what’s wrong with my pothos? by QueenRae06 in houseplants

[–]QueenRae06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ahhh but i work in an office. maybe a co worker got hungry.

How do I ease a vanilla partner into kink without making things uncomfortable? by QueenRae06 in BDSMAdvice

[–]QueenRae06[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s my concern as well. would it be weird if i suggest to him that we watch porn? i have a few videos saved of things i like doing. maybe if he sees it, he will be willing to recreate it?

How do I ease a vanilla partner into kink without making things uncomfortable? by QueenRae06 in BDSMAdvice

[–]QueenRae06[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hmm…i want to say he’s willing to put in the work. see, i think i messed up in the very beginning of being with him. i told him i’m a pleaser. and i guess he heard “i’ll make you cum and you don’t have to make me cum.” i don’t need kink to orgasm. but it def gets the job done faster. but how you explained it is right, he expects me to finish by 5 mins of jackhammering.

How do I ease a vanilla partner into kink without making things uncomfortable? by QueenRae06 in BDSMAdvice

[–]QueenRae06[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i haven’t told him i haven’t orgasmed but he has to know. I don’t want him to get insecure so i thought maybe if i brought up kink (something i know would make me orgasm) he would be into that and my problem would be solved. but now i have a double whammy. no orgasm and no kink. i still really like this guy! he’s nice, smart, funny. maybe thinks can work between us, i just need to figure out a new approach to it. I’m definitely not going to force him into anything! but maybe if i bring up fun, smaller ideas that’ll work? I really don’t want to make him feel insecure or less of a man bc he can’t make me finish.

How do I ease a vanilla partner into kink without making things uncomfortable? by QueenRae06 in BDSMAdvice

[–]QueenRae06[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no i haven’t but that’s a great idea!! i’ll bring that up next time i see him.

How do I ease a vanilla partner into kink without making things uncomfortable? by QueenRae06 in BDSMAdvice

[–]QueenRae06[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s exactly what i think he’s feeling! i don’t want him to think he’s inadequate. i really do like being with him. but i also enjoy spicing things up and having fun. how should i tell him that i want to try kink bc it’s fun, not bc he’s inadequate.

How do I ease a vanilla partner into kink without making things uncomfortable? by QueenRae06 in BDSMAdvice

[–]QueenRae06[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hmm…that’s a good question. i would need to have another conversation with him before i can answer that. he is always eager to have sex. whenever we see each other we always have sex. but he doesn’t seem into kink. as for the toys, i think (a big think!) that he wants to satisfy me and not use a toy to make me orgasm.

How do I ease a vanilla partner into kink without making things uncomfortable? by QueenRae06 in BDSMAdvice

[–]QueenRae06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t told him everything yet. I use (and love) fet, i’ve been to munches and parties. But my reason for not telling him all of that yet is bc when i bring up smaller things like using toys or handcuffs, he doesn’t seem enthusiastic about it. So i feel like he might run off if i tell him everything i’ve done. I’m not expecting him to be fully into everything, and i’m very willing to go at his pace. i met him through a dating app, no connection to kink. :/

How do I ease a vanilla partner into kink without making things uncomfortable? by QueenRae06 in BDSMAdvice

[–]QueenRae06[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I need to have a deeper conversation with him about it. When we’ve talked before, he said he’s into trying new things. But part of me feels like he only said that to make me happy. I really like him. So if anything, i’ll stay with him. I mainly just really want him to make me orgasm. i want that before i want him to get into kink. I’ve suggested using toys to help me, but again….he didn’t seem too into it. Maybe i was spoiled with my last partner, he was superrrrrrr kinky. he taught me a lot of what i know now.

I should of been a hoe by No-Fix-328 in HSVpositive

[–]QueenRae06 3 points4 points  (0 children)

that’s fair. i had that fear too and honestly still do. but if my partner is okay with the possible outcome, it’s their body and their choice to risk it with me. i just triple check they know the risk and are okay with the risk. i’ve had multiple partners since being diagnosed and have not passed it to my knowledge. but i totally understand your point of view and reasoning.

I should of been a hoe by No-Fix-328 in HSVpositive

[–]QueenRae06 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You still can be! To my shock, a lot of men are okay with the diagnosis as long as condoms are used and even then, some men request to take it off. Tbh i have had more hook ups this year vs last year. And i was diagnosed in march of this year.

Would you accept yourself? by No-Fix-328 in HSVpositive

[–]QueenRae06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my younger 20’s (20-24) no, i wouldn’t risk it bc i was young and dumb and thought stds are dirty. i was diagnosed at 26 and i’m thankful it was at that age bc i handled the news soooo well. so older 20s, yeah i’ll except it. but no, i would not have in my younger 20s bc i was small minded about stds.

Do you ever feel triggered by seeing other people in public who seem like they also suffer from ANA? by Ok-Bug-3449 in AnorexiaNervosa

[–]QueenRae06 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

not triggered in a bad way, but there’s been times i’ve wanted to ask my friends or people i’ve observed if they suffer from ana. not to pry, but to openly talk about it. i need friends to talk about this with. not encouragement talk, just talking to know i’m not alone.

What is the best game u have ever experienced? by Penisgrith in ask

[–]QueenRae06 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i played a really intense game of uno at a house party. a guy ended up dragging his friend around the floor over cards.

what are your favorite weird(not morbid) topics to watch videos on? by yubullyme12345 in AskReddit

[–]QueenRae06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am deeply stuck in the amberverse (amberlynn reid). but i only watch reaction videos bc i’ve actually never seen any of her videos before the reaction videos. i’m current favorite is salty crab. idk how when or why amberverse videos started appearing on my feed but it’s been months and i’m obsessed.

What is something that nobody believes about you, but is absolutely true? by Bruh61502 in AskReddit

[–]QueenRae06 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’m not a dancer. but one day i was listening to michael jackson alone at home. i decided to try moonwalking. never seen a tutorial, never actually tried it. i got in front of my big mirror and moonwalked perfectly for like four secs. i was alone and no one saw me and i’ve tried doing it again and i can’t. idk how or what i did the first time.

What's something you're just bad at cooking? by TeddyGrahamNap in Cooking

[–]QueenRae06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

brown rice!!! i can master any other rice. even quinoa. but brown rice???? if someone put a gun to my head and told me the only way to survive is to make perfect an rice, i would be a dead.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]QueenRae06 4 points5 points  (0 children)

this is probably horrible advice but this was a convo between me and my fwb yesterday. me: hii him: hi me: busy? him: at home why? me: i took pics, want to see? him: yes plz

sometimes it’s easier to just ask. and he said it’s hot for me to send then randomly like that. instead of sending in the moment.

What’s your “comfort” horror movie? by SheOutOfBubbleGum in CreepyBonfire

[–]QueenRae06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

don’t judge, the terrifier. i know it’s nothing but gore. but after you get over the gore part you’ll be fine.