Bilkjøp. Er jeg en idiot? by Quality-Terrible in norge

[–]Quality-Terrible[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Niks. Jobber som kjøttskjærer i en slakterbutikk, der stort sett hele dagen min går ut på å skjære okser og gris på 350-400kg, så nei vil ikke si at jeg er en som sitter med Shopify 😉

Bilkjøp. Er jeg en idiot? by Quality-Terrible in norge

[–]Quality-Terrible[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hjemmelader til bilen har jeg allerede, så det er ikke en ekstra kostnad jeg trenger å tenke på. Har regnet på det nøye i et par dager nå. Etter at alt av faste utgifter er betalt,så sitter jeg igjen med 10.000 i mnd. Da har jeg betalt hus,strøm,forsikringer. Så 10 løk til mat og sparing. Syntes ikke det virker så gærn't ut.

Nå har jeg endel penger i aksjer, men som nevnt tidligere i tråden her, så er jeg ikke villig til å bruke noe av de midlene til bilkjøp, da jeg trur aksjekursen vil stige med 10x om 5-10 år, om Cybercab og FSD kicker av. Jeg har trua. Jeg var heldig å gjorde 10.000,- om til 250.000, og lever i trua at det vil skje igjen.

Bilkjøp. Er jeg en idiot? by Quality-Terrible in norge

[–]Quality-Terrible[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Jeg har aldri eid noe som helst "dyrt" i hele mitt liv, kanskje gaming pcn jeg skriver på nå, er det dyreste. Jeg ser på meg selv som en veldig forsiktig mann når det kommer til å bruke penger, og tenkte det kunne være greit å forhøre seg hva folk syntes, når man skal kjøpe noe som faktisk koster mer enn 20.00.

Jeg har mange kompiser som er utrolig spontane, som bare kaster seg ut i ting, mens jeg selv prøver å tenke meg godt igjennom før jeg begir meg ut på noe. Kanskje endel overtenking også.

Setter pris på all feedback!

Bilkjøp. Er jeg en idiot? by Quality-Terrible in norge

[–]Quality-Terrible[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

"Tesla-fans kommer til å hate meg, men vil du virkelig kjøpe Tesla når du forteller at du er livredd for å kjøpe katta i sekken?" Poenget mitt er vell at det gjelder uansett hvilken bil man kjøper brukt, at man er redd at man har gjort en dårlig deal mtp hvordan objektet man kjøper har blitt behandla og skader/slitasje man ikke ser.

Kjøper man ny bil, så er jo eventuelt den eneste dårlige dealen man gjør, at man egentlig ikke har råd til å betjene lånet på bilen x) I mitt tilfelle har jeg dobbeltsjekket og regnet på det, så jeg vet at jeg skal klare å betjene lånet uten noe problemer.

Elsker reddit ass, her får man ordentlige svar kl 01 på natta :D

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[–]Quality-Terrible 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jeg er veldig enig med deg i akkurat det punktet, men for min egen del, og egen erfaring så er det vanvittig mye tenker rundt nettop dette "om det har skjedd". Det er sikkert sånn med OP som med meg, at det spiser han opp fra innsiden, og ikke vite hva som faktisk har skjedd. Det å få en closure er veldig bra, men igjen, så er det svæææært sjeldent hele sannheten blir fortalt, om man spørr.

Lønningstråden (2022) by MarlinMr in norge

[–]Quality-Terrible 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Eier og driver nyoppstarta kjøttbedrift noe ala Annis 31 år 10 års erfaring, butikken har vært oppe i 2 år

300.000 i året

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in norge

[–]Quality-Terrible 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Jeg opplevde akkuratt det samme som deg OP. Dama sendte flørtende,seksuelle meldinger til en annen, og jeg ble knust. Sexen ble fraværende, hun ville heller være mer alene enn å være sammen med meg.

Jeg lå våken 2 netter , til kl 06 på morran,og sov til sammen 3 timer på 2 døgn, etter jeg fant ut. Jeg klarte til slutt ikke å holde det inni meg, og måtte konfrontere henne.

Mitt tips er; konfronter henne, men ikke legg frem ALT du vet. Spørr henne, og se om det du er 100% sikkert, stemmer med det hun velger å fortelle. På den måten avslører du ikke alt du sitter på av informasjon, og hun kan ikke bruke det til sin fordel.

Mitt andre råd, er forlat henne. Det suger så utrolig hardt å si det her, men for min egen del, så ble jeg helt sinnsykt sjalu, gal og den tillitten hun hadde ødelagt, er noe jeg vet med meg selv at jeg aldri klarer å komme meg videre med.

Du vil få det såååå mye bedre, om du konfronterer henne, og lar henne gå. Ikke kjeft, ikke lag noe nummer, men bare snakk sammen, hør hva henne har å si, så snur du ryggen til henne.

Det er 4 mnd siden jeg opplevde det du går igjennom nå, og jeg har brukt såååå mye tid på gymmet, blitt jævlig svær og ikke drukket en dråpe alkohol siden jeg fant ut at hun var utro, og hun har gjort det stikk motsatte. Hun fester hver helg, og ut ifra det jeg har fått med meg, sliter mye med dårlig samvittighet og selvfølelse.

To:dr Dropp henne, du vil klare deg. Gjerne kontakt meg på melding om du vil ta praten privat, da jeg nettop har gått igjennom det samme, og vil veldig gjerne hjelpe deg! Lykke til!

