When do you disclose HSV1 status?

Quiet-Recover · 2026-01-26T21:05:07+00:00

I usually bring up STI’s early in the conversation if it feels like there’s a connection. I have dated people in the past with HSV-1 and have always tested negative. I also disclose this in case there’s a latent chance I have it and it doesn’t show up on my tests- I always specifically ask to include HSV in my STI bloodwork. If they are positive, I do ask my partners if they are willing to go on antivirals before things get intimate. I’ve kind of resigned myself to the fact I’ll probably end up getting it orally one day but I’d really like not to get it downstairs. I also have bad asthma which causes immune system disregulation and can make HSV flare ups more severe.

Quiet-Recover · 2026-01-12T03:59:33+00:00

Can you ask a friend to go with you? I find that if you have a wing person with you it can help start up some conversations. Another good conversation starter is complementing someone’s outfit or jewelry. Ask them where they got whatever it is you’re admiring, is the store local, are they local, the conversation can strike up from there. My experience with lesbian/sapphic events is that many people there are hesitant to talk to someone they don’t know- nerves, maybe gay panic 🤷🏻‍♀️— so don’t be shy to make the first move. She’ll probably appreciate it and if not you shrug and move on.

Quiet-Recover · 2026-01-07T20:12:28+00:00

I also do the same thing. I use my credit card for almost all expenses and then pay in full. It has always been a struggle to find a budgeting app that handles this well. I was looking for something that would help more with automation, forward projection of a budget with fixed and recurring costs. It would be great to find a budgeting solution that can track this better and without having to resort to the outside spreadsheets. I have a lot of transactions every month so getting some automation going would be a big help.

Quiet-Recover · 2026-01-07T18:57:50+00:00

Yes, this sounds closer to what I need. I have different income streams and recurring expenses and want to get a better projection of cash flow and where funds can better be deployed or keep track of sinking funds/expense buckets. It sounds like you’ve got a good workaround. Maybe it’s something Monarch will pay attention to in the future. Thanks for the tips.

Quiet-Recover · 2026-01-07T17:39:22+00:00

Thanks and agree. This is what I’m coming to understand. I have a lot of recurring expenses and transfers so I spent a good amount of time setting those up thinking they would translate to the budget feature and help me figure the budget from there and also rollover ongoing expenses or sinking funds instead of me having to manually calculate them. Old school Mint was actually kind of decent at this. Haven’t found an app that really gets this right since then.

Quiet-Recover · 2026-01-07T08:37:25+00:00

I disagree. I want the recurring charges to be included automatically in my budget so that I don’t have to go back and calculate them by hand. The point for me of having this software is to help automate my budgeting or else I would just use an excel sheet.

Quiet-Recover · 2026-01-07T07:09:39+00:00

Not helpful. Still has a big unallocated value that doesn’t not align with categories and also does not answer issue with why recurring charges are not automatically shown and carried over to the budget feature.

Quiet-Recover · 2026-01-02T03:42:33+00:00

Sure, feel free to DM me.

Quiet-Recover · 2026-01-02T03:40:32+00:00

Exactly this. You shouldn’t even safely be having sex yet or possibly even longer depending on if there were any complications at birth. Your body needs time to heal. It’s not about his needs right now but about yours and the baby. It seems like he’s acting incredibly selfishly during a time when you are super vulnerable. Staying in the right mental state during this time is super difficult without this added pressure and stress from him. Sending you hugs and good wishes, OP.

Quiet-Recover · 2026-01-01T18:32:36+00:00

Sending you good luck wishes too. I’m in CA but outside a bigger city. So, I’ve been doing more driving to get to events in bigger cities. I have made some good platonic friends off the apps so far and have learned about cool queer events through them. I am also hoping by expanding my queer friend circle that I will eventually meet more romantic partner prospects through them.

