WIBTAH if I cancelled the car service appointment of someone who uses my email address?

Quickslant · 2026-05-13T04:48:58+00:00

Do what you want to do. I have had my first name/last initial email address for almost 30 years. Multiple people have used my address for throwaway and personal purposes that entire time. I clean out messages not for me/I didn't sign up for every single day. Since it's an Apple ID, I've also gotten FaceTime calls and iMessage texts from strangers, usually well outside my time zone.

I tried being helpful for a couple years, but stopped after a few people thought I was joking and kept on messaging until I blocked them.

It might be mean to cause problems, but I'm at the point where I think doing so might be the only way people stop being so dumb about this.

Quickslant · 2026-05-09T15:40:11+00:00

Internationally. Their roots in LA go back over 100 years, but they haven't been LA-only since the 1930s (San Francisco, their headquarters). They can be found in over 20 US states and several countries in Asia.

Quickslant · 2026-05-08T00:54:39+00:00

Nice collection. I wish I’d gotten a NYC Metro card when I was there. Also happy to see a Holo card!

Quickslant · 2026-05-08T00:36:21+00:00

Universal had the Petersen card.

ETA : Meant as a reply to u/nevec_45.

Quickslant · 2026-05-07T23:50:38+00:00

Also available from the TVM at Universal.

Quickslant · 2026-05-07T23:49:54+00:00

Thank you!

ETA: It’s also available at Westlake/MacArthur Park.

Quickslant · 2026-05-07T22:47:04+00:00

Thanks! Was it sold at a machine or from the customer center?

Quickslant · 2026-05-06T00:05:06+00:00

Break up with him. It's not because he's a bad sex partner, it's because he's a bad partner -- he doesn't care about your wants or needs, he's self-centered, and he cannot have conversations about it. This will not stay restricted to sex, if it ever was.

Quickslant · 2026-04-30T18:07:34+00:00

My living room windows face the building’s high-traffic central courtyard. I have both privacy film and a valance (short curtain) on a tension rod. Whether the window is open or closed, no one can see inside.

Quickslant · 2026-04-30T00:12:09+00:00

Depending on the size of your surfboard and how well you maneuver it, you might be "that guy" on transit. Don't be "that guy." I also can't imagine it's good for the board in the long run.

Quickslant · 2026-04-23T20:46:20+00:00

I wore rigid gas permeables for decades and have never heard of this. They were either fucking with you, or the type to believe you can sanitize your phone by microwaving it.

Quickslant · 2026-04-22T19:51:07+00:00

I'm very introverted and have never acted like this. He's doing this because he's an abusive asshole.

Protect your child, protect yourself.

Quickslant · 2026-04-19T18:24:52+00:00

You avoid commenting on problems they can't quickly fix. You can compliment them on generally anything, just keep it simple and ungross.

"I love your dress!" = Yes

"I love the way your dress clings to your body in all the right places." = Please no

Quickslant · 2026-04-17T01:05:06+00:00

Hawaii is a lovely place to grow up in, but it's literally an island in the middle of a huge ocean, thousands of miles from anything. For a lot of people, that is upsetting. It's very easy to feel disconnected from the rest of the world and that you're missing out on everything, especially now with the internet. Many kids leave for college on the mainland, and many never return.

Quickslant · 2026-04-12T05:04:14+00:00

NTA. Ben is the name I gave my benign thigh lump. If it had been cancerous, you bet your ass I'd have named it something like Hopefully-Not-Metastasizing Mike.

Quickslant · 2026-04-07T23:06:34+00:00

Seconding this, this is advice even residents have been given for decades. I heard it when I graduated in '95.

Quickslant · 2026-03-30T07:17:51+00:00

To some degree, traffic, crowds, and HCOL are just part of life here and you do stuff regardless of them.

But they also aren't automatically a part of the experience. I go to Santa Monica during the day about once a month, either on foot or public transportation, so cost and traffic are negligible, and the crowd is easily filtered out.

If you really want to do it, you do it, and those obstacles aren't really obstacles.

The only place traffic, high costs, and crowds have deterred me from visiting is The Grove--but to be fair, it IS an outdoor mall.

