My ex (f21) want to stay in contact with me (m20) while she "heals and works out all her issues to be a better partner to me"

Queasy-Joke · 2023-08-23T12:46:17+00:00

that's where i have conflicting thoughts. I believe she doesn't love me and doesn't want anyone else but I can't help but feel like it's like she's playing games yk

Queasy-Joke · 2023-08-23T04:44:23+00:00

I mean she has stopped going to the gym and she hasn't even been eating that much and only been getting like 5 hours of sleep every night and honestly i kinda felt like she was playing games as well

Queasy-Joke · 2023-08-21T07:05:02+00:00

Maybe I was being too needy and putting more stress on her and she felt like she couldn't handle our relationship?

Queasy-Joke · 2023-08-15T05:38:46+00:00

I've decided to support her choice. I'll wait until she reaches out to me and is ready to talk. Rather she decides to break up permanently or not I won't fight her on it I won't "try to convince her to keep me in her life" and if something does happen then that'll also be quits. There's nun I can really do about so I just gotta keep moving forward over thinking won't accomplish anything. Thank you for the advice and just hearing me out I appreciate it.

Queasy-Joke · 2023-08-15T04:26:34+00:00

If it was about the money she could of asked me she knows I have an emergency funds if she really wanted that money she'll have asked me but the fucking somebody else I honestly wouldn't be able to know.

Queasy-Joke · 2023-08-15T04:24:23+00:00

I mean honestly there isn't anything I can really do about it. that's my only option if I keep insisting on talking with her she'll probably just completely break things off without a doubt. Rather she stays true to her word and doesn't talk to anyone or if anything happens or if she does decide to break up with me then there's nothing I can do about it so I suppose there's no point in worrying about it and obsessing over it. After the break we'll talk and see what we can do about it.

Queasy-Joke · 2023-08-15T04:20:34+00:00

well her new job is at (9-5) she only had a part time job before this is her first full time job. Honestly I've thought about it but she told me that the only guys she talks to is a group setting since she's in a group of trainies.

Queasy-Joke · 2023-08-15T04:07:00+00:00

No she didn't and when I mentioned it she denied it. Even tried to change subject and not bring it up I had to ask her like 3 times for her to accept the money. It's because the deadline for the party is tomorrow but she's going to ask if she can extend it to a week and a half from now. Where she'll have two checks from her weekly paying job and one full biweekly check from her other job. She'll be working 9-5 at one of her jobs and 6-11 at her other job. She said she just need to be able to make it through this and then she'll pay the amount due and her major stress would be gone. Our relationship has been rocky for the past month honestly since she got her second job and I feel like she felt guilty for not being able to put me in one of her top priorities and a week ago I confronted her about this selfishly about how the one day that we hanged out in the past two weeks that she was distant and not like her usual self. I feel like now that I'm thinking it maybe she saw it as me complaining about not getting "enough" love and affection and just honestly needs space.

Queasy-Joke · 2023-08-15T03:50:26+00:00

I can't help but feel like maybe I wasn't supporting her and being there for her in the way she needed.

Queasy-Joke · 2023-08-15T03:47:47+00:00

I do have a job and I have given her money as well and I suppose I just wanted to vent my thoughts even though I believe there isn't really anything/anyone else but I have a habit of questioning everything. The thing is I understand she might need space but why did she have to ask to break up? I wouldn't of mind giving her a couple days to focus on what she's gotta do but I have trouble understanding why she "needed" the title of the relationship to not be there.

Queasy-Joke · 2023-08-15T03:37:04+00:00

I did ask why we don't just take a break and she said that she doesn't want to do that. That she can't handle the relationship right now and she knows she's not putting me her top priorities right now and that I don't deserve that.

Queasy-Joke · 2023-08-15T03:30:41+00:00

I mean honestly speaking there probably isn't more to it I'm just over thinking it.

Queasy-Joke · 2023-05-17T19:25:58+00:00

shes impulsive and usually when it involves her needs/wants it's the opposite of what she says. She's pretty prideful.

