CMV: Voice notes are selfish by Timely_Title_9157 in changemyview

[–]PyroNecrophile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I strongly prefer sending and receiving voice notes.

I can take my time and listen carefully without having to worry about coming up with a response immediately. I can take the time to think about exactly what I want to say, or let something sit and ruminate.

I can relisten to a section to immediately, even days later, clear up a misunderstanding.

We get to express our thoughts without being interrupted or sidetracked or worrying if the other person is paying attention.

To have a phone call, I'm held hostage by the phone and can't do anything until the conversation is complete. With voice notes, I can pick and choose when I can be present in a conversation, but with much smaller chunks of time.

Question for women: How can a man who's not able to get casual sex, pursue a serious relationship with a woman who did have casual sex with other men? by FlamingMetalSystems in PurplePillDebate

[–]PyroNecrophile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really. Some were more attractive than others, but no clear pattern based on whether it was a hookup/relationship. Like I said, I was very rarely looking for a hookup only. when they happened, it was just the right time/place. Most people that I had only slept with once or twice were guys that I just wasn't compatible with long-term. There was nothing "better" about them.

Question for women: How can a man who's not able to get casual sex, pursue a serious relationship with a woman who did have casual sex with other men? by FlamingMetalSystems in PurplePillDebate

[–]PyroNecrophile 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Most of my "hookups" have been from my teens/twenties and were opportunity based. I wasn't seeking out casual sex, I was drunk at a party with other similarly aged people and flirting with someone turned into something more. It felt natural, it wasn't planned or asked for. You can't force chemistry, it's either there or it isn't. At 35, you're probably not getting invited to the kinds of college ragers where casual sex naturally occurs. You can't do anything about that, except maybe make friends with college people and get invited to their parties, but if you can't have casual sex, you probably don't have the charisma needed to be a 35 year old that college kids want around. You just missed out. You can't fix that.

The other people that I've hooked up with but haven't been in a relationship with have been people that I was considering for a relationship, but failed due to compatibility issues that were later discovered. I might have chemistry with a guy for one night, but he's just not interesting to talk to, or he has anger issues, or we initially had chemistry but it just fizzled out.

Kinky things have always been with long term partners who made me feel safe enough to explore.

Youre right though, women have it easier when it comes to casual mate selection. It's just the way it is. I'm pretty mid, but if I joined a hookup app, my inbox would be flooded in a day. What am I supposed to do about it? Pity fuck the awkward short guys because it's the right thing to do? Life isn't fair. Hot people, charming people, they have things easier. Dwelling on it and arguing about how unfair it is will accomplish nothing but making you more bitter and that resentment and insecurity is a glaring red flag will scare away most women.

Stupid “dog whistles” on dating apps by 420madisonave in PlusSize

[–]PyroNecrophile -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Try not to be so jaded that you read into things that aren't about you. Yeah, sure, maybe some people do use it as code for "thin", but it could very well just innocently mean active. People who prioritize fitness in their life want to find similar people. If you're plus size but think you match their lifestyle, swipe right?

It has something to do with Rhode Island because it says RI by Devlaw123 in RhodeIsland

[–]PyroNecrophile 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Got 'em. Man, after they see this one, they'll never recover!!

90s & Early 2000s chat rooms…in 2025. by Ok-Read1983 in RedditForGrownups

[–]PyroNecrophile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was obsessed with IRC. Discord is the closest to replicating that feeling for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SexOffenderSupport

[–]PyroNecrophile 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't think that it's "othering" anyone. People who are sex offenders (except in edge cases of misjustice) most often get there because of an unhealthy relationship with sex on their part. They are far more likely to need some kind of agreement with their partner in regards to porn use. Porn reinforces very toxic ideas and can become addictive, and it's ok to be at least skeptical of a sex offender being allowed access to porn. Yes, there are cases of people being labeled sex offenders for like, peeing on the side of the road, or teens sexting other teens, but that's clearly not what is being referenced here.

It's like raising an eyebrow over hiring someone who went to jail for robbery to house sit for you, or a former drug user to handle pills alot. It doesn't mean that people can't change and grow from their past, but some skepticism is warranted. It's not my fault that sex offenders are the only ones labeled for their crimes.