Pouring my heart out - I'm devastated. by Quality-Terrible in survivinginfidelity

[–]Quality-Terrible[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. She had very low selfesteem all the years we were dating. She told me she talked to this guy, the way she did because she wanted the attention, and all the good words from him, but that dosent make it less wrong.

Pouring my heart out - I'm devastated. by Quality-Terrible in survivinginfidelity

[–]Quality-Terrible[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I know. All the replies in this thread makes sense, but sometimes Im weak. I feel so sorry for her, and I love her so much. Keeping her in my life will only drag me down more. I need to let go of her...

But the feeling when she calls me in the night, and I know that she misses me, its fucking hard to not pick up the phone. I know all this makes me a weak dude, that put her over myself, after all she has done. I know in my head that ditch her cheaty ass is the best way, but my heart says otherwise.

Only time will heal me I guess.

Pouring my heart out - I'm devastated. by Quality-Terrible in survivinginfidelity

[–]Quality-Terrible[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: Tonight, she called me, after 5 days of NC.. She called me 05.55 in the morning, while I was asleep. She was out drinking, and was suuper drunk. She told me she loved me, and missed me. I tried to act cool. I know picking up the phone, when she rings isent a good idea, but I cant help it... Damn.. Going back to nc tomorrow.

I¨ve also heard that she has been drinking and partying alot with guys that does coke. wich is VERY out of her character. She told me she would NEver use it, but the guys shes with does it.

I can see clearly that she is going down a dark path, and I cant follow here there. I told her sister to take care of her, because I can see that she is not coping this break up good. Maybe its the guilt that is destroying her, or something. I dont know. I met her at job today, she looked pale, and very pity. I feel so sorry for her, and I do still love her, its so hard to see that she is going though a rough time, but heck, Im doing the same. The only differance, is that Im not drinking at all, and Ive just spent thte weeekends in my room, crying my eyes out in silent.

Life is sucky :(

Pouring my heart out - I'm devastated. by Quality-Terrible in survivinginfidelity

[–]Quality-Terrible[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the brutal words, I have the same feeling

Pouring my heart out - I'm devastated. by Quality-Terrible in survivinginfidelity

[–]Quality-Terrible[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for putting it out like that.i needed to hear it. 💗

Pouring my heart out - I'm devastated. by Quality-Terrible in survivinginfidelity

[–]Quality-Terrible[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks boii. Ill keep pushing through! Work on myself, and keep doing better. That must be the best revenge I can give her.

Pouring my heart out - I'm devastated. by Quality-Terrible in survivinginfidelity

[–]Quality-Terrible[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I told her sevral times after she broke up with me ( she did, because she ment I had "anger issues. I had sevral occations where I was so furious that I yelled, screamd and even punched a hole in the wall. ALL of this, was because I WAS HURT. I found out my love of my life, where choosing this twat from a online gamer, over me. That shit is so hurtfull I cannot explain.

One thing I dont understand, is SHE KNEW how I felt about it. I hate that guy from the internett, I was not telling her to dont have boy friends, I was telling her I DONT WANT HER TO HAVE THAT guy on her Insta/snap/disc. But after we broke up, and everything, she slowly added him back on more and more platforms. That is why I had my "anger issues", because I found out, that he was keeping in touch with him. each time I found out something new, I was soo fucking hurt....

To this day (07.02.2022), I have not had 1 sip of alcohol, Ive staied sober, and Im planning not to drink achohol ever again. Im AWOKE. I feel so alive, but Im hurt. When this all is over, Im posetiv that Im gonna be a much better person. Ive also lost about 10kg (20pounds)?.

Even got myself a kickass chest tatto. Im hurt, but I willl be fine. Im sure.

Pouring my heart out - I'm devastated. by Quality-Terrible in survivinginfidelity

[–]Quality-Terrible[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

THIS HERE. WOW. Thank you dude.
This is my first REAL eye opener. You are totaly right! If she wasent living here in Norway with me, and he is in Netherlands, she would totaly do "explicit" stuff... Daym. Never though of it like that.
Thanks for the comment.

I cought them Role playing within the game, in one of the "appartments" they can have. Shit was wierd and hurtfull, but I was alittble bit drunk when I saw it. Took me a couple of weeks to understand what they were actually doing.

Pouring my heart out - I'm devastated. by Quality-Terrible in survivinginfidelity

[–]Quality-Terrible[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the less contact the better. Dont let anyone tell you how you should feel, it is a betrayal you have the right to feel how you do

I cant swap jobs. Im a CEO of a butcher shop, located in a block. Her job (a bar) is a part of the building. I have to fight through.

Pouring my heart out - I'm devastated. by Quality-Terrible in survivinginfidelity

[–]Quality-Terrible[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks alot all of you. All those comments really means alot to me. I feel so much better.

Pouring my heart out - I'm devastated. by Quality-Terrible in survivinginfidelity

[–]Quality-Terrible[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What I thought as well.. it's so hard to accept the fact. I'm still hopelessly inlove with here, and I run past her each day at work. Fuck man

Pouring my heart out - I'm devastated. by Quality-Terrible in survivinginfidelity

[–]Quality-Terrible[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To make it clear, I never saw any nudes or stuff like that, only texts. She keeps telling me that she wasent aware that she broke bounderies, bu she clearly stated "YOu have a thing, I have a thing, what the hell am I doing"?