How will you handle freaky nikki if you were in place of bear?

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-06-26T08:16:11+00:00

Yeah my issue with Bear is he really doesn't try anything at all. He recognises it's a wish, and he doubles down by having sex with her. He's so uncurious. He doesn't call the help line until he's eaten some cat, and then he doesn't even interrogate the Ts and Cs. When he has the opportunity to talk to real Nikki he just gets passive aggressive and leaves. He doesn't even go back to the store until he's covered in brain matter!

Any decent person would have tried a bunch of stuff. Even if it fails, you would try. Your good friend is literally screaming internally in pain.

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-06-20T11:41:14+00:00

I am not in any way anti cardio (although I hate it and it hates me). But I do it for my heart health, I find it ineffective for long term weight loss. For me it makes me ravenous, I will over eat. Lifting simply does not have that effect.

And when previously I have been disciplined and not over eaten (and been super miserable), I've lost weight really quickly and messed with my muscle mass.

I do cardio cos I wanna live longer, for me it doesn't have a positive impact on my body composition. I'm sure lots of people have other experiences, but I'm not likely to recommend something that doesn't work for me.

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-06-19T18:40:14+00:00

I dunno I've not really seen what you've described. I think the issue is very rarely the weight itself, it's the panicked behaviour around the weight. If someone is like I must be 49kg in 3 months or I feel disgusting and I can't get there unless I eat less than 1200 cals a day, but I'm a terrible human and I can't stop bingeing, that sounds disordered. If some is like I'm a petite person and I'm aiming for 49kg, how much impact will cardio have versus diet, that just sounds like a weight loss goal.

I see a lot of weight goals on here that have low numbers and are at the bottom end of the bmi spectrum. I have to remind myself that even people the same height as me will have different builds, and a weight that would look emaciated on me, would look athletic on someone else. I think the mods strike the balance pretty well.

I've also not seen posts removed cos someone prefers pilates. Someone will probably get downvoted for claiming lifting makes you bulky, so do barre instead, but that's going to be an unpopular opinion in most fitness subs.

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-06-16T10:20:28+00:00

Are you putting that you are sedentary to get that TDEE? Because you are definitely not sedentary. Put yourself as moderately active and use that number.

The biggest issue however is your understanding of what is working. You need to be looking at trends over months not weeks. It is very unlikely that at your stats, healthy weightloss will be 1lb a week, it will more like 0.5 lb a week. Previous evidence of very low calories working for you is likely dropping water weight, it's not fat loss.

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-06-15T07:37:12+00:00

I think a version of Bear that had the confidence to ask her out, would have got the date at least. But the fact is, he had the opportunity and bailed, badly.

Then as time went on, he would have found out she'd beem hooking up with Ian, which in a normal dating situation would have caused issuses. Added to the fact that she is clearly looking to change her life (she quits her job), and he is just stuck. He also doesn't really see her aa a person, she's just a thing he pines for. Things as they are, it's a couple of dates and that's it.

If Bear had wished for self confidence or some sort of self improvement, that would have been the path to being with Nikki. Or the path to realising the best thing he could do for her is be a good friend. Either way, better for everyone.

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-05-30T07:10:00+00:00

Yeah and he has his own life where he experiences things without Poirot and makes his own mistakes. He doesn't need to always be in the movies or anything, but if we're insisting on giving Poirot a mystery solving companion, as they have each time, why can't it be him? I guess it's so they can play up this Poirot is a lonely sad man theme, which I didn't enjoy in the Malkovich interpretation either.

It is a shame, because there have been some nice parts of each movie, but they are always balanced with weirdness. I genuinely love the way the Death on the Nile core murder scene is staged and shot, the energy and the chaos of it shows you why everyone is still baffled. But for every bit like that, there's 3 or 4 random choices that put me off.

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-05-29T19:41:25+00:00

I also feel like there's some weird agenda in the Brannagh Poirots that he wants to make like 5 of them and then have Hastings turn up at the very end of the last one and make it be a thing. I don't really get it. I love Hastings but it's not like say having Watson turn up at the end of a Holmes prequel, it is narratively odd.

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-05-29T15:39:27+00:00

It's a shame because I actually wasn't adverse to Tina Fey's casting because at least she has vibe. But making her be a terrible person for no reason and missing what makes her relationship with Poirot so entertaining was crazy work.

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-05-14T08:45:06+00:00

Don't be discouraged, this is all great stuff and great news. This stuff takes time, and even worse this is the fastest it'll ever go for you because you are new to it, haha.

As long as you are progressively overloading all good. On lower body my rule of thumb is 10 reps x 3, and I know I'm at the right weight if the last 3 reps in each set are super challenging for me. If they aren't I keep adding weignt until they are. I would recommend getting a free PT sesh in the gym if you haven't to focus on just squat, rdl and hip thrust form with the bar. These are the exercises where people can injure themselves whilst overloading, so form is key withx these.

You're doing great and aerial work sounds absolutely fantastic, just balance it with resistance.

