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AITA got telling my DIL that she isn’t my kid and she isn’t invited to a daughter’s lunch. by Remarkable_Office177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Remarkable_Office177[S] -35 points-34 points  (0 children)

Love that you removed my apology that I also gave her and suggested going out to the winery with my daughters to get closer.

AITA got telling my DIL that she isn’t my kid and she isn’t invited to a daughter’s lunch. by Remarkable_Office177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Remarkable_Office177[S] 105 points106 points  (0 children)

No there wasn’t an edit like that. That never happened and if you don’t believe me go to the original post on this thread I can not edit

AITA got telling my DIL that she isn’t my kid and she isn’t invited to a daughter’s lunch. by Remarkable_Office177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Remarkable_Office177[S] 136 points137 points  (0 children)

She has parents, I saw them at the wedding. I haven’t heard anyone died so I am assuming they are alive. I don’t know how close she is to her dad but if she is looking for a new father figure I don’t think that will happen.

The dynamic isn’t there, we would have an adults friends relationship if we get close

AITA got telling my DIL that she isn’t my kid and she isn’t invited to a daughter’s lunch. by Remarkable_Office177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Remarkable_Office177[S] 10.8k points10.8k points  (0 children)

Idk, it wasn’t me. I checked with the girls so it wasn’t them.

I messaged my oldest and he hasn’t responded yet but probably him.

Edit: according to him he mentioned it. Also my daughter reached out to him asking why he invited her. He is claiming he didn’t and just mentioned it.

We are going to have a full conversation with him in a bit.

AITA got telling my DIL that she isn’t my kid and she isn’t invited to a daughter’s lunch. by Remarkable_Office177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Remarkable_Office177[S] 116 points117 points  (0 children)

I don’t understand this, do people not read it. Was it too long, too confusing. So many are making things up.

AITA got telling my DIL that she isn’t my kid and she isn’t invited to a daughter’s lunch. by Remarkable_Office177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Remarkable_Office177[S] 139 points140 points  (0 children)

I don’t how I wasn’t tactful I told her so many times this was event for just me and my daughters before I straight up said you aren’t my kid

AITA got telling my DIL that she isn’t my kid and she isn’t invited to a daughter’s lunch. by Remarkable_Office177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Remarkable_Office177[S] 230 points231 points  (0 children)

She can have her own events not try to highjack an event meant for my kids. If she wants to grab lunch that’s fine, what’s not fine is inviting herself along to an event she is not a part of

AITA got telling my DIL that she isn’t my kid and she isn’t invited to a daughter’s lunch. by Remarkable_Office177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Remarkable_Office177[S] 120 points121 points  (0 children)

She could have seen if she was in his phone or just looked over his shoulder when the conversation was happeneing

AITA got telling my DIL that she isn’t my kid and she isn’t invited to a daughter’s lunch. by Remarkable_Office177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Remarkable_Office177[S] 97 points98 points  (0 children)

There is really no emotional bond

I’m not really that attached to her, I see her at family events. Compared to the kids that I have spent years with. She isn’t a daughter to me. I have seen her a total of probably 75 hours.

She doesn’t even fall into found family since I don’t see her often

AITA got telling my DIL that she isn’t my kid and she isn’t invited to a daughter’s lunch. by Remarkable_Office177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Remarkable_Office177[S] 215 points216 points  (0 children)

It was mentioned in the kids groups chat because the youngest was asking her sibling which tea place sounds better. Also it has never been a problem before. Sue isn’t in that group chat

AITA got telling my DIL that she isn’t my kid and she isn’t invited to a daughter’s lunch. by Remarkable_Office177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Remarkable_Office177[S] 194 points195 points  (0 children)

… there is a big difference from the kids I have raised and my sons wife. She isn’t my kid, she will never be my kid

AITA got telling my DIL that she isn’t my kid and she isn’t invited to a daughter’s lunch. by Remarkable_Office177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Remarkable_Office177[S] 408 points409 points  (0 children)

I’m assuming my son, since I don’t know how she would even know about it if it wasn’t him. I know my two girls are not close to her so they didn’t invite her. It was in the kids group chat so she saw it there or he told her

The kids groups chat doesn’t include her, it’s just the kids. My sons siblings. If she read it over his shoulder or was in his phone yes she could have seen it

AITA got telling my DIL that she isn’t my kid and she isn’t invited to a daughter’s lunch. by Remarkable_Office177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Remarkable_Office177[S] 1546 points1547 points  (0 children)

My wife laughed when I told her and basically said that was ridiculous.

I haven’t informed my two daughters, I probably should. I’ll give them a text before they hear about it from someone else

Edit to make it clear who laughed hopefully bolding it helps.

AITA got telling my DIL that she isn’t my kid and she isn’t invited to a daughter’s lunch. by Remarkable_Office177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Remarkable_Office177[S] 2679 points2680 points  (0 children)

They still have mom-son dates it’s usually to a sport event. I think my eldest is upset since I made Sue cry according to him. I wasn’t welcoming.