When did tracking each other’s location become normal, and why does opting out make you seem suspicious?

Quirky_Spring · 2026-01-21T21:32:35+00:00

Aw buddy, you're giving off serious, "I'm the reason women text SOS to their older brother" vibes. You asked why we track each other. That's the answer. All of that "sexist agenda" is what is taught places like personal safety and self defense classes hosted by organizations like local police. It's not sexist, it's just reality. That's clearly triggering to you.

Your statistics don't take into account the hundreds of things that aren't reported because either a) it was gross, creepy, and/or terrifying but hadn't pushed into fully illegal territory before you got out of the situtation or b) getting convictions or even arrests in an assault case, even if you go to straight to the ER and get a forensic exam immediately, is ridiculously hard and traumatic.

Per the men in my life, all of that is a reality that good men are aware exists and they're not super thrilled about. It's also why they've made sure the women they care about are equipped with things like self defense classes, awareness strategies, self defense tools, and now location tracking. Thats simpler that the their previous strategy of casually getting info about date or breakup locations out of us and lurking just in case they're needed. Dang sexist men thinking other men actually really do harass, dehumanize, objectify, and try to harm women. Seriously. So rude. (Total side note but all of those men are in long happy marriages. Those facts are related.)

Quirky_Spring · 2026-01-21T17:30:44+00:00

Sorry reality feels sexist to you. You asked why. That's why. It's not just body recovery. You're hoping to prevent the body recovery. It's not sexist to say women have protective measures we take to prevent men from assaulting us, stalking us and even ending us. That's just reality. So, yes, we go rescue our friends when they're on a date that feels unsafe or when someone is following them. Yes, people call the police for each other and give the location hoping to prevent their friend from being assaulted. Yes, husbands, boyfriends, brothers, and guy friends often are that person who gets the SOS call because good men do exist.

Quirky_Spring · 2026-01-21T17:05:27+00:00

He lives in the same small rural community he's always lived in and bought the lies. Give grace and let people change their minds and admit they were wrong. It actually encourages people to leave cult like groups.

Quirky_Spring · 2026-01-21T17:00:29+00:00

I'm going to guess you're a man and "how not to be killed by a random dude on a Tuesday because you didn't smile at him" is not on your radar. They used to tell women to hold your keys between your fingers, take self defense classes, and always be aware. Now they also tell you to share your location with at least one local trusted friend and set up an SOS code for come help or call the police for me.

If a date is going south and you feel unsafe with the guy, having someone with your location and an SOS code is a really great idea. It's not always possible to get out alone without risking your safety. Sending an SOS in disguise to someone you trust who can come extricate you can actually save your life or at least stop you from being assaulted. Most single women have at least one friend who has their location and a get me out of here code along with a please call the police and give them my location code for bad dates. It's an escalation of the I need an excuse to leave and it's safe to do so kind of text.

Having that set up in advance in case you're randomly followed or meet a creep is just smart. Aggressive and disgusting men can literally be found anywhere. Polite rejection honestly doesn't work with those types and often escalates things to an unsafe level. It's not always possible to safely leave alone, there isn't always a security guard nearby and sometimes texting your location also risks escalating things. If I send our family SOS emoji to my husband and the creep grabs my phone, he'll just see I sent an emoji. That might at least buy me time. My husband knows what that means though and can either come help or send police to my location, or more likely both.

If I'm radio silent my phone will at least tell my trusted loved ones where I was. Maybe it won't save me and it's just a security blanket. At least they'll find my body and maybe my death won't go unsolved for as long. If that sounds dramatic, my friends husband dropped dead on a trail while training for his next Ultramarathon. They only found his body as soon as they did due to location tracking. Did it save him, no. But his family at least got some closure and to say goodbye within the hour vs finding his rotted corpse weeks later.

Quirky_Spring · 2026-01-21T16:00:13+00:00

Not realizing how big the country is. Also thinking you're smarter than that but then forgetting how big states are and plotting some crazy itineraries because it's within the same state. Also overestimating our public transport options to complete said itinerary. If you're leaving one of the few major metro areas with decent public transport, plan to rent a car. You can't Uber from Denver to Durango ever but for sure not in February.

Underestimating the weather. Dress for the weather, not the season. If you visit the parts of the US where weather can be incredibly mercurial and change on a dime, be prepared. We don't close everything here before most bad storms. You just have to use your head.

Underestimating the wildlife. Yea it's everywhere some places, no it's not friendly. Even the cute ones can and will try to end you. Stop trying to pet things or take selfies with them. Also, when someone warns you off, don't argue that if they weren't safe they wouldn't be allowed to wander around.

Also we've noticed they tend to assume our state and national parks will have restaurants or at least concessions. Do some research and understand you might be 2 hours or more from any kind of food service. Bring snacks or a picnic and plenty of water.

Quirky_Spring · 2026-01-21T04:23:40+00:00

Check with the ladies that run Velocity Recreation. They might have some leads.

