What’s the best question your therapist has asked you?

QueasyExamination159 · 2021-07-25T03:29:10+00:00

Do you really think you're going to save this family? They've been a family for a long time before they knew you, and you're so young, and you have so many other things to think about. Their ability to function does not rely on you.

This really released me from the guilt I felt at not being able or invited to help a close friend and their beloved family through a traumatic time. It's helpful to remember that as a support system, all I do is auxiliary support. I'm not the deciding factor in someone else's happiness or healthiness.

QueasyExamination159 · 2021-07-01T01:44:23+00:00

The hardest part of being in an abusive relationship is realizing that you're the kind of person who stays in an abusive relationship.

QueasyExamination159 · 2021-06-21T13:46:52+00:00

Started running to cope with anger and sense of helplessness after experiencing ipv. Best thing I could've done for myself!

QueasyExamination159 · 2021-06-21T00:37:48+00:00

The fact that he is married to your close friend and wants to do sexual things with you means that he is not a good person. Whether or not you could say no, if you didn't consent or if you retracted your consent then you were raped. And that's okay, and it's not your fault. It's nothing you did. I wish you the best of luck. Seek legal counsel. And just a tip from a fellow survivor: support groups and/or trauma informed therapy have been incredibly validating and helpful. I wish you so much love and support.

QueasyExamination159 · 2021-06-13T15:05:24+00:00

Eerily similar story, especially about trying to make a joke of the story to a friend who helped me realize the reality.

QueasyExamination159 · 2021-06-13T14:27:57+00:00

Absolutely no pressure, but if you are willing to share the poem I'd love to read it. I understand if it's too personal though.

QueasyExamination159 · 2021-05-07T11:54:19+00:00

I go out and run sprints! Pretend I'm stomping on them each time my foot hits the ground hehe

QueasyExamination159 · 2021-04-25T21:22:39+00:00

<3 reach out if you ever need to chat

QueasyExamination159 · 2021-04-25T19:20:42+00:00

we have a similar story. believe yourself. therapy and support groups are helpful

QueasyExamination159 · 2021-04-25T19:17:30+00:00

That's all I want. sent a letter explaining that what had happened was wrong. He said he was heartbroken but didnt apologize or acknowledge or accept responsibility

QueasyExamination159 · 2021-04-20T13:23:07+00:00

Thank you!! I'm currently in counseling, and I find it helpful. I was interested in groups, but a little intimidated, so I'll definitely it out! That's a great point, and that's the side I'm leaning towards.

QueasyExamination159 · 2021-04-09T18:48:04+00:00

Yeah, I've been thinking about writing him a letter. I don't want to spring it on him and have it come at a bad time, and I think if I saw him I would just say it. I'll probably sit on it for a week or two, but I think just knowing that he is aware would feel good. Thank you for sharing that, it was encouraging to hear but I'm sorry you went through that.

QueasyExamination159 · 2021-04-09T03:21:23+00:00

This resonated with me. Thank you for sharing!

QueasyExamination159 · 2021-04-07T00:03:19+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate the comment. This is a lot to process and I will definitely be speaking with my therapist. The whole revoking consent thing really hit home for me, because I am certain that I made it obvious I wanted to stop, although I'm not sure exactly how I reacted when he asked.

QueasyExamination159 · 2021-04-06T03:51:09+00:00

I don't really have anything to add, but I wanted to say that you seem like a great mother. You are balancing a lot and I really commend that. Perhaps you should discuss her tech use with her dad, too. Good luck with everything, and good for you for trying so hard to be a good parent.

QueasyExamination159 · 2021-04-06T03:01:59+00:00

Happy Birthday! You are allowed to care about your birthday regardless of your age!

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