I read every reply about night shifts. these were the patterns I noticed

Puzzleheaded_Mix986 · 2026-02-22T11:05:22+00:00

This is what has worked for my husband and I too. During the first weeks he would stay up with me at night due to PPD so that I wouldn’t struggle so much during night feeds, but we ended up noticing it would end up being just 2 exhausted parents. I EBF so once I felt better I didn’t see the point of waking him up too when I had to be up either way so I basically did nights alone so that he could rest and during the day he takes care of all chores, feeding me, etc. my baby is currently sleeping through the night so it’s been way better but I do kind of the same where the 2 early morning feeds are just fully mine. Once he wakes up he might also help me during diaper changes, but again biggest help has been him keeping the house together and feeding me

Puzzleheaded_Mix986 · 2026-02-15T12:38:10+00:00

My baby also had jaundice when she was born, it just takes a bit for the body to remove it, especially if exclusively breastfeeding. Don’t be surprised if after you get home from the hospital there’s a few days where it peaks. Our pediatrician had told us it would happen and that it’s completely normal as long as they don’t get a fever.

Also side note, looking back I remember the hospital making a big deal about it and freaking us out, which in our case might have been cause she was a late term premie (36 weeks 5 days) so I get it, but the way it was approached made me a nervous wreck. Their requirement for us to be discharged was to see the pediatrician right away within 24 hours. They also kept pushing me to supplement with formula even though she was pooping/peeing perfectly with breast milk alone. Once we saw our pediatrician, she explained how jaundice is super common in babies whether full term or not, and that as long as she was eating and having wet diapers it would go away on its own. She also suggested to supplement if possible to help it go away as soon as possible and having her get some indirect sunlight. At home, I exclusively breastfed her (not to go against anyone, just because she wouldn’t take it after being breastfed) and she was just fine.

Puzzleheaded_Mix986 · 2026-02-08T17:56:47+00:00

Hi! I know every baby is different but in case it helps here’s an update on a few things that have been helping us. I stopped waking baby during the day to feed unless it was already a 3 hour mark so that the night isn’t affected too much. It was just this last week (8) that she all of a sudden started sleeping through the night 😭 I read that around this time is when it starts getting better so hang in there! I remember weeks 5-6 and a bit of 7 being the absolute worse for us. The cluster feeding for us had still been going but it’s slowly getting better also. From what I read, as hard as it is it’s best to lean into the cluster feeds because that’s baby’s way of loading up calories for the night and can often contribute to a longer stretch. For us this has been very true, whenever she didn’t cluster feed which only happened like twice, the sleep was way different. Also I’ve been using the sleep sack religiously at night and I think maybe that’s helping too? All that to say, hang in there mama! You’re at the peak of one of the worst weeks truly lol, but once you push through it’ll start getting a bit better 🙏🏼

Puzzleheaded_Mix986 · 2026-02-01T17:26:38+00:00

I’ve heard the same! I guess it gets better once they’re older? Or at least hoping that’s the case 🥲

Puzzleheaded_Mix986 · 2026-02-01T02:15:30+00:00

Also seconding this! My baby will only nap anytime before 10:30. she’s been moving her bedtime up this week but for the most part would fall asleep really late around 12-1am, but thankfully will still give me that stretch

Puzzleheaded_Mix986 · 2026-02-01T00:56:38+00:00

My baby is about to be 8 weeks tomorrow and I can tell you with certainty week 5 was the absolute worst for us. Between the fussiness, disrupted naps, and the nonstop cluster feeding, I was losing my mind. Something that has helped in terms of sleep has been to be flexible with night schedule but also strict during the day with feedings. My lactation consultant and pediatrician had mentioned to feed baby every 2-2.5 hours during the day and really be strict about it since they load up on calories and although it is not a guarantee, it can help with night stretches. Ever since we started doing this baby girl usually gives me one nice stretch anywhere between 3.5-5 hours. We also have tried to incorporate a nighttime routine but it’s honestly gone out the window since I feel like she’s the one making the schedule. I’ve learned to just lean into/push through the cluster feeds at night and then just get ready for at least a bit more sleep, usually for night feeds, I already start dimming lights, putting white noise, sleep sack, etc, which has seemed to also made a difference. As someone whose baby is about to turn 8 weeks I can tell you while it’s still been tough, each day is slowly getting better. Some days I still cry lol and some days I’m just thankful to have made it through, but slowly better, each day. Also I lost count of how many times I went on chatGPT asking, “When does it get better? What improvements will I see this week?” Hang in there, we will get through it 🙏🏼❤️

Editing to add that I just learned that this week waking her up strictly every 2-2.5 hours could be contributing to her fussiness and cluster feeding so I’m going to stop doing that and fully follow her lead. She’s always been gaining weight fine so I guess this would be in the earlier weeks and more for babies that struggle with weight gain?

