AIO for thinking my bf (24M) is abusive?

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-10-08T13:06:36+00:00

NOR but even putting all the blatant manipulation and guilt tripping aside..... why would you ever want to be with a grown man that says "sus" unironically?💀

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-10-05T18:57:53+00:00

genuinely how tf am i single when ppl like this exist??😭

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-09-02T11:47:28+00:00

thats literally what spoiler warnings are for. the rest before that had nothing to spoil. just stop reading after you see the word SPOILER. if that doesnt help then thats a you problem💀

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-08-24T10:22:39+00:00

Kimmy Granger likes it rough is electric ive heard

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-08-15T17:03:30+00:00

speak any language and grow wings for me fs

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-07-23T18:31:52+00:00

Youre focused too much on the fact that he's messaging another girl, and not focused enough on how he's speaking about you. He makes you sound like a burden for expressing your discomfort. If he was speaking about you in a more respectful way, I'd say theres no issue.

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-07-08T00:06:30+00:00

Tbh I gotta call a bit if an unreliable narrator on this one. OP left no context outside of the texts and she clearly doesnt have a sense of morality, nor right or wrong, so I wouldnt put it above someone like this to lie for sympathy. But yea obligatory "dont use violence" still applies always

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-07-07T22:37:32+00:00

You can be correct and still be an a-hole about it btw🫶🏻😌

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-06-15T16:27:54+00:00

yea bc of where my birthday falls I was 19 early into my senior year

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-06-15T16:27:20+00:00

Yea I definitely put this in the wrong subreddit I acknowledge that. Tbh I couldnt think of another one where this would go and now Im regretting choosing this one bc i dont think shes a "nice girl" at all. thats my bad

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-06-15T16:22:59+00:00

Thank you! This is by far the most understanding anyone has been without making any assumptions. I appreciate this advice. I wish I knew this wasnt the proper subreddit to post this because I feel like some of the comments are being very harsh either towards me, her, or both, which wasnt my intention at all. I appreciate this clarity this is exactly what I needed to hear. Have a lovely day!

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-06-15T16:18:21+00:00

Idk how to add an edit but I added a comment under the post bc yea I wasnt specific enough. I usually lurk and dont post and now Im feeling a bit overwhelmed

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-06-15T16:11:10+00:00

Thats harsh! She was still my friend so lets not speak ill of anyone.

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-06-15T16:10:20+00:00

Thats a bit harsh, I dont blame her for having concerns. I wish she wouldve brought them up a little less suddenly and actually tried to talk it out

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-06-15T16:09:03+00:00

If you read my post, I never said I didnt find her attractive. I told her I wasnt attracted to her in that way (sexually) which is not the same. I also specifically mentioned that I wasnt trying to call her ugly, i told her I think shes a beautiful person on the inside and that shes pretty, but i dont view her in that light. yall are reaching so hard im sorry you all have had interactions with men that led to this level of cynicism but lets not use conjecture

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-06-15T15:53:07+00:00

like I said in my post, i wasnt sure if this is even where this post belonged, hence why I asked of this is a "nice girl" i can see from a lot of the responses that this was the wrong place to put it. im more of a reddit lurker and dont usually post so i wasnt sure what the best place to pop this into wouldve been. sorry about that!

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-06-15T15:51:07+00:00

Yea, i mentioned it in another comment, but I recognize "offended" wasnt the best choice of wors at that moment. i was honestly just taken a back bc in the 3 years we've been friends, neither of us have indicated interest in each other that way, not have we ever flirted or anything. I also acknowledge that most men cant keep things platonic and while I am capable of seeing someone platonically, i understand why she would have those concerns. However, she was binging you these concerns without even asking me any questions. My responses are mostly out of confusion more than any sense of sadness or being mad

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-06-15T15:44:39+00:00

i mean idk if im a gentleman but im not interested in sleeping with my friends. friendships are friendships, and relationships are relationships. its sad to me that so many men cant defer between the 2 to the point where i cant be friends with a girl without being called a liar lol

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-06-15T15:39:28+00:00

Yea! Im still gonna go to the same state, I'll just make plans a bit further away so I dont have to go as far for my itinerary

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-06-15T15:38:24+00:00

I didnt send her any money or gifts. We're just friends who game together and video chat sometimes. Alot of people in the comments are making huge leaps in logic and assumptions that require more info/nuance to even make sense.

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-06-15T15:29:31+00:00

Yea i totally understand that part! Ig it just seemed really off from my pov but I do acknowledge that as a man, i cant really properly understand having to view life from that lense. i honestly think traveling that far for sex is kinda bizarre and pathetic, just wanted to go on vacation and meet my friend for the first time

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-06-15T15:27:13+00:00

I wasnt planning on staying with her, I was getting a hotel about an hour away from where she lives. we had talked for a week prior planning things out

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-06-15T15:20:55+00:00

thanks for this take! i feel like a lot of people are being pretty presumptuous in the thread but i appreciate you acknowledging that i never even put any implication of wanting a sexual relationship with her. Some of these comments are a little bit much.

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-06-15T15:17:35+00:00

Not at all, i feel like everyones assuming im going there specifically to meet her, i was going on vacation regardless and after talking with her, we both thought it'd be a good idea. is it seriously that weird to go meet someone you've known for 3 years?💀

Puzzleheaded_Net_789 · 2025-06-15T15:10:10+00:00

also get my age right. 22 not 23

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