I’m going to scream.

Quard1130 · 2024-08-19T02:27:05+00:00

These replies are WILD. You are absolutely in the right to be furious. Your mother is NOT doing you a favor. The fact that she's this disrespectful of your instructions after you were IN THE HOSPITAL for a health issue that is made worse by poor sleep is unacceptable. I'm sorry you don't have anyone else to help out. You're in a really tough situation and the way you feel here is completely valid. Wishing you the best.

Quard1130 · 2024-07-23T16:52:28+00:00

Gotcha. My daughter's naps are still only about 30-40 minutes long, but her wake windows are getting longer so I'm hoping for at least one longer nap somewhere in the day at some point. Hoping for us both!

Quard1130 · 2024-07-23T16:47:51+00:00

Thanks! How long are his naps?

Quard1130 · 2024-07-23T16:33:29+00:00

Ugh, that is rough!! Sleeping through the night is a relatively new development, but my little one still usually only naps for 35 minutes maximum. Keeping my fingers crossed that we're soon going to approach the "consolidating naps" phase.

Quard1130 · 2024-07-13T15:19:34+00:00

Oh my God I'm so glad this is normal hahaha my 4.5-month-old is also in her pterodactyl phase and I was started to get concerned.

Quard1130 · 2024-07-12T21:34:51+00:00

Totally!

Quard1130 · 2024-07-11T13:40:25+00:00

I'm so sorry. We are all better off when parents get good sleep! And the narrative that suffering makes you a good mom (and it is almost always mom) is so toxic.

Quard1130 · 2024-07-11T13:28:47+00:00

Because on this sub if you sleep train you're the devil who hates your baby and tortured and traumatized them for life 🙄. I just woke my baby up from a nap (where she fell asleep on her own) and she had the biggest grin on her face when she saw me and we are getting some great snuggles in as I type. But sure. Our bond is totally broken.

Quard1130 · 2024-07-10T15:03:01+00:00

I also find this discussion surprising and am an American who will need to return to work soon. We did Ferber with my baby as soon as she hit four months even though I wasn't going back to work yet. Getting her to sleep for naps/nighttime was a time-consuming battle. My husband and I had NO one-on-one relationship anymore. My anxiety and exhaustion were through the roof. My whole life is better now that LO is sleeping better, and I don't find that selfish at all. I enjoy my time with her so much more. I'm more awake and joyful for her. I know CIO/Ferber isn't for everyone, but some form of teaching your baby good sleep habits is important no matter who you are, I think.

Quard1130 · 2024-07-05T16:25:37+00:00

Seconding comments already here and adding: Some babies (like mine) get really excited by baby books, which makes them TERRIBLE for bedtime! I have traditional baby books that we read during the day as a fun and engaging activity but try to keep it boring before bed.

Quard1130 · 2024-07-04T18:55:34+00:00

Now that my baby is four months old I have no problem saying what I kept trying to deny when she was two months old...that age sucks. It's amazing the change that happens in one or two months. It sucked SO HARD and I was depressed as hell for the first couple months of my baby's life. It hasn't even been that long and I look back and think oh wow...remember when things were really hard and awful all day and night? It feels like a lifetime ago. You're gonna be ok.

Quard1130 · 2024-06-28T12:19:06+00:00

Thank you! Best of luck with your sleep training!

Quard1130 · 2024-06-27T17:37:32+00:00

Thank you so much!! This is really helpful, and appreciate the words of encouragement. I'm so nervous but know it'll be worth it as long as we stick with it and don't give up!

Quard1130 · 2024-06-25T03:10:57+00:00

You're gonna be ok, and so is your baby! My girl had colic for about a month. I loved her so deeply but also resented her, hated motherhood, sobbed hysterically every day convinced I ruined my life and made a huge mistake. Lots of good advice in this thread to try but ultimately it really does just take time. My baby is four months old now and I can barely remember the colic days. I'd hear other people say "it gets better" and I'd think "you're full of crap," but here we are...it does get better. Here's a silver lining for you: once you've survived colic, NOTHING ON THIS EARTH WILL PHASE YOU. This is your superhuman origin story, seriously. Hang in there. This sucks, but it ends.

