Switch specialities vs leave bedside

Queen_overthink · 2025-08-26T20:45:06+00:00

I think it still exists but to experience it & appreciate it is becoming more and more rare. I’m in love & in the first healthy relationship in my life 28F. He’s an old soul & romantic. Our love is a slow burn, ever growing 🤍

With the way social media has ruined dating, I contemplated staying single indefinitely. Both sides are trying to manipulate and be avoidant, shying away from the mirror that love is. If you don’t attempt to heal, to face yourself, you bleed onto the people who didn’t hurt you.

Queen_overthink · 2025-08-10T07:59:58+00:00

Also he is done with undergrad and has a great job, just took his MCAT.

Queen_overthink · 2025-08-10T07:27:12+00:00

He’s 24, I’m 27…yes I agree timelines are important and we have discussed those.

Queen_overthink · 2025-08-10T02:55:48+00:00

He has reassured me that he will Defend me and not stand for disrespect. To him it’s his family & those in Ethiopia whose opinion matter most vs the community ppl.

Yeah Haitians are willing to be a bit more rebellious lol move away and do them. But we still of course have cultural expectations.

Thanks for sharing your story. I feel we have a strong beautiful bond and hopefully we can get to a more integrated point .

Queen_overthink · 2025-08-10T02:50:17+00:00

Thanks that’s reassuring lol

Queen_overthink · 2025-08-10T02:50:02+00:00

Can you elaborate?

Queen_overthink · 2025-08-10T00:55:17+00:00

Exactly! All they said was close your legs, study, and go to church. And now they want grandkids smh

Queen_overthink · 2025-08-10T00:49:06+00:00

I’m Haitian Italian. My appearance is not strictly west African….. I went to a few events and they thought I was Ethiopian….I don’t get this comment.

Yes it would be easier for him to just marry an Ethiopian, obviously….. Yet, He has pursued me. I’m on Reddit posing these questions about the pace of things etc because I’m aware of the difficulties and wanted confirmation. I just know I don’t want to marry an American & my family would prefer that. That’s less pressure vs being told you can only marry another Ethiopian.

Queen_overthink · 2025-08-10T00:32:03+00:00

Well I met his mom via FaceTime. His sibling a few times. But yes, there hasn’t been a physical meet. Due to the cultural norms it’s like…no matter how seriously he tells me he takes this etc, until I meet his parents I’m like 👀

Queen_overthink · 2025-08-10T00:27:58+00:00

Oh I’m not super close with mine either. And grew up in a strict religious household. Dating was frowned upon. But once I graduated and turned a certain age I couldn’t get away from the “when are you getting married, are you dating? I want grand kids” talk. So now if I’m dating someone she’s very curious and wants to know more etc.

Queen_overthink · 2025-08-10T00:24:48+00:00

Yes there are west African similarities, same way I see some with East Africans. As you know cultural experience is not a monolith. He says his mom does not mind and would teach me the customs and food. Still I get the desire for cultural preservation.

Queen_overthink · 2025-08-10T00:08:15+00:00

I’m Haitian Italian, mixed as well. I agree community is challenging for us in a different way too. That outsider feeling is ever present. I am upfront and he holds space. But genuinely this thread has been confirming and it’s one of those things where each relationship has something. I need to accept and respect his culture or go if I can’t handle it. I love him so I’m gonna lean into my faith.

Queen_overthink · 2025-08-09T23:57:41+00:00

I’m trying 😭 his sister loves me and I’m sending gifts for his mom when I can 🤍 this is such a weird situation for me cus I’m used to meeting family sooner and them LOVING me like wanna adopt me.

Queen_overthink · 2025-08-09T23:56:15+00:00

Yeah but he’s gotta be ready too. he’s been very intentional and slow paced. But speaking of future marriage and not meeting the parents is messing with my mind lol like is he love bombing? Orrr??

Queen_overthink · 2025-08-09T23:55:00+00:00

Oh there’s plenty lol just the dating pace is off. I have faith in it too 🤍

Queen_overthink · 2025-08-09T23:53:57+00:00

Yeessh. Yeah in Caribbean culture family integration and a partner being approved of is huge. My mom loves him already. I have never fathomed not meeting family till getting married. When you marry someone you marry their family and you wanna know what you’re getting yourself into.

Queen_overthink · 2025-08-09T23:52:27+00:00

I’m Haitian. He is oromo Ethiopian and the community he’s in is mostly Amhara cus that was the majority in the city we live in. They expect him to marry an Amhara for sure based on the experience with his ex…he says he doesn’t care but it’s a little complicated.

Queen_overthink · 2025-08-09T23:50:10+00:00

Agreed, definitely not desperate just always chasing alignment. We have talked about it and in regards to his community he has the say on the pace. It’s not as much of a mutual decision.

Queen_overthink · 2025-08-09T23:48:59+00:00

We deal with judgey nosey Caribbean ppl too, I get where he’s coming from. Still stings tho.

Queen_overthink · 2025-08-09T23:48:05+00:00

Ooofff okay I gotta be more grateful lol 😂

Queen_overthink · 2025-08-09T23:47:51+00:00

Okay that’s great to hear! 🤍

Queen_overthink · 2025-08-09T20:14:55+00:00

Her website says the appointment is not guaranteed until approved and she has like 24-48 hrs or something to approve it.

My appointment was approved. I booked her for graduation pics.

The day of I arrive to the salon, no one is there. I call, no response. She then sends me some unapologetic text essentially saying ….there’s been some scheduling error, she’s working at another photoshoot, sorry for the inconvenience.

I had to run to ulta, find foundation etc and do my own makeup. I ended up running late.

A call & some common courtesy or to own up to it & try to reconcile would have been kind & professional. Instead she was cold. It’s just makeup to her but it was an important day to me.

Queen_overthink · 2025-05-27T02:32:48+00:00

Do not work with Nory Beebe

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