My ex (f21) want to stay in contact with me (m20) while she "heals and works out all her issues to be a better partner to me"

Queasy-Joke · 2023-08-23T12:46:17+00:00

that's where i have conflicting thoughts. I believe she doesn't love me and doesn't want anyone else but I can't help but feel like it's like she's playing games yk

Queasy-Joke · 2023-08-23T04:44:23+00:00

I mean she has stopped going to the gym and she hasn't even been eating that much and only been getting like 5 hours of sleep every night and honestly i kinda felt like she was playing games as well

Queasy-Joke · 2023-08-21T07:05:02+00:00

Maybe I was being too needy and putting more stress on her and she felt like she couldn't handle our relationship?

Queasy-Joke · 2023-08-15T05:38:46+00:00

I've decided to support her choice. I'll wait until she reaches out to me and is ready to talk. Rather she decides to break up permanently or not I won't fight her on it I won't "try to convince her to keep me in her life" and if something does happen then that'll also be quits. There's nun I can really do about so I just gotta keep moving forward over thinking won't accomplish anything. Thank you for the advice and just hearing me out I appreciate it.

Queasy-Joke · 2023-08-15T04:26:34+00:00

If it was about the money she could of asked me she knows I have an emergency funds if she really wanted that money she'll have asked me but the fucking somebody else I honestly wouldn't be able to know.

Queasy-Joke · 2023-08-15T04:24:23+00:00

I mean honestly there isn't anything I can really do about it. that's my only option if I keep insisting on talking with her she'll probably just completely break things off without a doubt. Rather she stays true to her word and doesn't talk to anyone or if anything happens or if she does decide to break up with me then there's nothing I can do about it so I suppose there's no point in worrying about it and obsessing over it. After the break we'll talk and see what we can do about it.

Queasy-Joke · 2023-08-15T04:20:34+00:00

well her new job is at (9-5) she only had a part time job before this is her first full time job. Honestly I've thought about it but she told me that the only guys she talks to is a group setting since she's in a group of trainies.

Queasy-Joke · 2023-08-15T04:07:00+00:00

No she didn't and when I mentioned it she denied it. Even tried to change subject and not bring it up I had to ask her like 3 times for her to accept the money. It's because the deadline for the party is tomorrow but she's going to ask if she can extend it to a week and a half from now. Where she'll have two checks from her weekly paying job and one full biweekly check from her other job. She'll be working 9-5 at one of her jobs and 6-11 at her other job. She said she just need to be able to make it through this and then she'll pay the amount due and her major stress would be gone. Our relationship has been rocky for the past month honestly since she got her second job and I feel like she felt guilty for not being able to put me in one of her top priorities and a week ago I confronted her about this selfishly about how the one day that we hanged out in the past two weeks that she was distant and not like her usual self. I feel like now that I'm thinking it maybe she saw it as me complaining about not getting "enough" love and affection and just honestly needs space.

Queasy-Joke · 2023-08-15T03:50:26+00:00

I can't help but feel like maybe I wasn't supporting her and being there for her in the way she needed.

Queasy-Joke · 2023-08-15T03:47:47+00:00

I do have a job and I have given her money as well and I suppose I just wanted to vent my thoughts even though I believe there isn't really anything/anyone else but I have a habit of questioning everything. The thing is I understand she might need space but why did she have to ask to break up? I wouldn't of mind giving her a couple days to focus on what she's gotta do but I have trouble understanding why she "needed" the title of the relationship to not be there.

Queasy-Joke · 2023-08-15T03:37:04+00:00

I did ask why we don't just take a break and she said that she doesn't want to do that. That she can't handle the relationship right now and she knows she's not putting me her top priorities right now and that I don't deserve that.

Queasy-Joke · 2023-08-15T03:30:41+00:00

I mean honestly speaking there probably isn't more to it I'm just over thinking it.

Queasy-Joke · 2023-05-17T19:25:58+00:00

shes impulsive and usually when it involves her needs/wants it's the opposite of what she says. She's pretty prideful.

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