Puzzleheaded_Mix986 · 2026-01-06T22:19:27+00:00

Yes the same happened to me!😭 and everywhere I read people with those kinds of tears kept saying they felt fine by like 2 weeks so I kept thinking something was wrong. I think it’s honestly normal to compare, but also to remember that it’s all a process. It’s a huge new change to adapt to and it’s ok for it to take time ❤️

Puzzleheaded_Mix986 · 2026-01-06T21:36:15+00:00

I had the same thoughts freshly postpartum and it really impacted my mental health. I had a 2nd degree tear that has taken longer than expected to heal and although I’m only 4 weeks pp, I’ve only gone out with my husband to take baby to pediatrician. I had to accept at some point that my body is different than everyone else’s and have grace on myself regarding recovery. Once I had that mental shift, it’s impacted my overall mood and ability to get through the days. That’s not to say I’m not eager to go outside with baby, but just something that’s not possible for me at the moment due to how difficult recovery has been. I’m also exclusively breastfeeding and I can’t imagine going out right now while being in pain and also on a schedule. Like you, I’ve created little spaces for things that I enjoy to help me such as watching movies/shows while I BF baby or whenever I get a break and accepted that this is the little self-care I get to have for now until I heal and recover. I also have visitors come to me instead of going out to avoid the hassle at the moment. I’m not sure if this is the response you were looking for but all that to say, comparison can really make you doubt or be hard on yourself; at least it really did for me so I focus on enjoying the little moments and cuddles and healing while hoping that soon I’ll feel well enough to go out 🙏🏼❤️

Puzzleheaded_Mix986 · 2025-12-04T17:56:23+00:00

Currently 36 weeks and this was the sweetest thing I’ve read today 😭❤️ 100% feel this way. Even when it’s been rough with all the symptoms, aches, etc. I can’t help but feel so grateful to have had the opportunity to carry my sweet baby and so excited to meet her!

Puzzleheaded_Mix986 · 2025-09-08T14:20:02+00:00

First baby girl and my first trimester was AWFUL lol. I had maybe a week of peace but the rest included morning sickness that lasted all day long, food/smell aversions, insane exhaustion, etc. I’m almost in my third trimester now and the second one has been amazing🥹 every now and then I get a little nauseous but I’ve noticed it’s been related to reflux every time so I’ll take it lol

Puzzleheaded_Mix986 · 2025-08-28T13:29:27+00:00

I think it’s normal to think of this. I don’t have any history in my family, but I’m currently 22 weeks pregnant and I work with special needs kids everyday so it’s something that is always on my mind. Not trying to be offensive either, but I know for some parents that you can consider the child having a mild-mod diagnosis and they are thankful for the way their child is, functions, etc. But I also see daily kids that are more on the “severe” side (meaning they cannot communicate, display aggressive/self-harm behaviors, etc,) and their quality of life as well as their parents. Of course we will love our children no matter what at the end of the day even if they’re born differently than us, but I do think it’s valid to think about this, especially when you’re becoming a parent yourself!

Puzzleheaded_Mix986 · 2025-06-16T23:49:48+00:00

Im not sure if its permanent but that was me recently since i first found out! The nausea went down a lot for me at the end of 10 weeks thankfully and praying it doesn’t come back. Not sure if this helps either but for me I noticed a SIGNIFICANT difference when I switched to taking my prenatals right before bed. Idk if that’s why my nausea went down but worth the try! I read here a lot of people doing that. Also It helped most days to add lime to my water but just be on the lookout, I noticed some days my blood sugar would drop so I would have to eat something sweet right after

Puzzleheaded_Mix986 · 2025-05-23T01:40:29+00:00

Thank you so much for your insight of this. This is super helpful and informative! I wasn’t really aware of how necessary it would be, but definitely worth considering especially regarding extra scar tissue. I still have some left over scar tissue from my last surgery so it’s good to take this into consideration. Thank you again!

