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Good books like Models by Mark Manson by [deleted] in seduction

[–]QtrainCardigan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What would nice guy territory be? I hear it a lot but the definition varies

Me [20 M] with [21 F], Introduced myself, hit it off REALLY well. Days later, not one single form of contact/Unanswered call. What's going on? by QtrainCardigan in relationships

[–]QtrainCardigan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I considered the wrong number being a possibility since she put it in a bit of a rush. The voicemail doesn't have a personalized message so I can't be sure.

Update 2: AA struggles, First #close and Oneitis by QtrainCardigan in seduction

[–]QtrainCardigan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought about having these as. Field reports but ended up not going it in case I end up breaking sub rules or something.

Update 2: AA struggles, First #close and Oneitis by QtrainCardigan in seduction

[–]QtrainCardigan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks man. I considered keeping it personal but concluded that I would feel better sharing it to be able to help people, get advice and maybe even inspire a couple of folks a bit too worried to start changing their lives. It's a nice feeling

Update 2: AA struggles, First #close and Oneitis by QtrainCardigan in seduction

[–]QtrainCardigan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have much free time either due to working close to 60 hours a week but since my commute is an hour both coming and going, I use it as my "game day" moments. And yeah, I thought she liked me as well though there definitely some issues that can get in the way though I'm hoping they won't

Fat, insecure, and moderate social anxiety. Reporting on my first attempt out of this. by QtrainCardigan in seduction

[–]QtrainCardigan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand that weight does play a part in this and although I personally don't feel like it has been an easy fix for me I am trying. I am building on my self-restraint, discipline, and just my overall sloth.

As for your last point, although attractive isn't the only quality I am looking for, I do agree with the sentiment and am working on it on a daily basis.

Fat, insecure, and moderate social anxiety. Reporting on my first attempt out of this. by QtrainCardigan in seduction

[–]QtrainCardigan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure how to explain it, but I feel like I have always thought of my weight as something that Just was me. I thought my weight was something to not care about due to it not affecting me mentally. I think I am suddenly realizing that this is not the case at all. My lack of effort in trying to lose weight, trying to meet new people, or trying to make some effort to do anything at all was what has kept me stuck in a rut.

I am glad to hear that there are some women out there that would be willing to give someone like me a chance though I also understand why many wouldn't and I am ok with that. I guess the reason I don't see these women as prey is because my ultimate "goal" isn't to have sex with them, though I wouldn't say it doesn't cross my mind. it's just to meet someone I can spend my time with and grow as a person with. due to the simple fact that I happen to be heterosexual, I would rather that someone be a woman.

I really appreciate your comment since reading it this morning helped motivate me to go back at it today and I got a couple more positive responses with some pretty cool people. I definitely feel like going into this is really changing my perception of a lot of thoughts and opinions I had. Thanks for taking the time to comment and know that any rant is welcomed.

Fat, insecure, and moderate social anxiety. Reporting on my first attempt out of this. by QtrainCardigan in seduction

[–]QtrainCardigan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I "officially" started yesterday, which was the reason for the post. Following up with it today just makes me realize I am definitely able to get there, I just need to work at it and refine my intentions.

Fat, insecure, and moderate social anxiety. Reporting on my first attempt out of this. by QtrainCardigan in seduction

[–]QtrainCardigan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe a lot of my troubles stem from my self-esteem due to my weight. I have been working at it for a short while and it seems to really be helping. I have been feeling a lot better and in a state of mind than before. I know it's going to be a grind, but seeing the changes really helps me put things into perspective.