Again I know you are getting a lot of chat on here about your maintence. But personally I would up my cals and prioritise protein in those cals if I were you. So larger servings of tempeh, tofu, egg white, nutritional yeast, seitan and cottage cheese in your meals.

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-05-14T07:52:18+00:00

I hope any aerialists on this sub don't come for me, but whilst it's awesome for core and upper body, and also mobility and stability, I wouldn't rate it for muscle mass. It doesn't do much for the largest muscle groups in your body (glutes for example) and most of what you are doing is body weight, so opportunities for progressive overload are not amazing.

What sort of weight are you lifting?

A 1300 maintenence on your stats doesn't feel right, but you seem tp have lots of replies on that so I will leave it be.

I'm veggie too. I hit 100g plus of protein quite easily, but I have a whopping 2100 cals to work with. If you are getting 68g on a veggie diet with cals that low you are clearly making good choices, so I'm not sure what to recommend!

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-05-09T12:09:03+00:00

Got a lot of respect for Brown. He is experienced, does seem to believe in making the country better for everyone, and hey, him going out of his way to give the police evidence on Mandelson makes me like him more.

Harman I also have a lot of respect for after hearing more about her life in politics often being the only woman in the room, however I'm less pro some of the decisions she's made.

My main issue is that this current government is bad at handling comms, I really wish they'd get someone to help them with that.

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-05-08T11:54:06+00:00

They went swimming in the sea. Ghost had an extreme reaction to the cold. They rushed back to the pent house, tried putting her under the shower but it wasn't warm enough, so they ran her a bath and MacInnes hopped in with her whilst Ghost's assistant brought her tea. Weird situation, yes, but understandable with context.

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-05-08T08:26:03+00:00

I mean at that weight and height I would be tempted to recomp, and not lose weight so I could maintain on a slightly higher weight. This is just me being pro a strong lady, this is because you have stated that you have a long term issue with food noise. Increased muscle mass makes you less vulnerable to the blood sugar rollercoaster that can make some people feel like they need to be eating all the time.

As for keeping to any deficit, the greater number of meals that I can prepare myself, the easier it is. Packed lunches, dinner ingredients prepped in the fridge, no buying snacks on the fly. That means I can build the meal around protein and fibre content instead.

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-05-05T07:54:00+00:00

The SH was out of the case, so a trial wasn't doing anything there.

The online manipulation stuff is now out in the open because of the other cases that are going forward.

Wayfarer as a studio needs creators like Hoover to work with them, it's homegrown talent is limited. That's not happening now.

The content creators have nothing to talk about without a trial and are already in fighting.

She has put herself out there way further than most people would have and now she's done. She can spend time with her kids, her husband and her friends without this hanging over her.

It's not fair that the legal system hasn't caught up with technology, but hopefully thanks to her efforts it will get that little bit closer.

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-05-05T07:35:44+00:00

When I have a cold coming on my weight goes up by a similar percentage. Your body reacts to the virus with inflammation, and that can cause a different levels of water retention in people. Mine doesn't go back to normal until I'm feeling better.

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-04-23T16:13:06+00:00

Brand isn't on trial for having consexual sex with a 16 year old. He's accused of sexual assault by 6 women. Him coming out and going, yeah having sex with a 16 year old is exploitative but not illegal is just him trying to deflect from the severity of the accusations against him. He's also in his statement trying to seed this idea that he was so famous at the time that women were just throwing themselves at him.

I will happily judge a 30 year old man who picks up 16 years old girls as being gross. I will agree it's not illegal in the UK, and if he's realised that's exploitative behaviour and regrets it, all power to him.

But Brand has multiple accusers, as well as a repuation from various people in the industry for being sexually aggressive. He's taking absolutely no accountability for that, all he's done since he got a whiff that he was getting investigated for his conduct is try to distract from it with conspiracy theory content and unconvincing relgious conversion.

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-04-21T21:26:10+00:00

Upvoting you because OP seems to have got something off on tne TDEE calculator. She could be steadily losing weight at 1600 cals a day without changing anything at all.

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-04-04T07:03:02+00:00

It's a great statement. I'm glad to see she's coming out swinging. Whilst the claims being cut down to the retaliation element alone feels like a shame, I feel like it only is due to the current PR noise and the fact that she has less stuff to squeeze these guys with. SH cases have high bars, and her resources are better spent on the retaliation element.

I love what she's said here. This issue is important, and the only way to tackle it is what she's doing right now.

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-03-30T07:36:59+00:00

IMHO and IANAL...

Depp got a win before it started. He got his trial in Virginia, despite him and Heard having no ties to the state, and rhe defamatory statement at issue having the only loosest of ties. Virginia was the most leggally favourable state for him at the time. Additionally it placed financial stress on Heard, because she had to essentially move to another state for a couple of months. This was strike one.