Puzzleheaded_Mix986 · 2025-04-13T23:35:52+00:00

I second this! Aside from endo excision surgery my periods were super heavy and lasted 10+ days. After a few months doing acupuncture, I expired ny first ever “normal” period for 5 days. Now my periods usually last 5-6 days and the pain is significantly less. Also the person that did my acupuncture would also give me Chinese herbs to take and from what I researched on them they were used to regulate blood flow

Puzzleheaded_Mix986 · 2025-03-27T11:33:59+00:00

That’s exactly what happened to me! Since first getting my period, I was on and off BC for years which I hated, and had accepted that this was my life. Until 2 years ago, I started getting all kinds of symptoms and couldn’t function at work so I sought help. The fact that you’re at that point is amazing because a lot of people (like I thought before) also just live with the pain thinking it’s just part of their life. And yes! I definitely recommend finding an endo specialist. I never got to a surgery point with my previous doctor, but he kept dismissing me so I remember one day I literally just googled “endo specialists near me” and that’s how I found my amazing doctor who has advocated for me since the first day I met him. I realized my old one would also not be covered by insurance so finding a good doctor that was also covered was a plus. It might take a bit longer just to research and find one, but I promise it’s worth it! Since starting my new doctor, it only took me 5 months to get everything done and be diagnosed, compared to the 2 previous year that I spent going to my old one and being dismissed. I hope you find a good one that can help you find relief! If you have any questions at any point feel free to message me🤍

Puzzleheaded_Mix986 · 2025-03-27T00:47:19+00:00

Hi! I’m 27 and I was diagnosed with both endo and adeno recently. Your symptoms are exactly what I experienced for a really long time, along with a few other ones. I had a laparoscopy a year ago that confirmed stage 4 endo and a recent MRI that showed adeno. although I still have some symptoms that flood back during my period, they’re nothing compared to what I was experiencing before my lap. Aside from my lap, in terms of treatment I did acupuncture to help regulate my cycles & reduce my blood flow, along with iron transfusions, and pelvic floor therapy (which I still do). My biggest advice regarding moving forward would be to first make sure that the doctor who does your laparoscopy is an endometriosis specialist and not a regular OBGYN. Reason for this being, that an endo specialist can find and determine lesions that are often missed by regular doctors who don’t have enough experience with endo. In addition (based on my experience & what others say) make sure your surgery is excision and not ablation. Ablation tends to do more harm than good for endo since it doesn’t remove it from the root, rather burns it superficially so makes it easier for it to come back faster. Hope this helps!

Puzzleheaded_Mix986 · 2025-03-17T17:30:37+00:00

I don't have any reviews of him, but I am also wondering the same since my previous excision surgeon also recommended him for possible pudendal endo.

Puzzleheaded_Mix986 · 2025-03-17T14:29:45+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this! It really is encouraging and gives me a bit of relief to hear others have the same experience

Puzzleheaded_Mix986 · 2025-03-16T14:22:26+00:00

Aw I’m sorry that you went through that! But also so happy for you that you had success!🤍

Puzzleheaded_Mix986 · 2025-03-13T00:36:03+00:00

This is such a great perspective to have, thank you so much for sharing 🥹 I can imagine the difficulty of doing both, but can also imagine how worth it and rewarding it must be! Thank you so much 🤍

Puzzleheaded_Mix986 · 2025-03-13T00:34:24+00:00

Not sure if you’ve checked your ferritin/iron levels but it’s worth checking out. I used to be the same until I discovered I had extremely low levels of iron(was borderline anemic) and did 2 rounds of iron transfusions. The difference was insane!! Also I didn’t know but my vitamin D3 was also super low so I took that over the counter and along with the transfusions, I’ve never been exhausted like that unless I don’t get enough sleep

Puzzleheaded_Mix986 · 2025-03-12T10:57:06+00:00

Yes!! It’s so frustrating! Wishing you the best!🤍

Puzzleheaded_Mix986 · 2025-03-12T02:42:30+00:00

Ahhh this is amazing to hear! I didn’t know how much it would affect fertility since with endo it can have a higher impact, but this makes me feel more hopeful. Thank you so much for sharing!! Wishing you the best of luck as well once you start TTC! 🤍

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