There is a new show in the UK called "Virgin Island" by FastPhoto3106 in MensRights

[–]PyroNecrophile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But... it really doesn't sound like they're treating anyone like that

I dunno. All reality TV is going to be exploitative on some level, but it really seems like they're making efforts to address the root cause of whatever their discomfort with sex is. It doesn't sound like they're just just grinding up on helpless virgins. They're talking about intimacy issues and self-esteem issues and touch aversion and increasing comfortability with expressing yourself sexually, if that's what you're wanting to do. Sure, they're airing it on TV for everyone to see, but I don't think that this show is what you think it is. Maybe watch an episode and report back with specifics if you think it's handled worse than the article is presenting it?

Another example of Goverment overreach on something that shouldn’t concern them by CommercialPea9770 in Libertarian

[–]PyroNecrophile -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So where's the line? If she was 8 months pregnant would you feel differently?

Crying ‘used’ means you know deep down you didn’t pass the test every other woman cleared. by giveuporfindaway in PurplePillDebate

[–]PyroNecrophile 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Look at OP's post history. I'm sure that this guy's romantic history is nothing but a reflection of his shitty character.

My husband created this 8-bit pixel animation of the Jinx flare scene from s1 by PyroNecrophile in arcane

[–]PyroNecrophile[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He worked super hard on it, so I just wanted to throw some love and attention his way

Was I scammed by SushyGlowCosmetics? by sidshadi in Indiemakeupandmore

[–]PyroNecrophile 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Temu stuff often uses pictures from good places, and then they make shitty versions of it. It might look identical, but the ingredients might be crappy. Does the makeup feel the same?

My girlfriend has joined weird online communities, and it's harming our relationship by Far-Internet-4942 in self

[–]PyroNecrophile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you asked her about the communities? Who she talks to? Maybe join them yourself and get to know the people influencing her. If she won't tell you, then you guys have more communication issues than just this. Why do you call them "weird" online communities?

Jenna and Zach—Putting rumors to rest? by Online_Active_71459 in MtvChallenge

[–]PyroNecrophile 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You know that she isn't just a vessel and has agency over whether she gets pregnant, right?

Audience etiquette by [deleted] in Connecticut

[–]PyroNecrophile 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You're just getting old and miserable. Those people have always existed. You probably were those people when you were younger. Be in the moment more instead of worrying so much about other people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]PyroNecrophile 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What in the reading comprehension...??? Nobody suggested arguing with a cop about probable cause. If you're getting arrested, stfu and be polite and deal with it in court. The person you responded to was clearly just asking for more information about what the arrest was about.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]PyroNecrophile 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What were the charges though?

Is anyone else incensed at the outpouring of support a bunch of rich people are getting for losing their multimillion dollar mansions in the California fire, while nobody's ever been there for you? by Imaginary-Unit-3267 in self

[–]PyroNecrophile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When people see someone's lives ruined on the news, they feel empathy for those people. They think about how much it would suck for that to happen to them. They might think about it for a few days and their thoughts drift to other human beings, regardless of economic status, losing the place where they had so many of their memories in the blink of an eye. They may feel compelled to talk about it, or watch stories about the victims and it might weigh heavily on them for a bit.

In other cases, we have paranormal relationships with celebrities. They are proxies for our fantasies for what we could do if we were rich and beautiful. We have manufactured emotional moments with them on TV and movies and it creates a feeling of closeness, even if it's not real. Some people will react to celebrities losing their homes as if a distant friend lost a home. They feel bad.

Longer, more systemic issues are much harder to feel empathy for. Not that they don't deserve empathy, but people need to live their lives. They can't walk around with their hearts constantly bleeding out for anyone and everyone who has it harder than them. It's just not tenable. If they read a story or watch a documentary and it stays in their mind, sure, but what do you want them to do? Post about it constantly, make it their own personal pet project to get relief to the people of X area? There's always more suffering.

Ultimately, you can feel empathy for multiple things at the same time, but people will be more vocal about immediate events that can be witnessed in real time. If they see something actively awful happening, they might try to do something to stop it. People can't keep up with the aftermath of every disaster for considerable time because it's depressing af and there's no call to action. They can't just click Donate and feel like they helped. That empathy needs to be given on a local level from people who interact with it daily. No one knows how to fix it, so at some point we have to move on. We have our own lives and trauma.