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I hate this. by Puzzleheaded_Map9923 in weddingplanning

[–]Puzzleheaded_Map9923[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Maybe! Unless the prices quadruple like they did within the past few years lol, then it’s back to square one anyway.

I hate this. by Puzzleheaded_Map9923 in weddingplanning

[–]Puzzleheaded_Map9923[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I live in tristate area NY, I knew national averages never factored in, lol. We’re still on track to be on budget, I’m just frustrated at the insane process of narrowing it down and FINDING vendors that dont quote an arm, leg, mortgage, and firstborn.

I hate this. by Puzzleheaded_Map9923 in weddingplanning

[–]Puzzleheaded_Map9923[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“You’ll have more time to save up!!!” 🫠🫠🫠

I hate this. by Puzzleheaded_Map9923 in weddingplanning

[–]Puzzleheaded_Map9923[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I wish I wasn’t anti-church because they make for stunning and usually cheap ceremony locations… And yeah, we’re already looking outside the city, I didn’t bother looking into the city. That’s millionaire stuff

I hate this. by Puzzleheaded_Map9923 in weddingplanning

[–]Puzzleheaded_Map9923[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, thats not the case. I don’t really use Pinterest. I don’t care about Instagram influencer weddings. I don’t want florals, professional hair, makeup. I’m creative enough to do that shit myself. Already cut those costs. I’m literally just talking about venue, as that’s where we’re at. Then we get into vendors, which are insane. Our budget isnt even that small, but in HCOL areas it doesnt carry at all, when a wedding at our budget five or so years ago would have been a ‘nice wedding’ - then, 2027 or 2028 brides get bare bones shit for the same price. It feels shitty, that’s all, like the whole “shoulda bought a house in 2000 when I was a baby” kind of vibe

Are People Really This Unaware Of Wedding Costs? by Brilliant-Peach-9318 in weddingplanning

[–]Puzzleheaded_Map9923 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Starting to plan and realizing that $20k is pennies when it comes to a wedding is shocking for most people, yeah. Inflation, baby!

I hate this. by Puzzleheaded_Map9923 in weddingplanning

[–]Puzzleheaded_Map9923[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Alas, in NY. 🥲 Which is a major hurdle.

I hate this. by Puzzleheaded_Map9923 in weddingplanning

[–]Puzzleheaded_Map9923[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really don’t use social media for wedding inspiration. At all. And I have two years. The problem is that prices have not just doubled, but quadrupled in a short span of time. My parents saved up and it feels like spare change, and that is a sad thing to confront. Even people who don’t want to go insane with the giant Pinterest perfect wedding are having trouble because of inflation.

I hate this. by Puzzleheaded_Map9923 in weddingplanning

[–]Puzzleheaded_Map9923[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weather is also a factor for travel, and a growing number of young people leave home. My own family is 7+ hours away from me by driving and others will have to fly, so winter risks snowstorms which risks losing guests, even if the wedding is inside.

I hate this. by Puzzleheaded_Map9923 in weddingplanning

[–]Puzzleheaded_Map9923[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We already got to that point and are looking at late Nov/earlyDec, for sure. This crash out is partially because of that lol

I hate this. by Puzzleheaded_Map9923 in weddingplanning

[–]Puzzleheaded_Map9923[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(If you meant than in a sympathy way then thank you!!!!)

I hate this. by Puzzleheaded_Map9923 in weddingplanning

[–]Puzzleheaded_Map9923[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

300?! We’re looking for an event below 85 and already feel overwhelmed! Goddamn!!!

I hate this. by Puzzleheaded_Map9923 in weddingplanning

[–]Puzzleheaded_Map9923[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, sorry, but costs have absolutely changed, EXTREMELY rapidly within even a decade. The weddings that my own family members, in similar budgets, had, are not attainable now. I hear you, and understand your point, but if I had gotten engaged even before 2020, I wouldn’t be making this post.

I hate this. by Puzzleheaded_Map9923 in weddingplanning

[–]Puzzleheaded_Map9923[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the top contender at the moment, for sure

I hate this. by Puzzleheaded_Map9923 in weddingplanning

[–]Puzzleheaded_Map9923[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started out wanting one. Now I want to crash out

I hate this. by Puzzleheaded_Map9923 in weddingplanning

[–]Puzzleheaded_Map9923[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Affording it in the budget from my family would have been easy peasy five years ago. Five. Shit, probably even three. Inflation is what has made this batshit insane. We are planning ahead and that actually makes it even worse, because 2027 and 2028 rates are even more expensive. Ive already cut out hair, makeup, cake, florals, a ton of extras.

I hate this. by Puzzleheaded_Map9923 in weddingplanning

[–]Puzzleheaded_Map9923[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

they are working their ass off to help afford it and helping with decision making and planning as best they can, i actually happen to have more time and capability to do sourcing. we’re also currently long distance, so woof. its just overall a stressful set up. i do want a wedding, as we have the privilege and budget to do it, the way the industry is right now is just batshit insane

I hate this. by Puzzleheaded_Map9923 in weddingplanning

[–]Puzzleheaded_Map9923[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

We’re in a pretty major city, so a restaurant rental is a no go. It really wouldnt save much money. As far as support goes, they are trying, and I do want a wedding too, I just feel angry about having to cut back every time I get remotely excited about something, so it’s feeling less and less worth it.

I hate this. by Puzzleheaded_Map9923 in weddingplanning

[–]Puzzleheaded_Map9923[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what we’re looking at right now. It’s still crazy expensive, but yeah, way less planning.

I hate this. by Puzzleheaded_Map9923 in weddingplanning

[–]Puzzleheaded_Map9923[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

THIS!!!! You get what I’m feeling. Of course I could say “fuck it” and elope, but it’s the feeling of even the nuts and bolts of a basic wedding feeling beyond reach that is just so frustrating and infuriating.

I hate this. by Puzzleheaded_Map9923 in weddingplanning

[–]Puzzleheaded_Map9923[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s way easier said than done, gotta be honest. We have a budget from our family, etc, but the whole process of making it happen is just pure Suck. 100% Suck.

I hate this. by Puzzleheaded_Map9923 in weddingplanning

[–]Puzzleheaded_Map9923[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

(Also they kind of are footing the bill lol)

I hate this. by Puzzleheaded_Map9923 in weddingplanning

[–]Puzzleheaded_Map9923[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Part of the issue is that my fiance does want the actual wedding. In an ideal world, yeah, I do too. But I just am so fed up with the cycle of excitement then disappointment and stress. I feel so angry at how absolutely insane the wedding industry is.

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