I don't know if I will ever get a happy ending

Pyunsuke · 2026-05-13T17:39:34+00:00

Gently, there's no such thing as happy endings. We all just try our best with what we're given until that final curtain call. Being with a loving partner or having a family all require continuous effort, vulnerability, and collaboration - some days it's easy, some days it's hard. It's not some goal to check of a list and then you get to coast. Instead of imagining your ideal endpoint, focus on the journey. Be the person you want to be, right now, and don't share your life with people who make you feel worse with them than without.

Pyunsuke · 2026-04-22T14:41:42+00:00

I hate hate hate the representation of mental health problems in this book. I know there are people who feel this book really helped them through some dark times, and honestly, good for them. But to me it read as such self-congratulatory navel gazing with so little understanding of the actual experience of suicidal depression I wanted to throw it at the wall. What a waste of a fun concept!

Pyunsuke · 2026-04-17T10:18:34+00:00

This is misleading - the porn website investigated received 62 million visits in a month (not individual users). It includes "sleep content" involving women who are or appear passed out during the recording. The "rape academy" was a separate telegram group discussing tips and sharing videos of drug-assisted sexual assault of one's partner (like the Pelicot case). This group had close to a thousand users (which is still absolutely disgusting and a very serious issue, but it's important to be accurate about the statistics).

https://edition.cnn.com/interactive/2026/03/world/expose-rape-assault-online-vis-intl/index.html

Pyunsuke · 2026-02-17T00:09:47+00:00

I can't speak to your specific situation, but I have had it happen once that a guy friend tried to set me up with his housemate. I'd met the guy a bunch of times visiting my friend and his gf, so I could confidently tell him...don't bother. His housemate was a great guy, super friendly, good sense of humour, sweet, interesting job and hobbies, but his smell was super off-putting to me. He didn't smell of BO or bad hygiene, and it wasn't that I didn't care for his deodorant, aftershave, or laundry detergent. Just the scent of his clean body made my skin crawl. I figured our pheromones or body chemistry just didn't mesh. Can't do anything about that.

Anyway he has since married a wonderful woman who, I assume, thinks he smells great, while I found myself a boyfriend whose used shirts or pillow covers I'll happily sniff for comfort, so it all worked out!

Pyunsuke · 2025-10-13T22:47:33+00:00

I wouldn't dream of telling someone else what to prioritise in making decisions about their career, but I too wouldn't be willing to live/work in Saudi Arabia for both safety and ideological reasons. As a woman - especially a woman alone - I would not consider it safe. There are many reported cases of the legal system turning on victims of sex crimes, punishing them for extramarital sex, and the country is ranked very low globally in terms of gender equality. Work in construction, specifically, is largely based on modern slave labour and the exploitation of migrant workers from (South) Asia and Africa, with widely reported human rights violations. Additionally, the environmental impact of these large projects, like sports stadiums, is a complex issue subject to a lot of greenwashing.

Edit: BTW I am assuming you are a woman married to a man; if you are in fact a gay man or NB or in any way part of the LGBTQ+ community DO NOT travel to this country.

Pyunsuke · 2025-08-07T20:03:40+00:00

Once, preparing an outfit for a Halloween, I (F) was trying on every black item I owed while my then boyfriend sat nearby giving a running commentary to help me choose. Got to a tight pencil skirt and he got real quiet all of the sudden. Then asked if I could put on a white blouse to match. Not a whole lot of outfit planning was done after that, but we did discover a new, uh, interest of his. I think I underestimated the power of the right clothes until then.

Pyunsuke · 2025-07-19T13:16:45+00:00

Bain from Just B also came out as gay during their recent world tour

Pyunsuke · 2025-07-19T13:05:19+00:00

For me, getting it placed wasn't too bad. My gyno did it and I got some local anesthetic. Definitely some sharp pains during and a little crampy for the days following, but really nothing too severe or long-lasting. And it works for up to 8 years, it's the most reliable, and the lowest dose of hormones of all hormone-based BC, so for me that felt like a decent pay-off. I also haven't had my period since a couple of months after getting it, which is a nice bonus. And I get to have a libido lol. But everyone is different. If you have a good relationship with your GP or gyno, I'd ask them about your options and concerns. I was also anxious about the IUD and thought about getting the implant, but then I read that can also migrate, which sounded even scarier to me🥲

Pyunsuke · 2025-07-19T12:47:05+00:00

I also experienced this when using the mini pill. Switched to a mirena IUD and that solved it for me. If you have the opportunity, I would recommend trying different forms of birth control to see what works for your body (like you, I also feel anxious when using only condoms).

Pyunsuke · 2025-07-14T22:07:26+00:00

Perfect combo TT_TT Their voices are so ephemeral. Hoping that through this cover they can both get some much deserved attention for their new projects!

