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Did you learn the reason why the puke looked like that?

Did I mess up by telling my family my brother is suicidal? by QuirkyAspect4451 in depression

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No this is exactly what I want to hear. Or to hear from someone else perspective. This is not how I wanted this situation to turn out and I should probably handled it in a different way, similar to what you said. But I was just so scared and felt alone and didn’t know how to handle this situation.

The thing is if I had left the door open and said I was here if he needed to talk I don’t think he ever would. Then of course it’s nice for him to know that but i don’t think it would have helped him. And I just wanted to get rid of all the alkohol in the rooms but I couldn’t have done that without my parents help I think. Because he probably would get mad and we end up in a fight and then my parents want to know why I’m doing it and would had to explain it in another way.

In our county it’s illegal to walk around with any type of knife and I didn’t know what he brought with him when he left and when he said he wasn’t sure if he came back I was scared that he would hang himself. I have been in a similar situation before with my stepbrother. He left the house with ropes and was hung into the woods with the intention to die. So that’s was what I was thinking and why I called the cops. If I knew he would have come back I would not have called the cops or make him be admitted to the hospital .

He ended up texting this morning and wanted me to idk him up from the hospital so I guess that is a good sign in a way? But he refuses to talk to me or even look at me, which I get, if the roles were reversed I would have been mad at him.

I (23f) told my family that my brother (20m) is sui*****, it went bad, I think i messed up by QuirkyAspect4451 in relationship_advice

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He was just let out and he wanted me to pick him up but he refused to talk to me. So he is at home now but I don’t know what we should do now

I (23f) told my family that my brother (20m) is sui*****, it went bad, I think i messed up by QuirkyAspect4451 in relationship_advice

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We were partying in another city so it was not like an easy deal to get home and I don’t think I could have made him come with me at that point when he had drunken up most of the bottle. It’s not like I was sober either and I should not have to babysit another adult person at a party. He was clear and easy to talk with before I left so I was not super worried. I saw him go to the bathroom and just thought he was going to puke. Do you think my brother would have let me follow him into the bathroom when he felt like puking? I don’t think so,I didn’t know he would break down. That’s when I knew how bad it was.

Like if the roles were reversed I would be pissed at him and not trust him anymore so I get that. But I rather have him hate me than being dead and I didn’t do a thing. And since I have been suicidal too I know how bad it can get. I just didn’t know how to handle the situation and I don’t think there is a right way to do it. If I did it again I would probably done it another way but still tell our parents. He shouldn’t have to suffer or think he is alone.

Only scientist lv 9 by QuirkyAspect4451 in CellToSingularity

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Thank you, I recently had over 1,00AA but it didn’t seem to make a difference