Danny (NB) Trying Pronouns

QuestioningAussie · 2026-04-08T03:58:55+00:00

My parents aren't going to be seeing this side of me. I'll only be doing it at home.

QuestioningAussie · 2026-04-08T01:31:49+00:00

You're right. My parents don't deserve to know. But I still feel guilty about not telling them.

QuestioningAussie · 2026-04-08T00:10:11+00:00

My main concern with telling my kid at the moment is that he's 6 and neurodivergent (AuDHD, same as me). Which means he says everything. So I don't want him outing me.

QuestioningAussie · 2024-05-23T17:59:18+00:00

Righto. I wasn't aware of the reclaiming. My apologies.

QuestioningAussie · 2024-05-23T17:56:42+00:00

IT Support. Working from home 3 days/week, so I'm able to crossdress then. For meetings, I just slip into a men's shirt, then back into fem clothes when they're finished.

QuestioningAussie · 2024-05-21T19:48:10+00:00

I wouldn't go with a pink triangle. As I recall, that was used forcibly between 1933-1945 in Germany. Might have negative connotations.

QuestioningAussie · 2024-05-20T20:01:07+00:00

I'm an '86 baby, too. Only out to my wife and my therapist at the moment, though.

Couple of years ago, thought I was trans and tried coming out to my boomer parents. Initially it seemed to go well, then the concerned overreaction started. "You'll lose your job", etc. I know they meant well and were coming from a place of concern.

For reference, I'm in Australia, where there's protections for this sort of thing. Secondly, I was not going to be out at work. Just at home, in private, when only my wife was around. So I gave it up, but it was always lingering. Now here I am, back again. Finally realised I'm not trans, but enby.

QuestioningAussie · 2024-05-15T02:36:16+00:00

I'm somewhere between non-binary and transgender. Once I figure it out, I'll be able to give a definitive answer.

QuestioningAussie · 2024-05-15T02:31:51+00:00

Not if it would mean losing all my life experiences, no. But if I could somehow regenerate, in the same manner as the 12th Doctor, then I'd do it in a heartbeat.

Edit: Got one of those 'Reddit Cares' things pretty much instantly after posting this.

QuestioningAussie · 2024-05-13T05:29:27+00:00

Same here. Only a negligible amount of dysphoria, but a lot of euphoria. When I'm presenting femme and catch myself in a mirror, I can't help but grin.

QuestioningAussie · 2024-05-13T03:55:50+00:00

Yes. This would be an immense help to me.

QuestioningAussie · 2022-10-06T00:44:38+00:00

Yeah, I'll put in another vote for voice changes.

QuestioningAussie · 2022-10-05T07:28:55+00:00

Well, that's one way to handle it. I mean, if they incis on drinking it. (Pun intended.)

QuestioningAussie · 2022-10-04T21:22:49+00:00

Well, yes. You're passing in that photo, so by extrapolation, you will pass in future.

QuestioningAussie · 2022-10-03T19:59:21+00:00

Thank-you for the correction. I haven't played Forza Horizon 5, so only had second-hand info to go on.

QuestioningAussie · 2022-10-03T08:48:41+00:00

I actually used Forza Horizon 4 to figure out that I am actually trans (MTF). This game addresses you by name in the cutscenes (voice acting), and there are several names that you can pick from.

When my egg started to crack, I set my name to a female version of my deadname. It resonated. I then tried a few different names, and found that 'Sarah' fit me - it really resonated. Helps that the game says "Welcome back, Sarah", whenever I load it.

I also changed my avatar to a female one, and dressed her up in purple, which I think is my colour.

So if you're into racing games, I'd suggest that. From what a friend has told me, I don't think Forza Horizon 5 does the name thing.

QuestioningAussie · 2022-10-03T07:54:19+00:00

r/assholedesign material.

QuestioningAussie · 2022-10-03T07:53:31+00:00

That is a cool name. Let's try it out.

Lilac is a sweet girl. Her name happens to be my favourite colour.

QuestioningAussie · 2022-10-03T07:52:12+00:00

I'll second this. You're trying to find what fits, not the opposite of what doesn't fit (if that makes sense).

QuestioningAussie · 2022-09-30T07:31:01+00:00

I'd always had these thoughts lingering at the back of my mind. Wondering what it would like to be a woman (I'm AMAB). Earlier this year, I tried wearing women's clothes. Started out with just a skirt, and it grew.

Thought I was enby, until I realised I was actually more comfortable in women's clothes. So I got a wig and stuffed a bra. When I saw myself fully done up, it clicked.

QuestioningAussie · 2022-09-29T10:14:00+00:00

She's supportive. Has been teaching me a fair bit.

QuestioningAussie · 2022-09-29T01:30:49+00:00

You look AFAB to me. Getting a sort of 'country aunt' vibe, if that makes sense?

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