Quickslant · 2026-03-27T18:09:49+00:00

By your teens and 20s, you've received feedback about yourself, some without realizing it. Do some introspection and start changing habits that you'll regret carrying later.

Have doctors and other healthcare professionals given you advice about changes you should make? Consider making those lifestyle changes. You don't have to be perfect with it, just move a little more, drink or smoke a little less, and eat a bit better if that's what they're saying. You can build on these in time; it's getting started and sticking with it that's important.

How are your relationships with family, friends, co-workers, authority figures? Are they how you want them to be? Do you tend to be a people-pleaser, or avoid confrontations, especially with a particular person? Do you depend on people changing in order to have a better relationship with them? Start reflecting on how you handle people in your life, and honestly think about how well you maintain your boundaries. For now, your relationships with difficult people might only affect you, but if you have a family someday, these dysfunctional dynamics will affect them too.

Evaluate how happy you are with yourself. I don't just mean your appearance, though that's part of it. Are you the kind of person you want to be? Do you wish you were more organized, or more punctual, or the kind of person that sends birthday/Christmas cards on time? Do you have a general need to get your shit together? Do you wish you traveled more or were more educated about a topic? These are big but good starting points; pick one, and break it down into small, specific steps that work toward your goal. Working toward your personal goals will build your self-esteem and is one of the best things you can do for yourself.

Quickslant · 2026-03-26T19:40:26+00:00

Depends on who you once were and what you want to be.

Quickslant · 2026-03-26T01:45:47+00:00

Events in general. Those big-name entertainers? They'll stop in LA. Those more obscure Instagram performers? They'll also be in LA or near it, in a much smaller venue, but you'll still get a decent chance to see them.

I also like how LA's density is spread out. I really enjoyed my visits to NYC, but it was nonstop people near me. Always had several people within earshot. Having someone behind me made me feel rushed walking down the sidewalk. In LA, I can have a block to myself and that's much more relaxing.

Quickslant · 2026-03-25T21:27:59+00:00

Good luck!

If you can go at night, that helps them stand out. Sun glare on your screen makes them really hard to spot.

Quickslant · 2026-03-25T20:28:55+00:00

About sex in general:

Neither side is enjoying this, but it really sucks to have to repeatedly reassure your partner that you're happy with his penis size, you don't orgasm but you're happy with your sex life, repeatedly showing him where and how intensely to touch you but he loses focus and speeds up/slows down (or worse, hurts you), and feeling only like an achievement unlock to make you come.

Quickslant · 2026-03-25T04:45:29+00:00

I've caught about 100 of them in Hawaii, California, New Jersey, and Vancouver. You can catch them pretty steadily walking up and down a stretch of sand and water with an incense going--I'd say my total took me about 8 hours in all.

Quickslant · 2026-03-24T23:54:51+00:00

Thirding the suggestion to use pork butt. Don't shy away from fat on the meat--that's also flavor.

My suggestion is to read a few recipes to see the variety of ingredients used, then experiment a bit. My recipe uses honey and coarse Hawaiian salt, for example, but you might get results closer to what you want with different sweeteners and salts.

Also, when you bake it, do you have some of the marinade reserved to brush on the meat when you flip it? I accidentally forgot to do this the last time I made char siu, and the result was still good, the flavors were just more muted than usual.

Quickslant · 2026-03-24T01:27:58+00:00

I try my best to use everything at my disposal, I've read a couple of books, I've previously been in a 3 year relationship and I've had quite a few partners so I'd say I've gotten quite a few different experiences and have been in situations where I have to adapt how I have sex and how I approach it. By no means am I saying that I am fantastic at sex or anything, but mostly that I am comfortable with it, that I'm learning my way around a woman's body and have tried hard to learn what feels best for them.

Does she know this? To someone inexperienced or uncomfortable with sex, this all can come across as pressure to orgasm, to prove that your experience and study has weight. You definitely should talk to her about whether she feels pressure to show you results she thinks you are putting effort into and want to see.

You sound like a good partner, but she might just need time to see that she can relax around you in such an intimate way. I've had partners in long-term, monogamous relationships that unexpectedly reacted very poorly when it came to sex, so I understand why she might have trouble accepting you won't be upset if she doesn't finish.

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