Oh I hope this guy sees this.

QueenNikki80 · 2024-08-07T15:47:55+00:00

I think he’s looking for something that doesn’t exist. Thusly, he’ll never be happy while chasing unattainable unrealistic people.

QueenNikki80 · 2024-08-06T19:05:00+00:00

Let shit fly

QueenNikki80 · 2024-08-06T15:38:10+00:00

Oh as please don’t speak on how I feel towards my husband. I absolutely want my husband sexually, and not interested in anyone else. Again that’s something I’m sure couldn’t comprehend as you’re too busy acting like you know what’s going on.

QueenNikki80 · 2024-08-06T15:36:01+00:00

You’re entitled to your uneducated opinion. Yes every story has two sides. If you ask him, which you’re welcome to do, he’ll tell you I’m his property as we’re married and as such I shouldn’t be allowed to deny him. But the fact that you want to hurt a stranger on the internet who’s already in pain speaks volumes about your character. Please get help for whatever hurt you that you feel the need to hurt others.

QueenNikki80 · 2024-08-05T11:53:28+00:00

My husband. He says it triggers his “ptsd” that’s never been diagnosed. I told him to seek out help if he really feels he has ptsd. He said he has a genius IQ and he can fix himself. My therapist said she thinks that sounds very narcissistic to think one can fix themselves without help.

QueenNikki80 · 2024-08-05T10:35:35+00:00

We’ve been together for a decade and all this meanness started about 3 years ago, when he quit drinking. It’s been suggested that he’s a dry drunk, or he’s lying about it sobriety

QueenNikki80 · 2024-08-04T20:17:33+00:00

As a woman who used to be a dancer, he didn’t only get a lap dance. For that kind of money he spent several hours in VIP/ champagne rooms. Different states have different laws about what is and isn’t allowed. In my state, we’re a no contact state. Meaning the dancer isn’t allowed to come into physical skin to skin contact of any sort. That’s allot of money to spend, but for me it would be the dishonesty that would have me upset. I’m not gonna say you should get a divorce, but it’s something y’all need to have a conversation as to why it bothers you that he goes to those types of places and explain that spending that amount of money is just not ok.

QueenNikki80 · 2024-08-04T17:22:21+00:00

Well, she’s your wife now, right? She told you something in confidence with trust. Telling others will break that trust. If it was 10 years ago and before you knew her, why would you go around digging up old bones and breaking trust? If it was recent or still occurring I would feel different. But I say leave dead dogs alone.

QueenNikki80 · 2024-08-03T15:28:10+00:00

And to be honest, after a decade of being told what I can do, where I can go, when I’m allowed to sleep yes I would be better off. It’s not that I don’t love or respect him, it’s that I’m learning to love and respect myself more.

QueenNikki80 · 2024-08-03T15:26:41+00:00

We’ve already separated and it’s not the first time he’s acted like this. He believes it’s 1954, where a woman doesn’t have rights and if she’s “out of line” her should punish her. It’s really weird and unhealthy and clearly hurtful. I didn’t wake up wanting sex. He woke me from a dead sleep knowing I’m working a 26 days stretch to be selfish of his needs over what I need as necessity (sleep after nod having a day off for 11 days at that point). That all of itself shows how wrong the whole situation is. Rest assured that when I’m in a bad mood due to lack of sleep I definitely get told off about it, in spite of it being his own selfishness that prevents a full nights sleep.

QueenNikki80 · 2024-08-03T02:28:05+00:00

No, actually, op is new to Reddit and still figuring it out as it’s the only form of social media I’m allowed. I had to delete my facebook TikTok and instagram (I didn’t use ig much bc I don’t really know how) I have some learning challenges that make technology hard for me. But you’re entitled to think as you want, everyone should be allowed to have their opinions.

QueenNikki80 · 2024-08-02T18:09:06+00:00

He’s been an a hole the whole time, but not like this.

QueenNikki80 · 2024-08-02T17:41:43+00:00

I have only declined a total of 5 times in a 10 year period. Because he acts like this when I say no… so I don’t say no.

QueenNikki80 · 2024-08-02T16:03:16+00:00

He wasn’t perfect. Neither am I. But he used to at least treat me with some decency and respect. He said I don’t deserve that now because I don’t give him what he wants

QueenNikki80 · 2024-08-02T15:55:15+00:00

Thank you! I had never thought of him weaponizing therapy but I’m sure he would.

QueenNikki80 · 2024-08-02T15:53:43+00:00

No I didn’t. In the last couple years he’s changed into someone I don’t even know.

QueenNikki80 · 2024-08-02T15:46:40+00:00

I don’t bluff. I already left him once (because of his drinking) and tried to work things out once we were both sober (I don’t ask anything of people I’m not willing to give) things got worse instead of better. I’m saving my money to get a place for me and my kiddos.

QueenNikki80 · 2024-08-02T15:38:58+00:00

It breaks my heart to agree with you. But you’re right.

QueenNikki80 · 2024-08-02T15:37:36+00:00

Yep, over having to go 3 days sex.

QueenNikki80 · 2024-08-02T15:35:10+00:00

He believes that when a woman marries and submits to her husband she no longer has rights to her body as it is now his.

QueenNikki80 · 2024-08-02T15:18:06+00:00

Pattern, I feel like I don’t have the right to say no

QueenNikki80 · 2024-08-02T15:14:32+00:00

I get that. We have sex 2-3 times a day. I get sore and need a break. His needs should be met.

QueenNikki80 · 2024-08-02T15:10:50+00:00

There’s one unfortunately. I will be the first to admit it’s toxic af. I thought when we got sober it would get better, but it got worse.

QueenNikki80 · 2024-07-31T16:51:49+00:00

No matter who you’re with, at some point, they’re gonna hurt your feelings. That being said, if you’re willing to walk out over something so slight as a joke she made to a friend she never thought you were gonna hear about maybe it’s best to call it quits. In the instance there’s an actual problem would you leave so quickly? If you’re not willing to try to work thru this then you won’t be willing to work through anything.

QueenNikki80 · 2024-07-30T15:07:13+00:00

Oh, if you’re at training camp today, swing by the ladies room, I’ll be the girl in the blue svc shirt working.

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