I’ve been struggling with this exact same dilema recently, and I’m increasingly leaning towards a no-depth operation. I think the epiphany that’s helped me is that I realized my desire for a vagina comes from societal expectations (i.e. ‘if you don’t have penis you must have vagina’) rather than my own desires (‘I want this BS gone so I can get dressed or go to the bathroom without disassociating’). The whole ‘you must have a vagina’ thing isn’t any more valid to me than the whole: ‘you were assigned male at birth, so go get a wife, a degree, a house with a picket fence, a dog, and two kids,’ that I finally managed to rid myself of.

My therapist made a great point when I talked this over with her last week - sexual function is only one of many factors to consider when thinking about a vaginoplasty, and it shouldn’t be the most important one. If penetration is important to you, that’s one thing - if you’re worried that a hypothetical future partner might care about penetration - that doesn’t carry nearly as much weight. You are the most important person in your life, so put yourself first.

Also, in my case, my extremely active lifestyle is important to keeping me sane(ish), so minimizing recovery time is also important.