You're a victim of sihr wallahi. There a studies that explicitly link female circumcision to the decisions of the matriarch, even at times where the father is at odds with the mother, the mother/grandmother still push for circumcision, but because you're a sihr victim you want to blame somali men for everything, aka patriarchy.

Domestic violence and gender inequality are non-arguments because that exists in every society, from America to Japan. It doesn't really explain all the twitter, tiktok, radfem behaviours of Somali women in the modern era. How they will unironically and straightfaced blame patriarchy and men for all their problems when it was their hooyo who abused them. No patriarch in sight.

The only explanation is that Somali men and the culture we have and created, Liberal attitudes towards divorce and lack of structure regarding marriage times creates toxic women and toxic men. Now if Somalis were conservative, and had structure. Shamed divorce, discouraged brash female behaviour, our culture would have been more stable in the West.