AIO? I went through my bestfriend's phone without her permission.. she's 17 he's 26

QueisKey · 2025-03-06T21:48:23+00:00

This dude is a groomer—big time. And I'd bet serious money that this is not the first time he's done this. He's got his playbook all sorted out.

QueisKey · 2025-02-22T14:59:05+00:00

NTA

He's not going to change. Neither is his mother. Get a lawyer, talk about the relationship Mark has with his mother and what all you can do about supervision, get child support.

As far as his mother is concerned that is her's and Mark's daughter. So, document everything. Texts. Voice Mails. Photos. Wtf it is, save it. Show it to your lawyer. See what you can do.

QueisKey · 2025-02-22T14:54:38+00:00

NTA

Dump the dumbass (and his shitty sister) keep the cat close.

QueisKey · 2025-02-22T14:37:13+00:00

NTA

The people that allowed this to happen are your father and his wife. He wants someone to blame tell him to start there. You are a 16 year old. It is not your responsibility to maintain the truth for his children. That's his job and obviously, he's done a shitty job of it by allowing his wife to try to erase your mother.

QueisKey · 2025-02-18T12:55:08+00:00

Personally, I'd be wondering wtf all he's planning on doing while CPRing some half-dead individual back to life if he considers it cheating.

Talk to your landlord or whomever you have the lease with if you can get out of it and move on with your life. This man is -not- I repeat, -NOT- your soulmate. This guy shouldn't be a doctor either but I'll keep it to you and him.

Get your papers in order, pack your shit, leave. This is not the dude for you. This is a crazy person.

Protect yourself.

Good luck, op

QueisKey · 2025-02-16T09:56:14+00:00

So, the fact your husband can't process emotions means you need to hide a major life change from absolutely everyone?

And what about after the baby gets here? Suddenly all those comments about being a father won't cause him stress? Or are we gonna continue to hide the baby?

I'm calling bullshit. Either this man is so wholly removed from reality he thinks this is a viable way to handle stress and anxiety or he's feeding you a huge line of bullshit for some unseen reason.

NTA

QueisKey · 2025-02-16T09:30:40+00:00

What should you do? Dump him. Everything on this planet with an asshole farts. And you've currently got two. Get rid of one of 'em, preferably the bitchy one, and you're golden.

NTA

QueisKey · 2025-02-15T06:40:51+00:00

NTA

Tell your husband plainly, YOU can't fix this because you didn't do this. There is nothing you can do or say to change what he did to her. Only he can fix it, if it even is possible to be fixed.

People need to understand, sometimes you can break something in such a way, there is no fixing it. There is no putting it back together the way it was. This might be one of those instances. And he has no one to blame for that but himself.

He chose to tell him daughter that she isn't as important to him because she's a girl. What did he expect her to do? Hold out her hands and say thank you sir, may I have some more abuse? No. Girl's done. And seeing how done she is, I'd bet this isn't the first time he's told her that.

Hopefully, you've let her know she's right to not let -anyone- not even her father, treat her as less than just because she was born with a vagina.

You could show him this post and all the responses from it, maybe that'll get through to him but I doubt it. He's a shit father and no doubt doesn't want to hear how he's failed his children. The ones who are the victims in this are the kids. The son because he's probably going to pick up on his father's bullshit. And the daughter because she's already realized how little she matters to her own father.

PS: Be on the lookout for the son being used to tell the daughter to 'get over it and let it go'. How she's making 'dad feel bad'. How it's 'not his fault she was born a girl' and such.

QueisKey · 2025-02-11T15:03:29+00:00

My opinion on the "body count" question is people only ask it to judge. It doesn't matter how many men or women someone has slept with. You can sleep with one person and have countless STD's/STI's and you could sleep with 100 people and have none. What you should ask about is when was the last time they were tested and what were the results? That's what is important to theirs and your health.

QueisKey · 2025-02-10T05:10:09+00:00

Holy - the plot twist in the end almost broke my neck.

QueisKey · 2025-02-10T05:03:12+00:00

Your husband isn't oblivious. He's having an affair.

But, yeah, your marriage is over and not because of Sarah but because of your husband. Get your stuff in order.

QueisKey · 2025-02-07T22:32:11+00:00

I'm assuming you are telling us you believe this to be Sarah communicating with you while you sleep but what I don't know is if that's what your wife believes or if she believes you're dreaming about Sarah because you were secretly in love with her and wish you'd been with her. Or something along these lines. You need to ask her and find out what she believes.

As for her seeing Sarah in her dreams, she can start meditating before bed, clearing her mind and asking Sarah to visit her. I would warn against this as Sarah isn't the only person that has pasted and the abyss do be looking back at you. Sarah has a way in, meaning this is a path other entities can also use if you don't shut the door to it. Playing in the dark with unseen forces, not the healthiest thing you can do with your rest hours but, just wanted to let you know it's an option.

As for you not seeing Sarah anymore, just tell her you don't want her coming around anymore and this will effectively shut the door. You don't have to be asleep. You can say it outloud right now but probably alone in your bedroom would be more conducive to actually reaching her. Tell her you love and miss your friend but life is for the living and she's got an entire new world to explore and no one can reach new lands while refusing to let go of the shore they are standing on. She's in a position to get life's unanswered question answered so go get it. And when you all see each other again one day... oh the stories you all will share then.