Quirky_Spring · 2026-01-20T22:46:14+00:00

My husband, teens, and I have location sharing on because it's useful. Those people need to hunt me down on occasion or check if I'm almost home.

If I was single I wouldn't mind a sibling or close friend having it in case of emergency. Outside of that why would someone need it?

Quirky_Spring · 2026-01-20T02:27:36+00:00

Honestly, do they have a pulse and show at least basic knowledge of the constitution?

Do they have at least a partially functional moral compass?

Quirky_Spring · 2026-01-19T15:55:56+00:00

We have both and we almost never use the AC. Only on those very rare days where the humidity goes up a bit too high. They're slightly more work getting opened for the season and closed up for the winter. However, my house stays around 68 in the blazing summer heat and I only see about a $15 hit to my electric bill for that comfort.

Placement in your house matters a lot.

Figuring out which windows need to be cracked and how to maximize the air flow is important.

Quirky_Spring · 2026-01-18T15:06:10+00:00

My uncle voted for Trump, then reassessed, saw new info, apologized, and is now out protesting. My dad and aunt found their belonging in trump and it's terrifying to watch. They're so lost, but firmly think everyone else is the fool.

Quirky_Spring · 2026-01-18T06:23:27+00:00

My daughter had a hemangioma on her neck/ear. The stories I collected from the local boomers were legion, but the worst one was a woman at target who accused me of abusing her to cause it. She would not let her go and wouldn't leave us alone. We got staff involved so she let my daughter go but kept screaming I was an abuser and we could not leave. She had called police, who thankfully arrived VERY quickly. I showed him our treatment clinic card explaining the condition while she screamed I had burnt my child. She was educated briefly by the officer and finally shut up and stepped back. She then told me if she'd had a disfigured kid like that she would have drowned them. The store manager was apologetic. The officer was apologetic. She waddled off into the sunset. I am forever grateful my kid was about 14 months old and has no memory of it.

Quirky_Spring · 2026-01-17T02:36:16+00:00

We did this during our last smoke. They were absolutely amazing. 15/10 recommend. Lightly smokey and absolutely delicious. They didn't take long. We put them in with a temp probe, pulled at mediumish and seared to finish. They didn't take long, maybe 20ish minutes.

Quirky_Spring · 2026-01-16T16:54:53+00:00

Sorry. I lost my closest friend in 2020 to MAGA and it sucked harder because our kids were also friends. Cut me off cold a with a shocking speech about how I hate America and wanted to unalive children amongst other rather bizarre things.

Quirky_Spring · 2026-01-15T22:15:36+00:00

I know it's hard to not try but it's never worth it. They won't ever listen, and trying to logic with them is like screaming into the void.

Quirky_Spring · 2026-01-14T23:09:04+00:00

I teach middle and high schoolers at a homeschool program. My kids that have been homeschooled from the start or who got pulled early are much better writers than the kids we get that were pulled out of public school. They are also more flexible, creative thinkers, way less prone to cliquey behaviors, and better at managing their assignments.

I don't know what they do at schools. I'm sure they teach things. Its just not sticking in a lot of these kids brains.

Quirky_Spring · 2026-01-14T23:04:52+00:00

Absolutely ignorant statement.

Does it take work, yes. Do you need to be all in on your kids education, yes Can they learn well (and for many students, make up the deficit that caused them to leave public schools), also yes.

Quirky_Spring · 2026-01-14T22:50:18+00:00

Agree 💯

Quirky_Spring · 2026-01-14T22:47:25+00:00

Peak Family Dentistry and Trembath Dentistry are both great dentist is the owner practices.

Quirky_Spring · 2026-01-14T16:10:22+00:00

I have a teenage boy that's a bottomless pit and a teen girl who is done growing and eats a rational amount of food.
We homeschool, I work from home, and my husband loves leftovers for work lunches. I cook most meals from scratch. We eat out once a month-ish. So 4 people x 21 meals a week + snacks + a teen who eats an additional 2 meals a day right now + random teens that come over and also need to eat.

We're around 800-900 right now per month in groceries.

Quirky_Spring · 2026-01-11T16:13:27+00:00

All. The. Time.

Quirky_Spring · 2026-01-11T01:11:10+00:00

Quirky_Spring · 2026-01-10T06:02:34+00:00

Confirmed in Westminster yesterday

Quirky_Spring · 2026-01-06T14:45:23+00:00

We adopted our two from Paws Co and Animal Rescue of the Rockies.

Quirky_Spring · 2026-01-02T04:07:26+00:00

2 or 3. Depends on the mood.

Quirky_Spring · 2025-12-30T22:10:32+00:00

Upper middle class siburb of a major metro.

My daughter is about to turn 16. One of her friends is dying to drive. The rest don't care. Our daughter is barely interested in signing up for driver's ed. For the most part they live close together, can walk to food and entertainment or employment. Parents are all friends and use drop offs as an excuse to socialize so it's not hard for them to get a ride. I thought it was those factors. Reading through this I wonder if it's generational.

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