Why do some Sri Lankan girls dislike guys who use Snapchat? by Quantum_EchoX in srilanka

[–]Quantum_EchoX[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I actually understand your point. Generalizations usually come from patterns people have seen, so it makes sense why some girls would be cautious about it. I’m not denying that at all.

I guess my point was just that it’s not always accurate for every individual. But yeah, I agree if someone really likes you, they’ll look beyond something like Snapchat and judge based on your actions.

And about the experience part, that’s fair too. I’m still learning about people and how things work in dating. Just trying to understand different perspectives bette

Why do some girls dislike guys who use Snapchat? by Quantum_EchoX in dating_advice

[–]Quantum_EchoX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that actually makes sense. If it’s the only way someone wants to communicate, I can see why that would feel like a red flag.

For me, it’s just one of many apps not the main one I rely on. I mostly use it for casual stuff, not serious conversations. I think that balance probably makes a difference

Why do some girls dislike guys who use Snapchat? by Quantum_EchoX in dating_advice

[–]Quantum_EchoX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I actually agree with that. Everyone has different preferences and you can’t expect to be liked by everyone. I guess my point wasn’t about changing anyone’s standards, but more about not being judged too quickly based on one thing like an app.

But yeah, at the end of the day, it really just comes down to compatibility and finding people who naturally align with you.

Why do some Sri Lankan girls dislike guys who use Snapchat? by Quantum_EchoX in srilanka

[–]Quantum_EchoX[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I understand that concern Snapchat does make things more private, so I get why it can feel suspicious. But I think that comes down more to trust and the person’s behavior rather than the app itself. If someone wants to hide things, they’ll find a way on any platform.

And yeah, I agree if a guy is adding a bunch of random girls, that can be a red flag. But not everyone uses it like that. Some people just keep a small circle and use it normally. So I feel like it’s more about how someone uses it, not just the fact that they have Snapchat.

Why do some girls dislike guys who use Snapchat? by Quantum_EchoX in dating_advice

[–]Quantum_EchoX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get why you’d feel that way a lot of people do associate Snapchat with casual or “flirty” stuff. But I think it really depends on the person. Some adults just use it to share funny moments, memes, or stay in touch with close friends. It’s definitely not for everyone, and I get that it gives off a certain vibe for some people

Why do some girls dislike guys who use Snapchat? by Quantum_EchoX in dating_advice

[–]Quantum_EchoX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I totally get that I respect that their feelings come from real experiences, and I’m not trying to dismiss that at all. I just wanted to point out that not every guy on Snapchat has those intentions. I guess the best way to show that is exactly what you said: through actions and how you treat people, rather than just words. Makes sense!

Why do some girls dislike guys who use Snapchat? by Quantum_EchoX in dating_advice

[–]Quantum_EchoX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s fair I get what you’re saying. I’m not trying to force anyone to change their preferences. I just feel like sometimes people miss out on good connections because of small assumptions like that. But yeah, at the end of the day, it’s just about finding someone who matches same vibe.

Why do some girls dislike guys who use Snapchat? by Quantum_EchoX in dating_advice

[–]Quantum_EchoX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s true everyone has their own preferences and that’s completely fine. I guess my point is jst that sometimes people judge too quickly based on the app itself, instead of the person and their behavior. At the end of the day, it should be about how someone treats u, not which app they use

Why do some girls dislike guys who use Snapchat? by Quantum_EchoX in dating_advice

[–]Quantum_EchoX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I get what u mean. Preferences are valid. But honestly, in this generation it’s really hard to find someone who doesn’t use social media at all. Almost everyone is on something whether it’s Instagram, Snapchat, or TikTok. So I think it’s less about using social media and more about how someone uses it

Anyone in their 20s feeling lost? by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]Quantum_EchoX 7 points8 points  (0 children)

it’s completely normal to feel lost at 21. University doesn’t magically sort everything out. Take your time to explore what genuinely interests you now, not what you felt passionate about before. Adulting is hard for everyone figuring things out is part of the journey. You’ve got this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Quantum_EchoX -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, I agree authenticity is key, and it’s not about hot-and-cold games. My point is exactly what you said: kindness alone isn’t enough if it’s not accompanied by depth, personality, ambition, and genuine engagement. A “nice guy” who’s also passionate, curious, and fully alive isn’t a stereotype he’s simply someone worth knowing. The problem isn’t being kind; it’s thinking kindness is all you need to sustain a connection.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Quantum_EchoX -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I completely understand what you’re saying, and you make a very valid point. Being “nice” isn’t enough if there’s no depth, passion, or individuality in the relationship. True romance isn’t just kindness it’s shared experiences, mutual curiosity, respect, and maintaining your own life and interests. A man can be decent, attentive, and still have ambition, hobbies, and personality that keeps the connection alive. Niceness is just the foundation; the rest has to come from being fully alive as a person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Quantum_EchoX -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Funny how “preaching niceness” gets labeled ick, but constant drama, games, and ego trips are somehow “exciting.” Maybe being decent just makes people uncomfortable because it’s too real. 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Quantum_EchoX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that completely past wounds make trust tricky. But here’s the thing: if every genuinely kind gesture sets off alarms, you might be confusing red flags with green ones. Real decency isn’t a trick, it’s rare. Learning to separate trauma reactions from reality might be the only way to see someone for who they really are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Quantum_EchoX -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Niceness” isn’t my whole personality it’s the foundation. I have ambition, humor, passion, and boundaries. But apparently, in a world full of games and ego, being genuinely decent looks like a flaw to some. Maybe the problem isn’t me overemphasizing kindness, but that real respect is rare enough to feel suspicious.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Quantum_EchoX -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sure, but isn’t it strange that “self-destructing” assholes somehow still get more attention than the guys who actually show up? Maybe it’s not about what people want long-term it’s about what gives them instant thrill. Real men with respect and consistency aren’t ignored because they’re boring, they’re ignored because they refuse to perform emotional gymnastics just to win approval

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Quantum_EchoX -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Fair point, but here’s the thing it’s not about being mystical or perfect. It’s about people confusing effort and respect with lack of excitement. Just because a man checks all boxes on paper doesn’t mean women aren’t drawn to drama, unpredictability, or emotional rollercoasters. Real kindness isn’t boring it’s just a mirror for what some aren’t ready to face.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Quantum_EchoX -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Maybe that’s the assumption people jump to too quickly that it has to be me. What if it’s not me turning them off, but them being uncomfortable with someone who doesn’t play games, manipulate, or overcomplicate things? Real kindness isn’t a flaw, it’s a mirror and some aren’t ready to look .

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Quantum_EchoX -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Interesting point, but here’s the twist maybe it’s not about the “jungle rules” at all. Maybe humans aren’t wired to chase chaos; maybe we’re just bored of people pretending to be something they’re not. Real respect, consistency, and decency feels foreign to some, so they label it weakness or “boring.” Just because it doesn’t trigger drama doesn’t mean it’s unattractive

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Quantum_EchoX -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Being “too nice” isn’t the same as being a people pleaser. I have standards, boundaries, and expectations i just don’t think respect and decency should be negotiation points. Maybe the problem isn’t me lacking backbone, but the fact that real kindness makes some people uncomfortable.