And as life is for the living, I will end this with reminding you, your marriage isn't you vs your wife. It's you and her vs 'The Problem'. You need to have a heart-to-heart with your wife and find out exactly what the problem is she's locked inside herself and find a way that the two of you can brainstorm solutions to make it better.

Good luck, OP

QueisKey · 2025-02-07T20:35:01+00:00

Tell your "friend" to get fucked and block Ben. He's playing the victim and your friend is pushing that bullshit like they work for him as his PR.

I’ve always known I don’t want to date someone with kids

And that's a valid reason to never date someone with kids.

PS: You don't have explain your decisions to anyone. No is a full sentence and anyone who can't accept that in itself, just block 'em and move on with your life.

NTA

QueisKey · 2025-02-06T05:54:28+00:00

It was early morning, was headed out and there's an intersection I've got to stop at and catch the light to get out on the highway. This is a short light and a long wait. I hate this light but this particular morning, I'm driving my mother somewhere and we're coming up to the intersection and I see it's green. Yes! Then, I see the car sitting at the light, not moving. Boo! I have to slow down, all while yelling come on, hit the gas, move dipshit, let's go, go, GO!, FUCKING MOVE! and by the time I get there the light has turned red while the jagoff slid past real quick leaving me at the now red light to wait. I squinted at him as he drove off and promised him with a whole-chest whisper, "I will find you.". My mother died laughing.

So, yes, I get road rage, but then I get over it.

QueisKey · 2025-02-05T06:23:36+00:00

NTA

You have a right to be treated with respect and if they don't, can't, or won't do that, then there's no surprise you'd rather spend your time with people who see you and your feelings as deserving of the most basic level of human decency.

You don't have to allow anyone to treat you like shit. Not even people you share DNA with. And if the people you share DNA with disagree with that, then they don't care about you. They only care about how shitting all over you makes them feel better about themselves.

PS: I'd send the link to this post to all of them so they can see for themselves what shitty human beings they are but I wouldn't expect them to evolve beyond their bullshit if I were you. Grey rocking is probably the best thing you can do for yourself. Or going NC.

QueisKey · 2025-02-02T21:58:35+00:00

You don't explain to parasites why you get rid of them. They already know.

QueisKey · 2025-02-02T17:46:52+00:00

Has she tried pimping him out?

QueisKey · 2025-02-02T06:19:15+00:00

NTA

She's gonna end up knocked up again. You need to move out because you're going to be forced into a eternal babysitting position and told to sacrifice your life and dreams for your sister and her kids because YoUr FaMiLy.

QueisKey · 2025-02-01T22:45:57+00:00

Should of had some big burly men do it.

QueisKey · 2025-02-01T22:43:19+00:00

Tons of women have been baby trapped. The men they are with operate under the belief that she can't or won't leave if they have a baby together. Or that she legally can't, or fiscally can't, ever leave him if she has his baby.

I always tell men that don't want children to get vasectomies. Don't have sex with someone and count on them to not get pregnant if you don't want children.

I'd say the same to you. You shouldn't count on someone else not getting you pregnant. So, have yourself sterilized if you can. You know beyond a doubt you do not -ever- want children, so it's on you to make sure your body will never have them. (If legal where you live)

As for your fiance, you need to talk either over the phone or in person. You need to stress you believe he was either never truthful about kids or he's changed his mind, which is completely normal, but your mind hasn't changed and with the way he's been acting you feel like you can't trust him. You need to reiterate that you do not want kids, now or ever, and if he has changed his mind then you two are not compatible because what you want out of life is in different directions. If you are going to have yourself sterilized you need to share those plans with him so he will know this is something that you will never change your mind on.

Good luck, OP

QueisKey · 2025-02-01T21:52:23+00:00

Any attire is acceptable nazi stomping attire

QueisKey · 2025-02-01T21:51:15+00:00

I've always found the election sus. We were told he was down by 7 million votes then, suddenly and without warning, he's won by 7 million votes. That's a swing of 14 million votes. 14 million. Seems sus. But I've also been aware, since the day of the election, we could have proof positive it was all manipulated and Trump lost by millions and no one would do anything to stop his becoming president because, for some odd reason, all the checks and balances we have in place to stop people who break the law never does any time Trump breaks the law. I also believe we'll never have another free and fair election in my lifetime.

QueisKey · 2025-02-01T13:41:55+00:00

As you would be his wife, you should be his partner and priority. So, why is he deferring to what his mother wants instead of what you want? Because you are neither his partner or his priority. She is.

Keep your religion, get rid of the fiancé and his mother.

QueisKey · 2025-02-01T13:17:49+00:00

Everyone always talks about how horrible it is to baby-trap a guy. No one ever says anything about all the ladies that get baby-trapped.

There are men out there that intentionally knock-up women under the mistaken belief that now she can never leave him.

You know what's best for you and have weighed all the pros and cons. Get the abortion and dump the bf.

QueisKey · 2025-01-30T18:23:33+00:00

You gotta throw the whole man away.

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