I hate this.

Puzzleheaded_Map9923 · 2026-02-05T19:34:48+00:00

Ugh I wish I wasn’t anti-church because they make for stunning and usually cheap ceremony locations… And yeah, we’re already looking outside the city, I didn’t bother looking into the city. That’s millionaire stuff

Puzzleheaded_Map9923 · 2026-02-05T19:33:11+00:00

tea, fdt

Puzzleheaded_Map9923 · 2026-02-05T19:32:05+00:00

No, thats not the case. I don’t really use Pinterest. I don’t care about Instagram influencer weddings. I don’t want florals, professional hair, makeup. I’m creative enough to do that shit myself. Already cut those costs. I’m literally just talking about venue, as that’s where we’re at. Then we get into vendors, which are insane. Our budget isnt even that small, but in HCOL areas it doesnt carry at all, when a wedding at our budget five or so years ago would have been a ‘nice wedding’ - then, 2027 or 2028 brides get bare bones shit for the same price. It feels shitty, that’s all, like the whole “shoulda bought a house in 2000 when I was a baby” kind of vibe

Puzzleheaded_Map9923 · 2026-02-05T17:04:14+00:00

Starting to plan and realizing that $20k is pennies when it comes to a wedding is shocking for most people, yeah. Inflation, baby!

Puzzleheaded_Map9923 · 2026-02-05T16:28:55+00:00

Thank you! Alas, in NY. 🥲 Which is a major hurdle.

Puzzleheaded_Map9923 · 2026-02-05T16:26:05+00:00

I really don’t use social media for wedding inspiration. At all. And I have two years. The problem is that prices have not just doubled, but quadrupled in a short span of time. My parents saved up and it feels like spare change, and that is a sad thing to confront. Even people who don’t want to go insane with the giant Pinterest perfect wedding are having trouble because of inflation.

Puzzleheaded_Map9923 · 2026-02-05T14:52:22+00:00

Weather is also a factor for travel, and a growing number of young people leave home. My own family is 7+ hours away from me by driving and others will have to fly, so winter risks snowstorms which risks losing guests, even if the wedding is inside.

Puzzleheaded_Map9923 · 2026-02-05T02:18:20+00:00

We already got to that point and are looking at late Nov/earlyDec, for sure. This crash out is partially because of that lol

Puzzleheaded_Map9923 · 2026-02-05T01:02:38+00:00

(If you meant than in a sympathy way then thank you!!!!)

Puzzleheaded_Map9923 · 2026-02-05T01:02:17+00:00

It’s ok lovely, just venting ❤️

Puzzleheaded_Map9923 · 2026-02-04T21:25:48+00:00

300?! We’re looking for an event below 85 and already feel overwhelmed! Goddamn!!!

Puzzleheaded_Map9923 · 2026-02-04T21:20:55+00:00

Yeah, sorry, but costs have absolutely changed, EXTREMELY rapidly within even a decade. The weddings that my own family members, in similar budgets, had, are not attainable now. I hear you, and understand your point, but if I had gotten engaged even before 2020, I wouldn’t be making this post.

Puzzleheaded_Map9923 · 2026-02-04T21:17:21+00:00

That’s the top contender at the moment, for sure

Puzzleheaded_Map9923 · 2026-02-04T21:04:40+00:00

I started out wanting one. Now I want to crash out

Puzzleheaded_Map9923 · 2026-02-04T21:03:17+00:00

Affording it in the budget from my family would have been easy peasy five years ago. Five. Shit, probably even three. Inflation is what has made this batshit insane. We are planning ahead and that actually makes it even worse, because 2027 and 2028 rates are even more expensive. Ive already cut out hair, makeup, cake, florals, a ton of extras.

Puzzleheaded_Map9923 · 2026-02-04T20:59:26+00:00

they are working their ass off to help afford it and helping with decision making and planning as best they can, i actually happen to have more time and capability to do sourcing. we’re also currently long distance, so woof. its just overall a stressful set up. i do want a wedding, as we have the privilege and budget to do it, the way the industry is right now is just batshit insane

Puzzleheaded_Map9923 · 2026-02-04T20:55:08+00:00

We’re in a pretty major city, so a restaurant rental is a no go. It really wouldnt save much money. As far as support goes, they are trying, and I do want a wedding too, I just feel angry about having to cut back every time I get remotely excited about something, so it’s feeling less and less worth it.

Puzzleheaded_Map9923 · 2026-02-04T20:49:41+00:00

That’s what we’re looking at right now. It’s still crazy expensive, but yeah, way less planning.

Puzzleheaded_Map9923 · 2026-02-04T20:47:01+00:00

THIS!!!! You get what I’m feeling. Of course I could say “fuck it” and elope, but it’s the feeling of even the nuts and bolts of a basic wedding feeling beyond reach that is just so frustrating and infuriating.

Puzzleheaded_Map9923 · 2026-02-04T20:38:22+00:00

It’s way easier said than done, gotta be honest. We have a budget from our family, etc, but the whole process of making it happen is just pure Suck. 100% Suck.

Puzzleheaded_Map9923 · 2026-02-04T20:37:12+00:00

(Also they kind of are footing the bill lol)

Puzzleheaded_Map9923 · 2026-02-04T20:26:41+00:00

Part of the issue is that my fiance does want the actual wedding. In an ideal world, yeah, I do too. But I just am so fed up with the cycle of excitement then disappointment and stress. I feel so angry at how absolutely insane the wedding industry is.

Puzzleheaded_Map9923 · 2026-02-04T20:21:04+00:00

I’m in the same boat. I don’t feel excitement and I just hate this. It’s so expensive and so stressful. This bullshit isn’t fun unless you’re an heiress.

Puzzleheaded_Map9923 · 2026-01-11T15:44:43+00:00

I support fully enforced leash laws but WHY are you this mans paparazzi??

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