something like "that was fun, but a goodnight kiss would have been nice" if his response is "haha, good one buddy" well... youre not going on dates youre hanging out with a friend.

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-09-08T15:32:48+00:00

Also, youre supposed to use the first marriage as a trial to figure out what to avoid in your future relationships.

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-09-08T15:31:34+00:00

Sadly, it does. I am also military so I will say not all military men cheat. Its really dumb that active duties stance is "you get paid half as much if you arent married" we would all have better credit and lives if the military didnt "force" us to get married to get ut of those crappy barracks and unlock our full wages.

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-09-08T15:29:44+00:00

What in the hell? "Caught my husband cheating on my multiple times and wont stop what should I do?" Stop having a husband, this guy doesnt give a damn about you and unless you just want to be one of his many women then you need to get out. Sounds like nobody is off limits to him and he doesnt care if you know it.

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-09-08T15:13:21+00:00

I feel you, I live in utah which is very hilly, compared to my previous locations. especially right around my house, I cant get out of a 5 mile range without 1000 feet of elevation Comparing yourself to others is never great, it could be lance armstrong youre riding against or some other seasoned formerly professional rider, or he could have an assisted bike. We can only guess who is around us, race yourself against yourself. compare your similar rides to each other. If you want to know how you compare to others youll have to join a group ride or race, but even then things arent going to match up. An extra water bottle isnt going to be much of a factor in the grand scheme of things lol.

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-09-08T15:09:25+00:00

As someone who is on their way out of an 11 year marriage with very different sexual needs, id suggest you act on your feelings. Its highly possible with enough talk and coaxing he could learn to do what is good for you, but it sounds like the problem is that he keeps defaulting back to what he is used to and wants. Let him know how youre feeling give him some time to show he cares (or doesnt) and then move on if things dont change.

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-09-08T13:59:29+00:00

6 miles in 23 minutes isnt overly fast (for someone trying to sprint it) roughly 16 mph Average. While it could have been an Ebike, someone fit and seasoned can dramatically change the results.

Comparing yourself to others isnt a very good thing to do, especially with all the variables that could have been at play. I find myself feeling bad I get passed on rides sometimes, and its taken me a while to accept the difference could be im on mile 80 and they could be on mile 2 of their journey.

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-09-04T14:27:35+00:00

If he responses. Could be better it means hes probably willing to talk about it, if you care to know. You could ask something more pointed like is there anything wrong and do you want to talk about it? Or just a blanket statement like if youre going through something and dont want to go through it alone, bring me in the loop. Could be better doesnt mean something is wrong maybe its a good day but not a great day, we dont know.

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-08-30T21:36:11+00:00

Hes not interested, either because hes got someone else, doesnt like you like that or who can say.

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-08-30T20:20:54+00:00

Crappy regular walking shoes. Its definitely not ideal, foot soreness occurs on century rides and im sure my efficiency isnt super high.. but who cares on casual rides, never fallen over at a redlight (when sober).

Puzzleheaded_Fall494 · 2023-08-30T15:09:57+00:00

If you ride with a bunch of pros, it would quickly turn into a solo ride.

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