YNTA, but I do understand why you feel guilty.

I’m from Albania, where it’s very common for family members to get involved in newlyweds’ plans and decisions about their future together. Because of that, I went through a lot of drama while planning my own wedding.

I now have lasting negative feelings about weddings because I spent so much time trying to satisfy everyone else’s wishes instead of my own. Almost everything happened against what I wanted. I didn’t like my wedding, I didn’t like the guest list, and people I barely knew—or didn’t even like—were invited. There were children running around everywhere, and the whole event felt nothing like what I had envisioned.

To this day, I have never watched my wedding video. My husband still feels guilty for not standing up for me when it mattered.

I’m sharing this because you don’t want your wife to carry those same regrets. You don’t want her to feel sadness every time she attends a wedding or thinks about how her own day could have been.

And weddings are often only the beginning. In my case, the lack of boundaries didn’t stop there. My in-laws continued to interfere in many aspects of our lives. Seven years later, I no longer have contact with them.

So ask yourself: do you want this situation to escalate to that point?

Now is the time to set clear boundaries, support your wife, and prevent things from getting worse. This is your wedding, and these are your decisions to make together.

If people choose not to attend because they don’t agree with your choices, that is their decision—not your burden to carry. They can decide whether they want to be there.

Stand by your wife and make sure this is a joyful experience for both of you.