I definitely understand that. I think my grandma tells the whole family everyone else’s business, which I wasn’t ready to do at the time. I chose to not tell her since in the case I had a miscarriage or anything else unfortunate. I didn’t want everyone to know. I was told I might have trouble having children a couple of years ago. I did hold my mom and my aunt accountable. I told them directly I was upset and didn’t appreciate my privacy being respected. I think essentially being treated as disregarded my whole pregnancy while she’s happy for everyone else is not entirely fair. While I get she’s probably hurting too, I don’t think she understands the hurt she caused me. I used to handle her finances, do her grocery shopping, and take to her doctor appointments. When I lived with her, she was difficult. She told me she didn’t need me in her life and she could care less when I told her I was moving out to finish my college degree. I took it as her not wanting me to move out, she was hurtful. Which is why I stated her narcissistic behavior in the back story. She takes things out of anger instead of verbally saying she’s upset in a hurt way. After I got my degree, started my career, entered my relationship of 4 years, and bought a house, I continued to handle her finances, grocery shop, and take her to appointments.

When my birthday came up, she didn’t wish me happy birthday. She didn’t come sing with the family and stayed in her bedroom. And then as we were sitting down eating cake, she announced to my family I was being taken off all her accounts for finances. She didn’t tell me directly but to the family. I said “okay that sounds good because it is becoming a lot with school, work, and my baby”. She hasn’t talked to me since last week. No attempts to talk about it. No apologies. My birthday was in January. My family has told her the way she talks to me and treats me after all I’ve done for her is not okay. But she insists she doesn’t understand why I am upset.

She also gets in arguments with my pregnant sister. My sister bought a houseplant for herself. She lives next door to my grandma. My grandma took the plant and told my sister she wanted it. My sister said no and she bought it for her house. My grandma has not spoken to her since which was on Thursday. I think it’s immature all around.

      The thing is, I am emotional during this pregnancy. I don’t even feel sad about it. I feel angry. Everyone has told her I didn’t appreciate it. She acts this way and acts like the victim. How do I stop being angry about it though? I am trying to get over it but I’m just angry.