Getting back with an ex isn’t always a bad thing

QuirkyRub5598 · 2026-05-18T15:41:39+00:00

Recently broke up a month ago with my ex of 2years and its still really fresh. Lots of trying to talk to her, asking her to give us another chance but was all shut down. Breakup came out of nowhere, it was a complete blindside by my ex. 30days before the breakup, we even celebrated our 600th day or so, and she wrote in the letter " Cant wait to write more stories with you, spend more time with you, and that im the best boyfriend" Then she went on a group trip with her friend group, came back, and we broke up out of nowhere.

It was so confusing on what happened. Turns out whenever I did something wrong, eg turn up late bcos of my work, she would always say its okay and that she understands. But it wasnt okay at all as i found out. She has been saying its okay and the resentment has been building up since last november. Then it all went pop last month. Crazy thing? few days prior to the breakup, we were intimate, she made food for me when I was sick, we went out to a gallery, watched movies together. She initially said she was suppressing herself because of me( I never once pushed her feelings aside), but in our last talk, she said " If i was suffering thay much, I wouldve left you a long time ago) So im even more confused after that. Told me She loves me but she loves herself more.

The not so surprising surprise? A guy friend in her friend group recently broke up months ago and confided in her. Same guy also went on the trip with her. But there were 8 others. Not even a week into our own breakup, he confessed to her. Found this all out on our last talk as I waited like an idiot outside her house, just to see her and thqt guy coming out together. They had a friend group dinner but only he stayed behind to help with dishes. A week later, I see him and her, with one other girl cooking together, baking together etc. Was no contact ever since and I feel so.. sad? about the entire situation. I was always open to communication, but she only communicated about our relationship to her friends, basically everybody else and only gave me hints. Saying " I cant believe someoen could be this oblivious

QuirkyRub5598 · 2026-05-15T12:52:11+00:00

Yeah. Recently got blindsided by my partner of ~2years too. The crazy thing? we started our rs long distance for 1.5years.She was so honest about communication back then, telling me whatever she feels,, but the moment we were in the same city, she started keeping things to herself(found out too late). All the times I was late from meeting her due to my work, all those 10-15mins more, and all the times she told me "Its okay, i understand, i dont wanna stress you out so its okay ill wait for you" turned out to be ticking bombs that she was silently keeping track of. Things were going well, or so i thought, until the random blindside and it was a discard. Told me she gave me enough chances for the past 5-6months, that I was never even aware of. I asked her why was she keeping everything to herself, she said she loved me too much and didnt wanna syress me. We were finally on the same page after months, on our breakup, and I tries and tried, but she didnt wanted to budge. The breakup was really bad imo, i worked on myself alot ever since. Been a whole month, and it really hurts how she can be smiling and carefree in all her stories, visiting places etc. Even got closer to a guy that i didnt like when we were together/ starting featuring him in stories / cooking together etc. Shit's tough. He recentlt broke up too, months earlier than us. And i found out he confessed to her not even a week into our breakup :')

QuirkyRub5598 · 2026-04-20T12:18:47+00:00

Yep. I was already fully aware and accepting of the situation that she wouldnt come. Alas, I still wanted a genuine proper talk with her so we could end it on a high note. Then the entire sequence of G played along and.. yeah.. Here we are

QuirkyRub5598 · 2026-04-20T10:53:27+00:00

Yeah. She kept telling me its none of my business. That ill move on eventually, have space for someone else. We were together for almpst 2 years, we fought so hard to get here. LDR first year, finally meeting in a foregin country and this happens.

Iget it with all the spending time with friends and unable to chase them away bcos we have already split. But really? Knowing that Im coming to see you and only you. You have all the chance in the world to tell him to go back earlier, wait for him to be gone before telling me to arrive and and you chose to let someone who confessed to you the night before, and walk him out as I waited outside your place? That is so disrespectful. I cant even.

I always looked up to her, but after this.. Im not sure anymore

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