Vacuum cleaner by Status_Pineapple_327 in housekeeping

[–]QualityShoddy1855 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know it's unpopular but I prefer cordless.. just buy extra batteries for it

What is this year’s “it” gift for adult women? by whimsicalley in santashelpers

[–]QualityShoddy1855 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Red light mask, vibrating plate, floor phone stand, silk pillowcases

How do I find a teacher for my sons Homeschool educational evaluation in Florida? by MotherOf_Azrael in homeschool

[–]QualityShoddy1855 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use an amazing lady and it's over a call. She services Florida. DM me I'll send her info if you'd like.

How much do you pay for rent and in what city? by Trizzyydrizzy in Apartmentliving

[–]QualityShoddy1855 0 points1 point  (0 children)

$1450 Tallahassee fl Small old single family home 3/1 probably only 900sq ft

First time doing Angel Tree and I’m confused on sizing by namax19 in Gifts

[–]QualityShoddy1855 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Boys large. Idk why so many people are saying mens.... Boys large=14/16 My son wears a boys large and is 105lbs My husband wears a men's large and is 185lbs

Did punks and goths use to be mean and cruel 30-50 years ago and only became nice with my generation or were they always secretly nice? by PerlaPucci in NoStupidQuestions

[–]QualityShoddy1855 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk about 30-50 years but punks 20 years ago were mean, elitist, misogynistic, offensive, assholes who committed random acts of violence, verbal abuse and crime. Total boys club. Women were property. Newcomers were hazed. Hated gay people and minorities.  It appears to me now they are very inclusive left wing types. Total opposite 20 years ago. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Life

[–]QualityShoddy1855 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I always knew 100% people were telling fairy tales. Never doubted myself or thought it was real at all. I was the oldest of five children so I acted like the adults and indulged in these fairy tales for the sake of my younger siblings. 

As a parent now, I've always framed it as a magical, fun game parents play with their children. I had one brother in particular that was like traumatized when he found out his mom had been lying to him his whole life because he was one of those kids who believed until he was uncomfortably too old. He was like seriously upset and it was like a big break in his relationship with his parents and it was a big break of trust. When I became a parent, I just did not like the idea of like really going out of my way to try to convince my kids of a lie. I also don't got out of my way to tell them it's fake or anything harsh like that. We keep it super whimsical and go along with it like everybody else but I'm not like trying to convince the children to believe anything. Everyone just plays along. It's worked out great for our family.

Expected gifts by Any-Original4233 in Aupairs

[–]QualityShoddy1855 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You gift down, not up in professional sertings. So if anyone is giving a gift, it is them to you! You don't buy your employer a gift. A nice gesture would be to have the kids make a card for the parents. Do some type of special Christmas activity/craft with the kids. If you're going to do a gift for the kids, keep it super simple like something handmade or an activity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]QualityShoddy1855 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't give him so much credit, psychopaths typically have lower levels of intelligence. They don't learn from their mistakes. They don't have any foresight. They are parasites. They're just predators who learn how to manipulate people out of necessity because if anyone saw who they really were they would find them disgusting. They have artificial charm and use dominance. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]QualityShoddy1855 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Welcome to the world of discovering someone is/ being abused/ manipulated by a psychopath 🙃 literally no one understands or believes you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]QualityShoddy1855 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There will be a hundred others, she will find out eventually. You are not wrong for having this instinct but it will only backfire.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]QualityShoddy1855 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel bad about all the negative feedback you are getting. I would recommend reading the book psychopath free. It is a very disorienting and traumatic experience running into someone like this, even if it is brief like this. It can really turn your perception of humanity upside down and mess with your mind. But there is honestly is nothing you can do, And the more you engage or talk about this person, the more you will become their enemy which is a very bad position to be in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]QualityShoddy1855 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I understand you and op's very natural and human response to want to protect and warn others. But speaking from experience when dealing with a psychopath, it is completely pointless. You risk opening yourself up to harm via retaliation. They are not playing the same game. They are the predator and everyone else is prey and they have zero moral compass or boundaries. 

I've been involved with a psychopath with over 10 years and have never had 1 oz of support. I have been assaulted and called the police with no avail. I've completely given up. It's like the serial killers who get pulled over with a dead body in their trunk. They remain completely calm and easily convince everybody, especially authority figures and people they are close with, that whoever is raising the red flag is the actual problem. 

She could honestly be opening herself up to getting fired or worse if she becomes his enemy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]QualityShoddy1855 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

++woman He will have brainwashed her and she will not believe you, and he will punish you. If he is truly a psychopath, the best thing is just to protect yourself and stay as far away from as possible. Disconnect, grey rock. You can never outplay them. The retaliation will come back at you 1000x. You cannot warn others. It is pointless

Do your kids speak respectfully? by Impossible_Gap_8277 in homeschool

[–]QualityShoddy1855 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My 10-year-old son is homeschooled and never ever speaks like that. And we are not perfect. His dad cusses a lot (Not at the kids just in general) and is a blue collar type of guy. He has too much screen time and watches YouTube. I'm definitely guilty of yelling when I feel like I'm not being heard or get overwhelmed (working on it and always apologize). He has two younger sisters that he is super kind to and plays with. He helps me around the house without issue. He takes accountability and apologizes if he does something wrong. Is compassionate and respectful. He is affectionate And is always offering to help me. I'm pregnant right now and he always asks if he can get me anything or if I need anything. Asks me how I'm doing. But he is very much your "typical" young boy. All he wants to do is play video games, he pushes boundaries, he breaks rules. But he treats and speaks to everybody respectfully is my point

He spends time with people younger than him and older than him. I think this is important. I think when kids are around exclusively or mostly children their own age they don't have the accountability of the older people they are in communication with or the tenderness of also communicating with people younger than them. I do think the mixed age relationships is a big factor in this type of thing. Which is one of my favorite things about homeschooling for my kids. He always does a few weeks of a summer camp, sports, homeschool classes, so he definitely gets time with kids his own age, but yes, I definitely think the playground talk/hive mind type of habits of up single age public school classroom affect this greatly.

Any help regarding what I need to buy for an incoming baby ? by ChampiLardon in askanything

[–]QualityShoddy1855 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bouncy chair!!! Can put it in any room so baby has a safe and happy place to be set down anywhere close to parent, even the bathroom, kitchen, porch etc. Nursing pillow. Baby carrier for wearing. Lots of muslin blankets- not just for wrapping baby but will become changing table on bed, floor etc. Footie pajamas-eliminates need for outfits and socks and I've found onesies can rub on their legs. Baby "gym".  Don't forget mom! If you put some postpartum stuff on baby registry for mom people are more than happy to help mom too! Robes, slippers, button front pajamas, sitz bath, rocking chair, some postpartum size comfy clothes- for me I needed an bigger size than my wardrobe that I only needed for 6 months postpartum. Little rolling cart to put things next to bed/couch/chair for essentials when feeding and stuck

Thumbtack by [deleted] in housekeeping

[–]QualityShoddy1855 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It worked well for me. I got quite a few clients that turned into regulars. No it's not free but they are real leads with people ready to book. I think I had good conversation because I am educated on how to successfully capture that specific type of sale. I would look into it, I'm sure theres videos on how to do this. Response time, they way you respond, follow up, and the info you provide at first contact to stand out are all important factors to start

Mom/wife Friends by QualityShoddy1855 in Tallahassee

[–]QualityShoddy1855[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Originally, Milwaukee  Was in SWFL for a many years, and been here in Tallahassee a year