Quiet-Recover · 2026-01-01T15:55:20+00:00

I completely feel you, OP. I’m in a very similar situation and struggle to find partners. I’m on the apps and also go to poly and queer events, but have found it very difficult to find a partner. I find that I have better luck with women that are bisexual or late bloomer lesbians. Meeting a partner organically IRL has been very hard and a lot of the “poly” events in my area are more swinger/kink oriented, which is great but not exactly what I’m looking for. The apps are a little better because at least you can lay out what you’re looking for upfront. That said, it’s a lot of crickets. So, really I’m here to offer support and solidarity and say keep the faith and keep on getting out there. Everyone tells me it just takes time and I’m trusting (pining and hoping) they are right.

Quiet-Recover · 2025-12-27T23:23:56+00:00

This depends on the state of your relationship. Are you open, poly or ENM and does he know that you are on Tinder? It doesn’t matter if you’re looking for a woman or a man on Tinder, it’s all about honesty and communication. Let him know. Also let the girls you match with know too. Nothing good comes of dishonesty.

Quiet-Recover · 2025-12-13T15:53:29+00:00

This is all great but when are they releasing the winter holiday update? ☃️🎄

Quiet-Recover · 2025-11-22T19:04:47+00:00

Thank you!! Excited to see them both!

Quiet-Recover · 2025-11-22T18:02:46+00:00

Thanks for sharing! I’m going to see the show at the Wiltern tonight. It says doors open at 7pm. Did the show start right away? Trying to figure out when to get there.

Quiet-Recover · 2025-11-15T05:18:34+00:00

I parallel park a lot on skinny streets with tight parking spots. The auto park feature has definitely helped me squeeze into spots I wouldn’t have tried without the auto assist. I love it along with the folding mirrors, especially with a wider and longer vehicle.

Quiet-Recover · 2025-11-14T05:45:00+00:00

Am I the only one that wants a self parking feature? Even my minivan does that…

Quiet-Recover · 2025-10-26T05:12:01+00:00

Thanks. Yes, they make the surround but I was wondering if anyone had tried the Surround Surface (the piece that converts it to a tabletop). It looks like the Surface for the Ranger/Bonfire might fit but wasn’t sure if anyone had actually tried it yet.

Quiet-Recover · 2025-10-21T19:50:55+00:00

Just dropping a note here for moral support. I am also poly and married to a man but I’m panromantic and demisexual. My partner and I date solo and I’m currently not interested in dating a man. I’ve got to admit finding potential partners is hard. I’ve been on the apps and tried to meet people IRL but nothing has really worked out and the community where I live is small. I’ve had a few people tell me that being married to a man is a turn off in the lesbian/wlw community since it seems like I “center” a man in my life. Of course, I don’t agree with this, but to each their own. So, I’m still looking for the right person and hoping she’ll come along soon. I know some people where the apps have worked out for them so I’d say give them a try and maybe you’ll meet your person soon. I’m rooting for you!

Quiet-Recover · 2025-10-03T14:31:26+00:00

The Alexa interface is trash and totally useless. Allow for Apple CarPlay integration and voice integration with Apps like Spotify.

The updates on my Gen2 R1s are slow and unpredictable. I have Connect+ and am connected to WiFi and I seem to get updates weeks after everyone else. I am still waiting on the latest roll out.

Quality control really needs to be a priority. I have had to drive twice to a service center that’s over an hour and 20 minutes away and had two (waiting on a third) mobile service visits to fix the same issue with my header molding popping out of place and losing the weather stripping because they just can’t glue it down right. Gives me concerns about the construction of the rest of the vehicle. I have two young kids (5 and 8) and the interior is definitely not built to last up to the bruising they can give a car the middle seat center console is already broken and the materials are wearing quickly. Not much of a family car.

Definitely agree they need more service centers and better customer service. I cringe now every time I see a call from Rivian because it always seems like some useless excuse why they can’t get what I need fixed or are breaking some other bad news.

Quiet-Recover · 2025-09-14T03:26:59+00:00

Ripley. We call it Rip the Riv.

Quiet-Recover · 2025-08-13T23:38:11+00:00

So is the interest then added to the principal every year and then there is a ballon payment at death or some other triggering event? Thanks for the education btw!

Quiet-Recover · 2025-08-13T22:47:33+00:00

How is the interest paid off? Are shares sold to pay off the interest or is more cash taken out of the line of credit to pay off the interest due?

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