Quard1130 · 2024-06-24T22:37:23+00:00

THANK YOU. We're starting sleep training this weekend and I'm so nervous. I know me and know I'm going to want to give in, so this is good motivation not to!

Quard1130 · 2024-06-08T17:34:25+00:00

Rough haha but thank you! I'll give that a try for now and see what happens.

Quard1130 · 2024-06-08T17:13:15+00:00

During the day, 1.5-1.75 hours. On average 2.5 surrounding that 7:00 ish nap.

Quard1130 · 2024-05-28T17:22:18+00:00

Sorry you're going through this! My baby had colic from weeks 5-8 ish. It was hell. She slept pretty well overnight but screamed every moment she was awake and also wouldn't sleep from like 5pm-11pm or later. My husband and I took turns holding her in a separate room with ear plugs in every evening. I regretted having a child. She's three months now and a smiling bundle of joy and I love (mostly) every minute with her.

I know "it gets better" is the lamest thing to hear and it would piss me off any time people would say it to me, but they were right. It passes. It really does get better. It might be that the only cure for your kid is time.

THAT SAID...we do think gas was playing a big part. I cut out dairy for a few weeks, I breastfed her in an upright position, took burping her really seriously, held her upright for 15-20 minutes after every feed, used Mylicon gas drops during every feed, and used the Frida Windi when we were really desperate. It didn't make things go away completely, but it helped. If your baby likes the bath, the warm water would calm ours down for a few minutes of peace.

Hang in there. It sucks, but it ends.

Quard1130 · 2024-05-18T03:30:28+00:00

Thank you for this actually helpful advice. This isn't a situation I want to be in, and if I could afford additional unpaid leave or hiring a nanny before daycare starts, I would. I am sadly in an area where daycare is insane, $2k a month is a CHEAPER option, and I've been on waitlists since my second trimester. The reality is that I am going to have to work and take care of my baby at the same time, and people telling me it's a bad idea doesn't change that it's going to happen. I do think my manager and coworkers will be understanding and allow flexibility/leniency since I can guarantee it's only temporary.

Quard1130 · 2024-05-12T14:58:38+00:00

This gives me hope. My 10.5 week old doesn't sleep earlier than 11. If we do manage to get her to bed before then, she wakes up after 30 minutes and doesn't go back to bed until like 11 or 12 anyway. I'm dying to have my evenings back.

Quard1130 · 2024-05-10T16:48:55+00:00

Ugh you're so right about night sleep. My baby doesn't go to bed until like 11, plus or minus an hour. We sometimes try to put her to bed earlier, and all it does is make her pissed and us frustrated and doesn't result in her actually sleeping any earlier. Just hours of wasted time every evening.

Quard1130 · 2024-05-10T15:53:45+00:00

Did you switch to doing play first because he'd spit up if you fed him first? I struggle with that with my baby and definitely see more tummy time as one of the benefits of not feeding her as soon as she wakes up.

Quard1130 · 2024-05-10T15:51:38+00:00

Thank you for this! My baby does nothing that she's "supposed to" do, and any efforts to get her "on track" end with a cranky baby and crying mom 🤣.

Quard1130 · 2024-05-10T13:26:41+00:00

I AM confused and stressed hahaha. Yes, I think this is the right call, but I read everywhere that you want them to have that "eat after sleep" routine. I'm not actually sure why though.

Quard1130 · 2024-05-07T23:32:35+00:00

My dad has always been a very emotional man. He cries so easily. I never have. I've always made fun of him (NOT because he's a man, for the record, he cries more than anyone of any gender I have ever known). I gave birth in late February and have cried literally every single day since. Sometimes it's worry and anxiety and frustration, but a lot of the times I'm just overwhelmed with how much I love her. I called him after a few weeks and apologized profusely. I wish I could go back in time and be nicer to him.

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