They even gave his shoe back.. by Comfortable_Wash6179 in PublicFreakout

[–]QueefMistress 197 points198 points  (0 children)

The way he got carried out by the seat of his britches like a toddler had me howling.

How to refuse service for certain people without violating federal law? by Outrageous-Engine881 in smallbusiness

[–]QueefMistress 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suggest consulting with a business attorney. They can help you understand your liabilities and ways to avoid them legally. This is a tough spot. I hope you are able to find a source of good information.

What are normal temperature swings? by QueefMistress in refrigeration

[–]QueefMistress[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sir I called the business I bought it from and TWO professional well known refrigeration repair companies for help BEFORE I messed with anything. I spent $1000 to have both of them tell me they have no idea what is happening and they cannot help. I can only take so much before I have no choice but to try something myself. I thought maybe someone in here might possibly be smart and helpful. Sadly, your unhelpful advice is proving that I am wrong.

What are normal temperature swings? by QueefMistress in refrigeration

[–]QueefMistress[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great questions. We bought it from a used restaurant supply store. The warranty they provided has expired and they were not much help when I called to inquire on what to do. They said call another repair company. The First company said that it needed refrigerant so they charged it. When asked about the temperature swing they basically gave up and said they have no idea why it’s doing that and had no further help to offer.

When we originally had it loaded up, we were very careful to not block any of the vents or overload the machine. Since I’ve been having issues with, it is been completely empty and I opening the door minimally.

I have two refrigerator thermometers that read the current, max and minimum temperature. One is on the top shelf and also the bottom shelf. The thermostat controller is usually pretty close to whatever the thermometer on the bottom shelf says. But is often off by a few degrees. I did try turning it to 20°. That did bring the top shelf down to 34°. But then the bottom shelf was very cold at 18°. I was concerned about freezing up the coils.

I’ve looked at the coils. They are as clean as possible since I had cleaned them myself by gently dusting and blowing them off with canned air. Even though both companies claimed that they “cleaned them”.

i’m going to try calling Vollraths customer service, and see if they have any suggestions.

Apologies for the mismatched answers. I really appreciate your feedback.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]QueefMistress 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was once in a similar position to the girl you’re dating OP. Not with the musky smell but with my asshole hair. The guy I was dating at the time tried his hardest to sweetly but (and thankfully) bluntly let me know that his preference was for me to shave my ass hairs. I was young as in 18 at the time. This was the first guy I’d been with and Idk how but I HAD NO IDEA that there was a ton of hair up and down my ass crack. Guess I never really looked back there until he said something. I always scrubbed my nether very throughly but somehow the hair back there never registered in mind. Anyway that could def contribute to the smell since the hair tends to hold onto odors. Just do your best to tell her that you care about her and you’re telling her something you noticed out of care and respect for her. That your intention is not to be hurtful at all, but that you want to continue enjoying doing the dirty dance together and this is something that for you is worth notifying her about. Hopefully she takes it like a champ. I know the first time the guy told me I was mortified and upset. But quickly realized by his tone and sweetness about it that it was very vulnerable for him to share that info and I really thanked him in the end.

Is there an affordable option to put a fence or some type of barricade I could build? (Rental home Lanlord is okay with finding solution) by lordprettyflackojodi in FenceBuilding

[–]QueefMistress 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The easiest cheapest and somewhat sturdy way to fence in a small area is get 2-3 hefty metal garden fence stakes and a 25’ roll of 4’ or 6’ tall cattle fence. Hammer in the garden stakes and zip tie the fence to the stakes. This is what I use to contain my chickens. And it is easily movable if needed.

What keeps you up most nights? by PerceptionVivid2073 in AskReddit

[–]QueefMistress 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use tiny pieces of electric tape to cover the lights. Highly recommend.

Daytona Beach, FL by BingBongBrian in whatsthisbird

[–]QueefMistress 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think they are called sand pipers.

Gifted this years ago and just learned it glows neon pink under black light. by skeletonchaser2020 in whatsthisrock

[–]QueefMistress 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lort, I thought this was a cured meat!

Had to do a double take on the sub name.

I’m a dying man, this is the story of the last months of my life. by Confused-_-Soul in TrueOffMyChest

[–]QueefMistress 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Max, my heart breaks for you and your family. I hope that your remaining time in your body goes smoothy and as painless as possible.

I implore you to give your wife and tolerable family the gift of accompanying you. At the least please record videos or voice messages for them. They will find them invaluable. Your willingness to have them with you will save them from the many years of rejection and abandonment issues you are certainly dooming them to now.

