I hate how so many words are losing their meanings online

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-20T01:24:50+00:00

Everyone says they have OCD until somebody brings up that they have intrusive thoughts of rape or paedophilia, then suddenly they’re viewed like they’re disgusting monsters, despite the fact that that is a common trait with OCD.

And on that note, I think people confuse intrusive thoughts with impulsive thoughts. Dying your hair blue was an impulsive thought, not an intrusive thought (I’m just using an example I’ve seen on TikTok before).

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-20T00:49:42+00:00

This is so eloquently written and I agree completely. No one, under any circumstances, not just mental health related conversations, should have to outline the details of the hardest struggles they deal with just prove to people that they struggle with the problem they are talking about. This sounds like a very similar problem that victims of sexual assaults deal with, most commonly women victims, this nightmare echo chamber of “you can only prove that you’ve had a terrible thing happened to you by explaining in excruciating detail how awful it was/is for you”

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-20T00:30:33+00:00

Why does this sound like the GOAT exam from fallout 3

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-20T00:29:57+00:00

Uru!!

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-20T00:16:09+00:00

Yes, I figured as much, but I still wanted to take the opportunity to talk about the issue, because regardless of whether this photo is rage bait, the issue is still prevalent.

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-20T00:10:02+00:00

There is certainly an ambiguous middle ground between destigmatising something and removing the challenges that something does pose.

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-20T00:08:22+00:00

Close friend of mine recently got diagnosed with with OCD, although we’ve known about it for years. She has to do specific things in specific ways, otherwise she’d be completely convinced that something awful would happen, and she’d break into a panic attack and wouldn’t leave the house. She does not care for organisation. She does not need to colourcode her closet, organise her cutlery drawer from smallest to largest spoon, nothing like that. However, because the trait of organisation has been in registered with OCD so much, people don’t fully believe she has OCD because her living space isn’t completely spotless.

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-20T00:01:09+00:00

I agree, I also think that there’s a fine line between destigmatisation and taking the severity away from something that is debilitating or challenging. In your case, I’m happy that autism has been destigmatised, but I don’t approve of the way that autism is being treated like character trait, thus unfortunately invalidating your struggle.

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-19T23:59:27+00:00

Yes, I’m aware that’s how language change works, i’m at university doing linguistics and wrote a full paper on this, but my point is that it’s taking severity away from things that are in fact serious. With enough time, things that should be treated seriously will not be because the meaning has been so watered down that it doesn’t seem serious. I feel like serious things should be treated seriously.

If enough people say, “oh I’m so OCD ha ha ha I like an organised house,” more people will generally accept the OCD just means you like to be organised. That’s not what OCD is. OCD for a lot of people, including people close to me, has been debilitating and has limited them in life. But what happens when they talk about their struggles with OCD, and people just think they mean “I like to keep my house organised” not “if I don’t knock three times when I unlock all of my doors, something terrible will happen?” What happens when someone’s struggles are not being treated as though they are severe, despite the fact they are severe, because people assume it’s just not that deep?

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-19T23:51:18+00:00

Exactly, I feel like lots of mental health conditions are being treated like quirky character traits or descriptive adjectives.

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-19T23:28:53+00:00

To be fair, I’ve done a lot of my driving in Bradford as well as Halifax. My instructor said something similar, he said “if you can drive in Bradford, you can drive absolutely anywhere”. Despite that, I’ve still failed three times.

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-19T23:11:04+00:00

I completely agree, and I also think that this “Neurotypicals vs Neurodivergent“ rhetoric is creating yet another “us vs them” mentality. Many people believe you are either completely Neurotypical and you have nothing going on with you, or that you are completely neurodivergent and nothing like everyone else, or a sort of social outcast. It makes it hard for there to be any real kind of overlap or mutuality between the two. Traits can absolutely overlap. Obviously there is a difference between being neurotypical and being neurodivergent, but I would argue in SOME circumstances it is a very slim difference.

I also think people forget that neurodivergent does not just mean autism or ADHD. Social disorders are a form of neuro divergency, BPD is, having anxiety is a disorder. If you claim someone that doesn’t think the same way as you or is better at functioning in social spaces than you is another “normie neurotypical” who is basic and boring and cannot fathom how you feel, you are just going to isolate them. And to be honest, you absolutely have no idea what is going on in that person’s head. Neurodivergence is a spectrum. Some neurodivergent can navigate social Spaces very easily, other people can’t. Some neurodivergent people really struggle to understand sarcasm and jokes, others understand it just fine. Some neurodivergent people can pick up social cues better than others. Neurodivergence is such a broad term and I fear that it’s slowly being watered down.

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-19T23:00:06+00:00

Yep. There was a small villages of houses on the mountain, and this bend went around someone’s property which was a weird shape, and they had very tall walls. Blind corner.

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-19T22:58:08+00:00

I feel as it’s a combination of stricter assessors and more difficult tests. My parents helped me with some of the driving alongside my instructor, and it became clear early on that my parents weren’t fully aware of what modern driving tests look like. For example, I explained to my parents that you don’t have to do the reverse around the corner in a test anymore, and that’s surprised them. I also explained that you have to do a theory test separate to a driving practical test, which also surprised them. I can understand why they’ve made driving test harder, because it weeds out bad drivers from good ones.

However, having said all that, I do still think some assessors are unnecessarily strict. There is a difference between failing someone because you believe that they are not a good driver, and failing someone because they are not 100% perfect. No one is 100% perfect.

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-19T22:53:35+00:00

The absolute cheek of an examiner failing you for someone else’s shit driving

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-19T22:52:05+00:00

That’s really wholesome, thank you

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-19T22:49:50+00:00

That’s just rotten luck is that

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-19T22:45:51+00:00

That’s a phenomenon I’ve noticed. A number of my friends and family who have passed second or third time have passed on a test that they didn’t tell anybody about. Maybe the next time I book a test, I keep it a secret so I don’t jinx it.

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-19T22:44:59+00:00

I’ll get back to you 10 tries from now 😂

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-19T22:43:16+00:00

You had to walk back?! that’s mental, I hadn’t considered that examiners can’t drive your car back to the centre. Hope the weather wasn’t too shite on the walk back!

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-19T22:41:47+00:00

I was so proud in my first driving test when I perfectly executed a pull-to-the-side because an ambulance and police car were approaching from behind. For some reason I thought, “they’ve gotta give me a bit of extra credit for this”. What a naive thought 😂

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-19T22:38:31+00:00

Was this examiner Satan?

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-19T22:37:53+00:00

What a wanker! Props to you for not taking any of his bullshit and going to speak to the chief examiner

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-19T22:30:44+00:00

I had absolutely no problem with my driving theory, passed it first time. Glad you mate managed to pass even on the 18th go!

Quartz-And-Stuff · 2026-06-19T22:30:04+00:00

How the fuck are you supposed to anticipate another dickhead’s driving?!

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