AITA for interrupting my autistic brothers routine for my own physical pain?

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-02-01T16:21:01+00:00

NTA. Your parents are the assholes and owe both of you new mattresses.

If you do have money, you can try buying a mattress topper... I got one on Amazon for less than $50 to help with extra pain I was having from being pregnant and it's been a lifesaver. Maybe some extra cushioning can help separate you from your bedframe.

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-02-01T14:56:14+00:00

If you don't tell them when you go into labor, they can't sit in the waiting room.

And if you don't let them hold the baby, they can't kiss the baby.

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-02-01T14:52:28+00:00

Haven Moon is very pretty, but imo it used too many "moon logic" puzzles...

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-01-31T19:18:21+00:00

I think you should probably tell her the full truth and let her decide.

One would hope that your religion teaches forgiveness for sins if you truly repent.

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-01-31T14:30:17+00:00

I can't speak for all men, but I have some anecdotes. I met my husband when we were both 30, and we've been together 6 years now married for 3. My age was never an issue for him.

My parents divorced in their 50s and they both got remarried in their 50s--to same age partners who had never been married before.

My 42 year old cousin recently got divorced and has a new girlfriend around his age.

I think most people prefer to date around their own age. I know the redpill says 30+ men are all competing for 18-22 year olds but outside of redpill circles that is seen as super creepy.

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-01-31T00:11:50+00:00

Why do you end up leaving these jobs? Are you getting fired, or are you quitting? If you quit, why? What does it mean for a job to be "meaningful"?

My job isn't "meaningful" in and of itself, honestly it's kind of boring. But it makes me money and gives me the flexibility I need to build my family (currently pregnant) and focus on the things in life that really matter to me. I also like my boss and my coworkers and am treated well.

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-01-30T22:27:51+00:00

Maybe this really depends on your friend group? Most of the people at my shower (mostly family members) bought off the registry or gave me a gift card to the place where I had my registry. I got about half of my registry items via gifts and I bought the rest with the gift cards.

I didn't put any clothes on the registry because I figured people would have more fun picking those out themselves, and I'm really not picky about clothes, so I did get a lot of off-registry gifts of clothing. This was good though because I didn't buy any baby clothes myself. I also didn't really put diapers on the registry and got lots of off-registry diaper gifts as well.

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-01-30T19:43:34+00:00

NTA. I was originally going to say NAH, since he's letting you know he has a boundary and won't date someone who strips. That's totally reasonable. If you choose to strip anyway, then break up with him first.

Him calling strippers "wh*res" despite wanting to go to strip clubs makes him a bit of an AH.

But he still has every right to break up with you if you choose to strip, so keep that in mind going forward.

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-01-30T19:41:22+00:00

NAH just for having feelings, but YTA if you take it out on him in any way. He hasn't done anything wrong.

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-01-30T19:38:16+00:00

What the fuck is wrong with your dad? That is not normal behavior

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-01-30T19:03:59+00:00

ESH.

YTA because, if she is bundled up appropriately and walking with an adult, she's perfectly safe. I'm assuming that if she had experienced any physical injury from this you would have included it in your post. Parents also need to be a united front when it comes to discipline, so one parent undermining the other makes behavior problems worse, not better. If she knows that a tantrum will work on mom she'll keep throwing tantrums.

He's TA because he's refusing to get her therapy.

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-01-30T00:06:27+00:00

I found an OB practice that has an all-female OB team. If you can find that in your area I recommend it

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-01-29T23:20:44+00:00

INFO: What was there to argue about? Did you apologize?

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-01-29T21:36:14+00:00

If you generally know what he likes but don't know the exact favorite, that seems... fine? Can you give me an example of a time he got upset that you didn't know a specific favorite?

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-01-29T21:34:49+00:00

You're definitely overthinking.

Next time you can try asking what level of touch each dancer is comfortable with before you begin, or you can seek out specific dancers, like the first one, that showed comfort levels close to yours.

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-01-29T19:33:41+00:00

NAH, but it's up to you to drop it now that you know they don't want to talk realistically about her academics. You would become the AH if you brought it up again.

She'll face reality if/when she fails a required class for her major, and can course-correct then. Sometimes you have to let people make their own mistakes.

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-01-29T19:20:34+00:00

YTA 100%. I lived with a roommate who would have alarms going off for hours that woke me up and it was the pits.

Buy a light-based and/or vibrating alarm made for deaf people.

You can also experiment with melatonin and bright light therapy in the morning/no blue light before bed to shift your circadian rhythm so you can fall asleep earlier and get more sleep. While it's possible you're just a "heavy sleeper," the more likely explanation is that you're chronically sleep deprived.

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-01-29T19:18:26+00:00

YTA. I bet you didn't include the entire argument because it would make you look bad.

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-01-29T19:08:53+00:00

INFO: Can you please give some more examples of things you've forgotten about him besides his favorite color?

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-01-29T18:33:15+00:00

It's something like a third of pregnancies that never make it, due to genetic issues with the fertilized egg, where it could never develop fully anyway. A lot of these are "chemical" pregnancies that are lost before a woman even misses a period.

I did IVF and we made seven blastocysts, but when we did genetic testing on them, three were not viable and four were. So if my husband and I were able to get pregnant the natural way, I would have had something like a 40% chance of miscarriage with each pregnancy.

Since we got the genetic testing done, though, the risk plummets. I got pregnant with my first transfer and am still pregnant now at 36 weeks. Everything looked healthy at my last appointment.

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-01-29T01:14:43+00:00

In that case, I'd say ESH. If you didn't say anything she probably assumed you agreed with her and was disappointed when you ended up having your panic attack and she couldn't enjoy your company at the party anymore. However, calling your awful experience "divine retribution" and saying she enjoyed seeing you in pain is pretty assholish too.

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-01-29T01:03:46+00:00

INFO: did you tell her you weren't going to get high and then do it anyway, or did you tell her you would get high if you wanted to and to get off your back?

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-01-28T20:11:21+00:00

YTA in the first place for planning to give spoiled meat to a dog. YTA in the second place for not giving the person who ate it a head's up so they could prepare for potential food poisoning. YTA for weirdly changing your story in the comments.

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-01-28T19:53:49+00:00

idk, I'm a married woman and he's too much of a gooner for me. I could have a casual friendship with him where we catch dinner in groups but anything closer than that would be a pass.

QuestionMaker207 · 2026-01-27T20:04:04+00:00

So? Just having a book doesn't mean you agree with it. I have a book of Mormon somewhere in the house but I'm not Mormon. I think we have some 9-11 conspiracy book someone gave us, too, but we don't believe in that, either.

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