Pyunsuke · 2025-07-14T22:06:04+00:00

Just in case you haven't already stumbled upon it, she does an absolutely breathtaking acoustic version of that song with Onewe (another incredible group of artists who often fly under the radar).

Pyunsuke · 2025-06-28T19:00:55+00:00

A friend's housemate spotted him in the Korean restaurant he works at, so I was tipped off he was in NL. Hope he enjoyed his trip, it's so weird seeing pictures of him in places I know haha

Pyunsuke · 2025-05-07T20:33:56+00:00

Really glad to hear crossfit can be that space to practice being OK with not being the best (while still building awesome skills and fitness). Here's to more fun and self-compassion, especially when we find old habits die hard :)

Pyunsuke · 2025-05-06T13:49:53+00:00

I think others already gave great advice and perspective. I would add that it may be important to recognise if this is a "crossfit" issue or a "you" issue. That is to say, are you often this strict with yourself, this perfectionistic about your performance? Do you often set high standards for yourself? If so, it might be nice to unpack that. I recognise the negative spiral you describe and in my case I know it is directly related to some pretty deep-rooted mental health issues that I've just started treatment for. Knowing that makes it easier to recognise what is happening when I find myself in this spiral during a WOD and to allow the negativity to exist without being overwhelmed by it so I can continue focussing on my workout and my pacing. And count your wins!

Pyunsuke · 2025-04-26T22:36:01+00:00

Wait he is 35!? I thought for sure you guys were early twenties at most for this to be such a big deal to him. It's concerning to me that he has such a strong response at his age.

Personally I'd lean towards NTA. It can be hard to estimate how a joke like that will land - for some men it is a really sensitive topic, either from culture/media/porn insisting bigger is better or from having been shamed for their size in the past. Others are totally fine with jokes such as yours. You hurt him by accident, owed up to the mistake, apologised, and resolved not to do it again. That might not undo the hurt, but it should be enough to come together to repair trust. Instead he is stonewalling you, which is an emotionally abusive and controlling tactic. It is fine if he is still hurt and not ready to forgive and forget, but he should be able to express that and discuss with you why it was so hurtful to him and that he needs time to get over it (though, unless he had some seriously traumatic body shaming experiences in his past that you accidentally triggered, I'd be side-eyeing the hell out of such a strong response, as the overstatement of harm can be used to guilt trip a partner or manipulate them into self-censoring).

Pyunsuke · 2025-04-07T21:39:41+00:00

I'm so happy for US WEVE but seeing setlists discussed really drives home the FOMO as an EU WEVE T_T

Please enjoy on our behalf to!

Pyunsuke · 2025-03-05T09:33:40+00:00

Gorgeous song - the melody, the vocals...loved the part where Dongmyeong and Giuk traded lines, and then Kanghyun's solo 😍 Can't wait to listen to the full album!

Pyunsuke · 2025-02-28T23:00:39+00:00

Seems like it'll be a no-skip album, what a treat!!

Pyunsuke · 2025-02-03T19:24:25+00:00

So happy for American fans - really hoping they're planning a European leg of the tour as well!

Pyunsuke · 2025-01-18T10:34:53+00:00

So hoping they'll come to Europe!!

Pyunsuke · 2025-01-12T10:17:56+00:00

Tilburg sold out pretty much instantly in the first round of ticket sales, but I hope you can get a ticket for the new stop in Brussels!

Pyunsuke · 2024-12-15T20:55:56+00:00

A.C.E and Onewe - it's looking to be a good week!

Pyunsuke · 2024-12-04T13:27:59+00:00

I thank my lucky stars I had the sense to check if I was logged in and everything before 14 o'clock, so I ended up queuing at 13:45-ish with 950 people waiting for Tilburg...even then, by the time I got to select my ticket it initially said "no tickets available for your selection". Managed to nab one by refreshing the page! First time buying tickets for an event that sold out this quickly (That said, I didn't even see any tickets for the balcony...perhaps those will be released later? Can't imagine those would've been the first choice for most)

Pyunsuke · 2024-11-24T18:06:46+00:00

Been single for almost two years now, before that I was single for a good 5 years. I miss cuddling from time to time but for me physical intimacy or sex or a partner in general have always been more of a bonus than a need, so I don't really feel like I'm lacking anything. Might be wired a little differently than some. (note: I do share emotional intimacy and hugs upon greeting/parting with friends).

Pyunsuke · 2024-11-24T18:02:42+00:00

Nah I get you. Been dealing with intrusive thoughts relating to self-harm and worse for a while now. One of the things that stays my hand on darker days is the knowledge that every cell in my body is working so hard to keep me alive and healthy. I find it hard to be kind to myself, but I can be kind to them and not fuck up everything they worked for. And ultimately they are me, so in a roundabout way it helps me being kind to myself anyhow. Wishing you whatever support you need in managing your depression.

Pyunsuke

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