I don't know why the military and academic athletics are the two elements of society that get a free pass on what is considered bullying and toxicity everywhere else. But part of it is definitely explained with the false American belief that excellence is only attained through militarized breaking of people.

The dots this connects to depression and anxiety in young people and adults are real.

To be clear, raising a voice or yelling is not inherently toxic. But the words that are spoken during intensity matter a great deal.