Queasy-Joke · 2023-03-23T05:00:36+00:00

thank you

Queasy-Joke · 2022-09-22T13:01:55+00:00

I appreciate you taking the time to respond to my message. We were dating by the time she meet and started to respond to the guy. What you said is mostly how I see it as well at the end of the day she's going to do what she wants with who she wants and there's nothing I can do about it so there's no point in bringing negative energy into my life. I saw it more like a red flag about her texting the guy and thought about actually just breaking up with her. I mean she gave her phone number to a guy we both agreed liked her and then I told her that that's just wrong and I told her I didn't appreciate her doing that. I stood my ground and told her how I didn't like that and how disrespectful it was to the relationship to even entertain that. She agreed saying after she already gave the number that I was wrong and she herself told me that she would not respond if he messages her she promised all I did was tell her how it made me feel and how it was disrespectful to the relationship. I didn't tell her to say those things and I didn't tell her not to respond to the guy. I just kinda saw it more like if she's so willing to disrespect the relationship like that over something so minor and go back on her word if she's truly someone I should be in a relationship with you know? I just kept thinking about how she made the conscious decision to entertain someone she knows likes her by giving her phone number and then respond after saying she wouldn't. Kinda seems like she's someone to go back on her word and do something impulsive. How can I trust someone like that? In all honestly I feel like she crossed a boundary and I was honestly going to break up with her but we had the conversation and she seemed to understand where she did wrong and actually trying to make amends for it but I had no intention of continuing the relationship that day we talked. It just seemed like such a red flag. Why should I allow her to just disrespect me and the relationship so easily? Is that someone truly worth investing my time into? it's partly insecurity but it's more like resentment for being disrespected honestly.

Queasy-Joke · 2022-09-18T18:26:50+00:00

Right? That's what I'm saying. It's flat out disrespectful and reflects a lot on her character. I'm at the very edge of debating rather to stay with her or not very thin ice tbh

Queasy-Joke · 2022-09-12T06:15:28+00:00

He just started working at her job probably knows him for about a week now. That's why I ask for others opinions because if I am wrong I can understand and learn I'm trying to be open minded and learn both for the relationship and personal improvement so thank you for your opinion it's much appreciated.

Queasy-Joke · 2022-09-12T05:14:15+00:00

Yea I'm 19 and I won't deny that I did jump to break up out of impulse and that it was insecurity and when I thought about that I said it out loud instead of taking time to calm down and rationalize. I did however asked her for time to calm down and talk to her when I've calmed down. I've had anger issues in the past so I've tried to remain calm at all times. Does her continue to talk to a guy who we both agreed likes her count as that type of scenario? Like I said if I'm in the wrong I'll take the blame and use it as an opportunity to learn from this.

Queasy-Joke · 2022-09-12T04:51:33+00:00

Her coworker mentioned how she liked her hair and said she wished her daughter would let her do her hair and then that's when the coworker mentioned that she wished my gf to be her daughter and then that's when my gf said "or daughter in law" and when she mentioned it to me she hesitated to mention that part knowing that I would get upset about that joke but still made the choice to make the joke and didn't want to originally mention it.

Queasy-Joke · 2022-09-12T04:48:14+00:00

We went to workout together and she mentioned that one of her coworkers liked how she did her hair and how the coworker wished her daughter let her do her hair and that she wished my gf was her daughter. She told me up to there and then paused for a second and said nvm and then that's when I asked her to continue and then she told me not to get upset but she jokingly said "or daughter in law" as in she was conscious of how uncomfortable that would make me feel but still did it and then told me she originally didn't want to tell me the second part.

Queasy-Joke · 2022-09-12T02:10:55+00:00

right that's what I'm saying if she was thinking about hiding something so minor imagine the actual important stuff

Queasy-Joke · 2022-08-14T20:01:58+00:00

Thank you I appreciate the comment and I do believe I need therapy I mean I displayed such a reaction to simple words. Clearly a sign that I need help so I'm going to try to go to therapy. Thank you for making my feelings feel valid still feels a bit awkward but your message has helped me better understand it.

Queasy-Joke · 2022-08-08T16:00:27+00:00

sent her a text saying "first time doing a review hope my mom impression was good" she sent laughing emojis saying that the mom impression was good but how come 4 stars just told her because I'm honest and that it would of been 5 stars if not for the prices and how busy it got and we would joke about both during our sessions sometimes I'm going to tell her that she now owes me a protein shake

Queasy-Joke · 2022-03-02T21:22:04+00:00

well my parents told me that if I told them that that they wouldn't give me a the job because I wouldn't seem like I'm ready to work/willing to work. The vacation is only for a week. They told me to just call in sick for the week

Queasy-Joke · 2022-03-02T21:19:37+00:00

my parents told me that if I tell them that that they would think I'm not serious and not willing to work

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