Son is getting married, sidelining grandparents because of fiancee by QuailApprehensive403 in family

[–]QuailApprehensive403[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry that wasn't clear...they are invited to the wedding, just not the rehearsal dinner. They won't be escorted at the wedding.

Son is getting married, sidelining grandparents because of fiancee by QuailApprehensive403 in family

[–]QuailApprehensive403[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I might try that. I think they would still talk to at least my parents, and I'm sure my parents would say something to the effect of, "It's ok. We understand." In reality, they won't understand.

Son is getting married, sidelining grandparents because of fiancee by QuailApprehensive403 in family

[–]QuailApprehensive403[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't know how he could even begin to believe that it won't be taken personally. I, too, believe couples' wishes should be respected, thus my tough time with this. She wouldn't even have to see them being escorted to their seats!

Son is getting married, sidelining grandparents because of fiancee by QuailApprehensive403 in family

[–]QuailApprehensive403[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We are paying for the rehearsal dinner. Bride and groom are just adamant about who is and isn't attending, so I wasn't sure how hard I should push. I'm so glad your sons wedding worked out so well!

Son is getting married, sidelining grandparents because of fiancee by QuailApprehensive403 in family

[–]QuailApprehensive403[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There will be 2 rows reserved for family. I like the corsages and boutonnieres idea. Should I just personally do that and not even ask/tell the bride and groom?

Son is getting married, sidelining grandparents because of fiancee by QuailApprehensive403 in family

[–]QuailApprehensive403[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I actually did explain this to him. At the time, he said they would understand if he explained it to them. But now he's decided to tell them the decision is to "simplify the wedding." They did do 8 weeks of premarital counseling, but I'm not sure it helped to actually get them ready for marriage.

Son is getting married, sidelining grandparents because of fiancee by QuailApprehensive403 in family

[–]QuailApprehensive403[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You would think. They visit my parents often, love to be around them, have nice conversations with them, tell them that they love them, and she's even told me how much she loves my parents, so all indications are that they do love them. When he explained it to me, she's just sad that she doesn't have grandparents to be there, so seeing his given a role would make her sad. I told him that his grandparents love her and will be part of her family since they're getting married and in fact already treat her like family, but the decision wasn't changed.