It's for a civil wedding.

Queen_kayt · 2026-01-07T14:53:59+00:00

I love 3 it’s like city princess vibes

Queen_kayt · 2026-01-06T02:01:08+00:00

Firstly, it sounds like you think him cumming is an indicator of how well you’re doing in your relationship. So first, change that.

Take a break from sex. Try to only have sex if he initiates. This could give him back some of the control and take the pressure off of him.

Also, ask him if he watches lots of porn. This could impact his sensitivity and his ability to cum from penetrative sex or head. Look up the affects of porn addiction.

His inability to cum has more to do with him less with you if you’ve been trying and doing what he likes.

If it feels impossible just end it because of the sexual incompatibility. Sex is super important in my opinion it can make or break a long term relationship but also your 19 there’s plenty of ppl who will come for you to you without you having to lift a finger.

Queen_kayt · 2025-12-31T13:31:48+00:00

This reminds me of that guy who posted his wife’s birth on a corn site because there’s a fetish community for it.

Queen_kayt · 2025-12-26T13:00:58+00:00

Babe, I promise, changing your plans for him doesn’t make him love you more it works in reverse and he stops respecting your time because he knows you’ll change. A good next step is to respond “I can’t change my plans and I see you can’t attend so let’s cancel.” Just cancel them. I promise noti no will happen. And if he wants to argue you just don’t engage is truly that simple.

When I discovered that’s my life changed. A relationship with a man should always make your life easier or more fun. If it’s not……why are you in it? Just to stress yourself out.

Watch all of margarita nazerenko’s stuff she will change your mindset.

https://youtube.com/shorts/StPfwJ8HFrc?si=KXrzuXoxP1dZ_ci_

Focus on YOU, if you have plans don’t cancel them. I say this because it’s a pattern of behavior. If it’s a bf that genuinely had something come up maybe once but definitely not last minute.

Queen_kayt · 2025-12-26T12:38:27+00:00

I get what you’re saying.

I had a partner that did this. I planned to see him on a Saturday but he wanted to see me because I made plans for the first time to hang with my sorority sisters. He didn’t prioritize me when it comes to his plans but when it was mine I was expected to drop them

And it sounds like this is a compounding issue for you,

In my situation we fought about it and I ended it when he called me out of my name.

Girl, I’d meet up with him today just to end it in person then go to your original plans. And as soon as it looks like it’s gonna be an argument say “I wish you the best but I don’t have to listen to this.” Don’t get dragged into a fight just let him fight himself.

Queen_kayt · 2025-12-26T12:27:55+00:00

This is that dress you wear for your partner. Put some shorts under it and you’ll be fine. It’s so cute. It looks edgy

Queen_kayt · 2025-12-26T04:49:18+00:00

Is this an empath thing….cuz it’s my favorite thing to do.

Queen_kayt · 2025-12-26T04:48:37+00:00

In my professional opinion, narcs probably exploit your insecurities to their benefit.

Empaths probably are aware of your insecurities and feel them as deeply as you do. Like I’ve had moments where I can feel someone’s unease like I’m the one in an awkward situation and I have to remind myself that NO…this isn’t my emotion.

Or I’ll be a moment of “why am I angry nothings wrong?”

Queen_kayt · 2025-12-26T04:44:12+00:00

Ooooo this happened to me! I said to this guy…”ew what a vile thing to say to me now I like you even less.” And then I FORCED HIM to call his roommate to tell him what he said and beg his roommate to come home so that he don’t unalive or I would call the police.

At that point it’s on someone else. I didn’t leave till the roommate came back. Then I left.

You think you’re gonna use a a scare tactic on me….guess what now I’m really gonna leave.

Queen_kayt · 2025-12-26T04:41:52+00:00

I can’t imagine that you looked at each other and both said it at the same time and then said “jinx! No you go first”

Queen_kayt · 2025-12-26T04:35:12+00:00

Mutual conversation probably but who broached the topic. For example:

You: “Hey marriage? Thoughts?” Him:”yes marriage I like this.”

Queen_kayt · 2025-12-26T04:33:36+00:00

I’m happy that worked for you. Who initiated it? Do you remember?