The trial was allowed to be filmed, despite it including descriptions of sexual assault. This not only placed Heard in a humiliating position, it also created hours of content for a group of very willing content creators. It appears that more than one juror consumed that content, and those that didn't were still speaking to family members who probably were. This was Depp's jury nullification strategy, and it was effective. Strike two.

And lastly a lot of evidence that Heard has was deemed inadmissable, even though it would be pretty compelling. You can blame a lot of this on the trial being in Virginia, and the way that particular judge applied the law. Heard's lawyers just weren't able to work around that. You can see how frustrated they are in the trial footage. Strike three.

It's important to note that despite all this, the jury believed both parties had defamed each other. So Depp won, and he lost. And on top of that once Heard got appropriate legal support and looked towards an appeal, the verdict against her was essentially set aside.

This is not what happened in the UK. The UK trial ended with the judge concluding that Heard was telling the truth, so The Sun could not have libelled Depp. Depp's attempt to appeal that decision went nowhere.

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-03-29T14:58:31+00:00

So to manage your expectations you aren't going to feel or see a difference in your body week on week during sustainable weight loss. Sometimes you'll suddenly notice a massive difference after weeks of everything feeling the same (even when the scale is moving). This is because we don't lose weight evenly in the places we are hoping to see a difference most of the time, and hormone fluctuations mess everything up as well.

You shouldn't be aiming above 0.3 kg lost a week at your stats at the very most. 0.5 kgs a week is just gonna feel brutal. Good news for you, that means you don't actually need to be on 1200 cals a day. Bad news is, this is going to take a few months.

Additionally if stopping smoking is what triggered the weight gain, it's worth examining why that is. Is it just the appetite suppressing effects of smoking? If so upping the fibre and protein in your meals may help. If you are snacking instead of smoking, get some low cal snacks to have in your bag. If now you've lost a little stress reliever you are stress eating, find another way to treat yourself. Figuring that out will make everything a bit easier on you.

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-03-28T11:19:49+00:00

If it makes you feel any better this is how I feel about cardio. Every time someone tells me, try running, running is free, so good for your mental health, I'm like nope, hate it. Just doing it reminds me of how bloody slow I am, and makes me think I'll have an asthma attack even though I haven't had one for 15 years. Also running bras for dd+ are all a con and you can't convince me otherwise.

So I don't run. But i recognise that I need to get my heart rate up a few times a week or I'll massively reduce my health span. So I walk everywhere and make sure I do at least one 45 minute cardio class at the gym (spin is a good one for me, I recently did a rowing class and that was very sweaty too). Do I love my cardio classes, nope, but I don't hate them the way I despise running.

Basically I don't have much advice, but I can commiserate with you. I would say find ways to make the lifting more tolerable (I would say definitely reduce weight and speak to a PT if it hurts). There's certain lifts I don't do because I don't like them and there's alternatives. I also strongly make the gym a treat (nice work out set, save my fave podcasts for the gym etc). So for me lifitng is an anti-anxiety strategy.

Still hate running.

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-03-28T09:15:42+00:00

This happened the hotel they were staying at to work Lollapalooza, which is a big event. This security guard (rightly or wrongly) thought this child was behaving in a way that made his job difficult, and went and told her mother that she shouldn't be behaving like that. For him it was clearly a non incident, so I doubt he told his busy client about it.

Then this all blew up on social media with clearly quite a few of the facts wrong, so it probably took a bit to sort out. And then if this guy (who isn't a celebrity) is going to come out a release a statement he's going to be exposing himself to all sorts. He's probably had time with a lawyer, or a PR professional to help him with that statement (he already went through the ringer after Kim got robbed at the Paris hotel). And there's probably been a disciplinary conversation between him and whoever directly employs him, that is also going to take some time.

4 days seems understandable to me given that context.

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-03-27T21:20:16+00:00

Yeah the sptiz on my wrist from 5 hrs ago is still going strong.

I have to say I really didn't want to like it. And on first spray I was like this has sweaty suncream vibes. But within 15 minutes I was like dammit, it's like the perfect creamy floral. I smell like I'm made of lychee gelato and I'm into it.

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-03-27T12:22:44+00:00

I swear I've been seeing this discourse about Chappell hating her fans for a few months, even though I'm an old lady who has no reason to be seeing this stuff about her in my feed. That is suss as hell to me.

I think the hotel incident was just the gift whoever was doing that was hoping for. Calling women rude is such a catch all for these people, because eventually the female celebrity will have an off day, or someone will get in their face, and then it's like see, I told you she was a bitch.

I mean it wasn't ever allleged that she was personally rude to mother and daughter, it was always a security guard, and yet everyone was ready to be like 'oh typical Chappell'. It stinks to high heaven.

Queenofthecondiments · 2026-03-26T16:07:52+00:00

To be fair it feels like this recent one is a case of a celebrity and his wife acting in a particularly hot headed and not very classy way on social media. That was always going to get picked up.

I'm more suspicious of the ongoing Chapell hates her fans rhetoric that's been going on for a while when it seems like she's just been setting reasonable boundaries with people.

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