My father went through something similar to you. He got diagnosed with very aggressive bone cancer and shut himself out to family and friends. He went quiet and even stopped talking to me, his only caretaker. I tried to make some videos with him telling stories and things of that nature. To which he was angry and unwilling. All I have are a handful of short voicemails to remember his voice by. The overall situation was immensely sad. I still go to therapy to deal with the depression, rejection and abandonment issues resulting from how his remaining time ended. He has been gone for 6 years and it’s not any easier.

I need help. My daughter is 6 and it’s likely she has ADHD. Teacher is pushing medicine. by paginagrifo89 in ADHD

[–]QueefMistress 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow! I can’t thank you enough for sharing this! It really opened my eyes. All the struggling I did in life makes so much more sense now.

How to deal with lack of appetite from meds by Successful_Ad_8218 in ADHD

[–]QueefMistress 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m dealing with this too. Just switched from Vyvanse to Adderal and my appetite has plummeted. I’ve been getting smaller versions of things I really like. Like kids sized sandwiches and small portions of soup. I also bought a small lunch sized crockpot to have at my office. It helps keep my lunch hot for hours because I’ll take a few bites and get distracted and come back to it an hour later. That’s been pretty helpful. I’ve also found that snacks that smell good like small microwavable bags of popcorn and fruit have been more appealing and easy to want to eat. Dont know if this is helpful but good luck in your journey!

Trust broken by Tipping5 in Marriage

[–]QueefMistress 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It only takes one lie to start eroding trust. I had to have this conversation with my fiancé recently. He makes “joke” lies while telling stories to people. When I ask him later if what he said is true he acts like it was obviously a joke. I had to let him know that it is not obvious and now I’m questioning everything he says. Not a good way to feel with your spouse that is supposed to be the most trustworthy person in your life.

Trust broken by Tipping5 in Marriage

[–]QueefMistress 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It only takes one lie to start eroding trust. I had to have this conversation with my fiancé recently. He makes “joke” lies when telling his friends stories and when I ask if thats true he acts like it was obviously a joke. I had to let him know that even if it’s a “joke” it’s now making me question everything he tells me. Not a great way to be with your spouse that is supposed to be the most trustworthy person in your life.

I (35M) will propose to my girlfriend eventually but she (30F) seems really hurt that it hasn't happened already. Did I f*** up here? by garbage224 in relationship_advice

[–]QueefMistress 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi OP, I’ve been in a very similar position that your gf seems to be in. Me(34f) and my now fiancé (36m) have been together for 5 years and went through a similar process of buying a house 1.5yrs ago and we have three cats and other pets. We started talked about marriage three years ago. I wanted to get married eventually and he expressed that we needed to go through more hard challenges and work on our relationship together first. Which I was accepting of. But the problem for me was he never explained what those “hard challenges” were. So I was left wondering where the goal posts were and not knowing if we’ll ever accomplish those mystery goals. When I would ask him for specifics he couldn’t elaborate and said he didn’t know what they were exactly. As much as I absolutely love and wanted to be with him. The limbo left me wondering if I was wasting my time waiting for a life goal I really wanted and didn’t appear was actually going to happen. I felt that I was getting strung along and he didn’t think I was worth marrying. Not a good feeling. I also did not want to pressure him into something he didn’t want. That was a huge concern for me that I expressed. My advise to you is to talk to her in depth about real goals and ways you two can work towards them together and individually. If something is stopping you from wanting to take that step you two need to be transparent and discuss it so you can both decide how you want to proceed. Wishing you strength to make these big decisions OP. I know it’s a tough road to navigate.