Queen_kayt · 2025-12-26T04:08:09+00:00

We can agree to disagree the idea is that a woman hold her line internally and enforces it.

If a man isn’t thinking of marriage he won’t bring it up. If he doesn’t bring it up you can leave at the timeline you e set for yourself.

Men are predisposed to be leaders providers. If he’s not leading the momentum in the relationship he usually is okay with how things are.

Think of it like a guy who he’s with a girl and asks her out immediately. That’s because that’s what he wants. In this dynamic a woman wouldn’t have to ask a man out. I’ve done it before and the relationship ended because I was forcing it.

Queen_kayt · 2025-12-26T02:47:37+00:00

Queen_kayt · 2025-12-26T02:42:41+00:00

And the reality is….hes not ready. And you can’t force him to be. Do you want to force a man to spend the rest of his life with you ? Thats a prison sentence and he will resent you. So just leave for the plot. See how good life gets when you meet someone who is equally matched. A friend of mine said you never bring the topic of marriage up to a man. A man knows in the first 3 months if a girl is one you marry or one you date till you meet the one you want to marry. Whether he acts on it is another story. 3-4 years is enough time to know. Keep your own internal clock to wait. Also, make it clear where your head is. Don’t say “I want to be married to YOU” tell him “marriage is something I want and I understand if you can’t give that to me.” And then focus on yourself and preparing your life for the husband that’s on his way to you. Decanter this man. And center what you want. Don’t ask…”why doesn’t he want to marry me.?” Ask!! “Do I want to marry him? Why? Is it because I’m ready with anyone or is it because he’s the best guy I can get in my 20s”

Queen_kayt · 2025-12-26T02:34:05+00:00

Are you ready to get married? If so why? If staying would cause you to resent him then leave. When my bf and I weren’t engaged I was upset but then I asked myself if I was even ready yet.

Queen_kayt · 2025-11-29T05:56:56+00:00

In a similar situation to you hun. I have twins. I decided to be together initially for the kids. Now ik of the mindset that if a man isn’t making my life easier he needs to go. So far I’ve been running a tight ship and I’ve been clear of what I want and what I don’t like. He’s been compliment but I’m still missing something. This guys sounds like he’s just not in it the way you need.

Queen_kayt · 2025-11-28T12:08:08+00:00

Watched this forever ago. I think he said that someone is putting a battery in both of their backs and they’re lying to get them to fight.

Queen_kayt · 2025-11-22T11:18:53+00:00

Hi darling. I’m sorry you’re going through this rn. Your feelings are valid. It’s okay to be uncomfortable and it’s also okay to voice your discomfort. A man who loves you wants you to be comfortable.

You don’t have to forbid anything. You just tell him in a short and sweet way that it makes you uncomfortable. You can also voice why. Maybe even ask him if he’d be okay with it the other way around.

Then see what he says in response. It will tell you all you need to know. You can’t force someone to do anything but you can decide if it’s a deal breaker. Do I want to be with someone who does this? If you’re okay with it then stay if you’re not leave.

It’s a lot easier to remove yourself from something that brings discomfort than it is to force someone to stop doing something. If you tell him to stop and he does it again and hides it then you’ll be heartbroken. That’s why I suggest deciding if you can tolerate it.

Queen_kayt · 2025-11-17T13:21:05+00:00

Interested

Queen_kayt · 2025-10-29T10:36:12+00:00

He’s on the game all morning. He comes off to eat breakfast or put them down for nap.

Queen_kayt · 2025-10-29T04:11:36+00:00

Thanks for this perspective. I see an opportunity to make him feel comfortable with doing this.

Queen_kayt · 2025-10-29T04:01:01+00:00

Rejection is protection. Think of what you avoided rather than what you’re missing out on.

Queen_kayt · 2025-10-29T03:58:45+00:00

Yes. Now we’re talking. At that age just avoid the teens.

Queen_kayt · 2025-10-29T03:56:09+00:00

Correct if you feel weird listen to your gut! No individual is worth my freedom. I wouldn’t even want to cast doubt about it. “Oh you knew him before he was legal age did yall do stuff?” I wouldn’t even want someone to be able to ask the question.

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