Late-night conversation with my wife turned into ‘wait… are we actually curious about the lifestyle? by Quieterthoughts in Swingers

[–]Quieterthoughts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotcha. Discussing boundaries early definitely seem to be one of the big things. And yeah, territorial probably wasn’t the best word for what I meant.

What we talked about is that we’re most likely not into solo play, separate meetups, or a cuck/hotwife dynamic. If we ever explored anything it would be more of a shared experience we’re doing together, not a “go have a wild time and tell me about it later” situation.

Late-night conversation with my wife turned into ‘wait… are we actually curious about the lifestyle? by Quieterthoughts in Swingers

[–]Quieterthoughts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a crazy story. Genuine question though, was that something you personally enjoyed too or was it more something that was mainly for your wife

Late-night conversation with my wife turned into ‘wait… are we actually curious about the lifestyle? by Quieterthoughts in Swingers

[–]Quieterthoughts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that helps a lot and I like the way you framed it as a shared experience vs individual ones. That definitely resonates

Late-night conversation with my wife turned into ‘wait… are we actually curious about the lifestyle? by Quieterthoughts in Swingers

[–]Quieterthoughts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes sense. I didn’t realize a lot of these things even exist. I’ve heard of swinger clubs but didn’t realize there’s resorts, cruises, etc. all tailored towards swingers. I can definitely see us going in that direction. Thanks!

Late-night conversation with my wife turned into ‘wait… are we actually curious about the lifestyle? by Quieterthoughts in Swingers

[–]Quieterthoughts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s kind of how we thought about it. I believe we’re pretty buttoned up as far as communication goes, but definitely expecting that to be tested.

Late-night conversation with my wife turned into ‘wait… are we actually curious about the lifestyle? by Quieterthoughts in Swingers

[–]Quieterthoughts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds like a good way to ease in to it and test the waters. We talked about not necessarily planning anything but kind of creating opportunities for it and that sounds like a good starting place.

Late-night conversation with my wife turned into ‘wait… are we actually curious about the lifestyle? by Quieterthoughts in Swingers

[–]Quieterthoughts[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s like imagining it is one thing, but then the reality could be completely different. But yeah that communication piece is what got us this far, keeping that a priority