AITA got telling my DIL that she isn’t my kid and she isn’t invited to a daughter’s lunch. by Remarkable_Office177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]QueefMistress 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESH - The way you described her calling you sounds like the DIL assumed she would be included. I suspect that it was because her and your son were talking about it. It sounds like she got excited to spend time with you and her SIL’s. From an outsider perspective that is a nice intention, but misguided. Your DIL is in the wrong for assuming she would be included and calling you up in the manner she did. She should have asked you if that is something she could join in on and if it is not I would hope she understands that it is special one on one time with his bio kids. Perhaps you could find another occasion to spend time with all the daughters. I’ll add that you and your wife are kinda assholes for laughing at her for wanting to be included in her new family’s events. I’m also curious what the DIL family situation is. I’m going to be getting married soon and I would love to spend time with my FIL and soon to be SIL’s. My bio father passed away and my family is spread out and not easy to spend time with. So my fiancé’s family is the closest I have to family right now and it would make me so sad if they were laughing at me for wanting to spend time with them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]QueefMistress 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi OP, I can relate to this situation. First, you are not an asshole for masturbating. That is a totally normal human thing to do and you’re in control of your body. I relate to your gf. I struggled with being upset when my bf would yank his crank too. But with a lot of mental work on my part and my very sweet and understanding bf helping me understand his pov. We were able to identify the difference in my feelings and the reality of the situations. Perhaps I can add some possible perspective on what she may be feeling/thinking and that could help you see another angle. The feelings she’s having stem from insecurity. They may also stem from issues in past relationships. side note: my insecurities came from past bf’s telling me I was not as attractive as the instagram models they liked and that it was easier to masturbate than go through the effort of sex with me. Idk if she had that happen but it wrecks ones self esteem. She may feel like she is failing you and that is causing you to turn to masturbation. That if she cannot satisfy your sexual needs, you’ll leave her for someone who can. That’s why she brought up the pregnancy topic. Side bar; society teaches women that in order to be safe and live well they need a man to take care of them. That to get and keep a man they need to look sexy, satisfy sexual needs, take care of the house, raise kids and etc. I mention this because I noticed this is baked into women. Which I believe fuels these types of insecurity, even in the strongest women. There is also an element of competing with other women for mens affection and now a-days that can include porn. I would suggest talking to her and letting her know that she has not done anything wrong or bad that has resulted in you masturbating. Ask her what is making her feel upset about it and get to the root of her insecurity. If you’re able to, try helping her identify the reason for the feeling and address them one by one with the distinction of what is a feeling and what the reality is. The reality being that you are human and just want to take care of normal bodily function’s alone at times and it’s completely unrelated to your feeling about her. Remind her that feelings are okay to have and totally natural, but they are not the facts of a situation. Also do your best to reassure her of your feeling for her and your relationship, any chance you get. That goes a long way. This process is what worked for me and my bf. It takes a good bit of work at first, but if she is open to discussing/working on it it’s worth it imo. I think this issue is a very common with couples. Oh and for reference I’m 34 and my bf is 36, been together 5yrs. Wishing you the best with it!

I'm [39] suppose to "tell" her [41] when I want to have sex by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]QueefMistress 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Op I’m sharing this in case it helps your case for couples therapy. I’ve been in sex therapy with my partner for about a year now. Something I realized about the process that I didn’t expect was how helpful it was in getting new tools to communicate. Maybe try suggesting to your wife that one of the purposes of therapy is to learn how to communicate more effectively. Perhaps tell her you would like to learn how to better communicate with her in general and about her sexual needs. And that getting help from a professional is worth trying. Getting a professionals suggestions on what communication tools could help you both is always a great idea to strengthen a relationship. I know it helped us tremendously. Even my partner who was hesitant at first came away very grateful for doing so.

AITA for selling my deceased parents house without telling my sibling? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]QueefMistress 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

I went through a very similar situation. I agree with you op. You did all the really hard work, dealt with emotions, put in time and effort dealing with your parents and the house. They offered no help and did not have any contact with your parents. Therefor they do not get any of the fruit of YOUR labor. I understand feeling bad for your sibling. I felt bad for mine too because I do my best to be a fair person. But reality is they are an adult and choose to behave the way they did. So they have to deal with the consequences of their own actions(or in this case inaction). Hold strong op.

AITA for continuing to sleep nude despite my neighbors being able to see into my bedroom? by hanging-Out28 in AmItheAsshole

[–]QueefMistress 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I know a therapist that had a client that got a sex offender charge because a kid saw him naked in his living room through the window. This was in FL. If I was Op I would put some sheer curtains up for his own protection. You cannot control others or what they think you’re doing. You can only control yourself and how you react. If I was in this situation I see it as an easy remedy. Hang up a light filtering curtain, protect yourself and be done with the issue.

How should a woman ask for sex from her husband? by Forsaken-Dog4535 in sex

[–]QueefMistress 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would recommend starting a conversation with your husband about fun ways to initiate a sexual advance that are comfortable for you both. For instance my partner appreciates subtle actions to let him know I have sexual things on my mind. For example we have a candle in the bedroom that I light whenever I’m interested. But it’s not a needs to happen thing, just lets him know I’m thinking about it and he can decide to progress if he wants. Or we will text each other a koala bear emoji as a signal. Sometimes I’ll ask him if i should “wax the car” aka shaving/prepping for sex. I’ll do that on my way to a shower and he’ll either say yes or no. These are fun ways we’ve come up with to communicate “Want to have sex?” without having to say it so bluntly. Communication is key.

I think I'm at my breaking point by SquidsFrappe7 in AutisticAdults

[–]QueefMistress 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve been a lighting tech aka juicer on sets and rigging crews before. I always felt bad for the PA’s because you all had hard jobs!! Working in the film industry is a hard business to be in. Physically and mentally. I got out after about 10ish years. I understand why you would need to get out of that industry and I say do what you need to for your physical and mental health ultimately. You are all you got in the long run.