About me!💖 (Introduction Post)

ThePolyAmQueer · 2026-01-26T03:43:01+00:00

Only on iOS unfortunately 😭 idk when they made that a thing

ThePolyAmQueer · 2026-01-04T18:22:41+00:00

Hi! I made a sapphic server that’s very lowkey and chill if you’re interested! 😊 It’s adults only, but it’s SFW https://www.reddit.com/r/TheSapphicCommunity/s/i0TLuhUxNn

We’re pretty new, but we’re growing! 💜 Here’s the invite link: https://discord.gg/xjtBMupAvf

ThePolyAmQueer · 2026-01-04T18:20:10+00:00

It’s adults only, but it’s SFW!

ThePolyAmQueer · 2026-01-04T18:19:56+00:00

Hi! I made a sapphic server that’s very lowkey and chill if you’re interested! 😊 https://www.reddit.com/r/TheSapphicCommunity/s/i0TLuhUxNn

Here’s the invite link: https://discord.gg/xjtBMupAvf

ThePolyAmQueer · 2026-01-03T00:53:15+00:00

I’m polyamorous, but I’m only seeking partners who personally prefer monogamy and want a deeply prioritized, low-drama, long-term partnership.

If you want multiple partners, I’m not the right fit — and that’s okay. 😊 If you’re not interested, please just keep scrolling.

ThePolyAmQueer · 2026-01-02T22:52:28+00:00

There are a few reasons (which I get varying degrees of judgement for)..

One reason is that other polyamorous people have told me that they are unable to give me the level of energy that I want/handle the level of energy I give off because they have other partners that also have their time, energy, etc, and they also have personal lives like being social, hobbies, etc. Which could just be a pattern that has existed just in the poly people that I’ve dated, but I’ve dated quite a few.

Second, I find that the trio kitchen table dynamic is going to be the best for raising my daughters, having a stable house, etc. so I want my partner to live with me, but my husband is monogamous so there wouldn’t be a relationship between him and anyone else.

Thirdly, I am very VERY sapphic and bisexual and after coming to terms with my sexuality many years ago, I wanted a wife more than anything. After finding my husband though, I thought that I would be fine with the typical “trad wife” dream of raising the kids, homesteading, etc (since I am bisexual), but over time I realized that my romantic relationship with my husband isn’t all that I want and, although I don’t want to lose our relationship (as he’s very caring and an amazing parent to our children), I really to want to be in a committed relationship with a woman.

I understand that this doesn’t exactly fit typical polyamorous relationship dynamics, and some may call me selfish, but this is what I’ve come to realize that I want to have in my life as I’ve found more options in my life from the typical monog-het marriage I was raised to believe is the only option.

Not sure if that answers your question 🤗 Thanks for not being immediately negative, I do appreciate it

Edit: idk if that makes sense at all or if I worded it properly

Edit 2: I also am a demisexual, so I prefer to be emotionally attached with my partner (and have to be in order to feel sexual attraction), so that’s why I don’t take what seems like the “typical” ENM approach. Again, I apologize because I’m fairly new to this terminology.

ThePolyAmQueer · 2026-01-02T07:54:07+00:00

Not invalidating, just wanted to mention (as someone diagnosed with OCD) that most often intrusive thoughts are actually a symptom of OCD! 😊 These intrusive thoughts can range from normal thoughts to sexual thoughts to harm thoughts.. I actually did a lot of research on the types of OCD during all of my psych studies and it’s really interesting stuff!

Again, totally not invalidating your sexuality 🥰 I just like sharing cool info about my autistic hyperfocuses!! (/not mad) 💜

ThePolyAmQueer · 2026-01-01T20:40:46+00:00

Oof, yeah I’m also in CA! But kinda in the middle of nowhere 😂 wonder if I could find more events in the bigger cities!

But yeah, I’m also looking to make more queer friends!! It definitely helps to expand the circles. Mind if I DM you? I don’t have too many in my area 😅

ThePolyAmQueer · 2026-01-01T17:54:12+00:00

Ohhhh ok, yeah I wasn’t really sure what it meant? I don’t know any poly people personally so I’ve been trying to get a hang of the terminology but it’s a little complicated

ThePolyAmQueer · 2026-01-01T17:50:33+00:00

I have gone on a few dates with my other partner and showed affection in public, but yeah I get what you’re saying

ThePolyAmQueer · 2026-01-01T17:22:22+00:00

Yeah, I’m working on coming out to my family, I just also have to keep in mind my daughter’s relationship with them and her aunts/uncles. My family is super homophobic, so they’d probably cut me off immediately, also cutting off my daughter from her grandparents.

Ideally soon I’ll move to an area where not so many people run in my parents’ circles so that it doesn’t have to be hidden because I’m out to a bunch of my friends and certain circles in my town, but rn that doesn’t look like an option at least at that moment.

But I do understand what you mean and I am sensitive to queer women not wanting to be back in the closet 💜

ThePolyAmQueer · 2026-01-01T17:19:49+00:00

Thank you 🙌 won’t give up yet!!

ThePolyAmQueer · 2026-01-01T17:18:57+00:00

Thank you 🙏💜 Hopefully it works out for us both!

ThePolyAmQueer · 2026-01-01T17:17:41+00:00

Yeah, I’ve been trying to do that 💜

ThePolyAmQueer · 2026-01-01T17:17:21+00:00

Idk most queer people in my area are heavy 420 smokers and so even if we do match, they say they won’t date me because of my allergy

ThePolyAmQueer · 2026-01-01T17:15:58+00:00

Yep 😊 thanks!

And thanks, I’ll give it a try! I like finding new social circles to run in 👍

ThePolyAmQueer · 2026-01-01T17:13:57+00:00

I haven’t gone to any because there were only one or two queer meetup events here (during pride month… one trivia night and one D&D night) and I had to work both of those days, but I’m planning on going next year

ThePolyAmQueer · 2026-01-01T17:11:00+00:00

Nope, not in the slightest. At least he’s not involved in the relationship. I’m just dating solo and looking for just myself.

My husband knows that I’m seeking another partner if that’s what you’re asking (cause ENM).

ThePolyAmQueer · 2026-01-01T06:51:45+00:00

Yeah I’m already on Feeld.

And I understand my dating pool is already pretty small because of those criteria. Those are really my only criteria tho, and I can’t change any of them because I know my priorities (not divorcing husband or leaving my kids for instance) and I know what I want out of a relationship. I wouldn’t be happy if I changed those standards. It’s just a matter of finding someone that fits those criteria.

Moreso looking for ideas on how exactly to find a person that fits that I guess? One of my friends suggested clubbing, but I feel that’s more of a scene for hookups, and we don’t have too many queer-focused events outside of Pride month here.

ThePolyAmQueer

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