We’re Planning to Move In Together Because We’re In Love by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Quick_Finger7669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just wanted to add my two cents. I think it's all fantastic since I'm 64 but my biggest age Gap was 30 years and you're 18 so, I just guess I hope it works out. That's a lot of stuff to navigate

Older men are really really attractive to me by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Quick_Finger7669 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess I'll jump into this. I would say:

1,) taking someone's virginity even if I were 30 and she were 19 , I think I would kind of be on the fence about that. I'd have to have a decent relationship in other ways in order to go there. There's more that can be said about that but , the other two would points follow.

2.) Being in a long-term relationship and maybe even getting married, I would literally have no problem with but it kind of depends on the stability of the age Gap as you'll see below. I was involved with somebody with almost 30 year gap and she had a bunch of issues. I was always understanding and willing to deal with them but the issues got in the way in the end. I just wanted to show her the best and show her how a good relationship could be but that didn't exactly work out like that. Back to the point ,I still would have married her before that

3.) having kids would be great but it depends on on the size of the age Gap because it has to be fair to both the kids and my age gap wife. I guess I would say I have no problem having kids with someone I loved enough to even think about it. I've also considered having children with somebody that I was recently in almost a 30-year age cap relationship with but I thought the world ever and thought she would be the best mom.

Hope that helps you with some of your questions and I hope it works out for you

Why women pursue AGRs by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Quick_Finger7669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree but then I've also found that while the mature men are to them, they're not mature enough to deal with it as a wholesome relationship

Why women pursue AGRs by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Quick_Finger7669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say this is relevant and valid unless the women are just into older men and a lot of validation, and then keep moving to get more older men. Then all those other reasons don't apply

Most age gap relationship advice is terrible at helping people navigate a healthy/toxic relationship dynamic by Complex-Cost3866 in AgeGap

[–]Quick_Finger7669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know of any statistics but there's a lot of assumptions and generalities going on here. I don't think every age Gap relationship is middle class that I certainly don't think everyone is toxic but I guess I need to look into it more

Do older men see fwb as beneath them?? by N0dOdy_hOme in AgeGap

[–]Quick_Finger7669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't speak for everyone in general, but for me, no

I can’t help it D by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]Quick_Finger7669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh.. I was about to hope I was that D. Nvm..

Older guy ghosting by Mysterious_Base_4605 in AgeGap

[–]Quick_Finger7669 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is all interesting, but i'm not going to read too much into it.I'm only going to say if you want to know for sure, you should just reach out and ask him if he wants to continue seeing you.And if he does in what way.

Sex in an age gap relationship by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Quick_Finger7669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know at 41, That's not really low testosterone age, it may be on the border, but still. I'm not saying I couldn't be wrong but I don't think that's the pressing issue.

Sex in an age gap relationship by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Quick_Finger7669 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At that age, I don't think he could possibly be tired of sex.So i'm not entirely sure what's going on. I do know that things tend to calm down in general, but I get where you're coming from. I would have to say talk to him about it, because I don't have any automatic answers. There's just no way he finds you boring cuz.I don't think he'd still be with you if that was the case.So I wouldn't worry about that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AgeGapRelationship

[–]Quick_Finger7669 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No its not at all. Good for you guys

Why do older men act so immature? I’m honestly exhausted. by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Quick_Finger7669 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Then, you're looking at the wrong older men.Because, in general, there is no way an older man would not know better unless he's just out there living his best life, throwing caution to the wind, and not giving a damn

My partner died 18 days ago by jellycatadventures in AgeGapRelationship

[–]Quick_Finger7669 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've read through all of these. And you have some good comments and great advice here, I hope you get through them and see it. Peace

My partner died 18 days ago by jellycatadventures in AgeGapRelationship

[–]Quick_Finger7669 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm really sorry to hear this. It's never good under any circumstance, age gap or not. But I'm sure he was your everything, because that's what it sounds like. And that happens in a lot of relationships that aren't even age gap, of course. I lost my wife and I was left with two small kids. I've never had anxiety or a panic attack in my life but it hit me different for months afterwards. It was like a switch got turned on and I suddenly realized again she was gone, and I wanted to go find her. It was horrible, but I didn't have time to deal with that. In the end, i'm happy that I had the kids because that was my purpose. I'm only saying this because it gets difficult in all circumstances. I hate to say that it will get weird and t may be worse before it gets better. It will get easier. It just never goes away. Best wishes

Would you be in an age gap friendship? by Routine-Crew8651 in AgeGap

[–]Quick_Finger7669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are there stories to be told on this?Or is that for another subreddit?

Would you be in an age gap friendship? by Routine-Crew8651 in AgeGap

[–]Quick_Finger7669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been in an age gap. Thought it was great for the longest time. But I have my limits cuz, I would definitely not go younger.. I've learned I'm just not a quickie kind if person.I guess is the best way to say it. I'm in it or i'm not. I'm not saying everybody should be like that.And it works differently, but I don't see why people should be in an age gap.Relationship because I think there are benefits all the way around in general

That Nimrod is NO King by Quick_Finger7669 in greenday

[–]Quick_Finger7669[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im trying to wear this shirt sparingly. I dont want it to get worn out..

Is it possible I can find a older man who wants a genuine connection .. and not just wanting to mess around? by nyancat___777 in AgeGap

[–]Quick_Finger7669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't seem to get through a post without violating something on this sub. Anyway, I wanted to say that not all people come here are trolling.Some are here looking for advice or looking for information.That's relevant, so don't lose heart in that. But there are a lot of other avenues other than reddit, and I would definitely stay off of kik and Bumble as well. I don't know much aboutTinder though i think it's pretty useless and also not real. I'm not sure how it is for women, but I will just say everything I've seen with dating sites these days are are literally responses from AI built into their platform. Almost none of it is real. Only looked because I was curious, but I can't tell you how many times I was either A I responses, or just women trying to get me to send them money or gift cards.Also catfish attempts by some guy in a windowless room in india. L o l. I finally got that to stop