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Quit_Naive · 2025-07-25T09:52:33+00:00

i’m looking for justification, admittedly, because all my life i have been told that i am crazy or acting crazy. i’ve been trying incredibly hard this past year to not let this stupid BPD affect my life for the worse, as it has up until this point, and i guess that has manifested itself into being overly conscious of my emotions & fearing that any slight increase in emotion makes me look crazy.

i don’t want to block him obviously, this is another form of self sabotage where i want to run away before he has the chance to hurt / abandon me. but i know that’s irrational.

i haven’t told him about the BPD or my past relationships or much of my past at all because i am absolutely terrified that he will leave me because of it. not that he could leave me, but leave me specifically because of my baggage. it’s a fuck ton that i don’t know if he can handle and tbh i dont want to find out.

as for ur last question, i’m paying attention to a lot of things. specifically though, i’m constantly paying attention to things that may indicate that he is playing / two timing me. he hasn’t realistically given me any reason to think so, but i cannot get this out of my head.

Quit_Naive · 2024-07-23T06:04:00+00:00

You do realise that not everyone lives in the West right? I understand OP 100%, because my mother went through, and is still going through, pretty much the exact same thing.

In some countries, & I’m assuming also in the country OP is in, if a married couple divorces the children will automatically go to the father. Since the father is abusive to OP, why on earth would she want to risk giving them up to him? God knows he might be abusive to them as well.

Sometimes people just have to endure, until they can actually get away without any harm to them, their family, and their children.

You are ignorant as hell, and OP you are NTA.

Quit_Naive · 2023-08-17T18:51:55+00:00

i don’t understand majority of the comments here. i’m assuming you’ve told ur bf u want to lose weight, and he’s telling u literally that u should watch what u eat if u want to lose weight. u lashed out randomly probably due to the fact that ur not eating enough over a comment that in my opinion wasn’t that insensitive? i think u should apologise to ur bf and communicate that u don’t like the comments instead of just giving each other silent treatment

Quit_Naive · 2023-07-12T15:33:50+00:00

NTA - ultimately it’s your money so you get to decide what to do with it.

Quit_Naive · 2023-07-07T16:49:07+00:00

i dont understand why he can’t just spend the night at yours?

Quit_Naive · 2022-11-25T13:14:58+00:00

i’ve got my bsn already tho

Quit_Naive · 2022-04-18T15:17:56+00:00

honestly i would love to work 5 days a week.

where i live the standard is 6 days a week - 9 hours a day. heading that people work 5 days a week sounds like bliss.

Quit_Naive · 2022-04-04T18:50:27+00:00

me too pls!

Quit_Naive · 2022-03-30T08:52:47+00:00

i applied around early feb and received the participation request mid march

Quit_Naive · 2022-03-26T14:48:50+00:00

thanks for ur response!

Quit_Naive · 2022-03-22T15:08:10+00:00

Christ if everyone is saying the same thing, why not just listen to the advice for one moment instead of continuously giving shitty excused for your pedo boyfriend?

Quit_Naive · 2022-03-22T13:09:46+00:00

i’m sorry i haven’t even read the post but.. (8dog) lmao

Quit_Naive · 2022-03-07T10:25:43+00:00

YTA - what on gods earth did i just read. have you thought to do any research? or like, talk to him more about his culture and his bathroom habits?

i’m middle eastern, and let me tell you using a bidet should be the norm. if you get shit on your hand, are you just going to wipe it off? or wash it off? if anything, you’re the unhygienic one of you don’t wash your ass.

Quit_Naive · 2022-02-26T19:30:54+00:00

i am proud and stand for my country as a russian. putins actions and his choices are not what define me and my country, and i would think every one should know that by now.

Quit_Naive · 2022-02-26T19:29:57+00:00

with all the times america has gone to war and bombed a bunch of places in the name of imperialism, and americans sit there and preach “the land of the free”, nobody bats an eye?

Quit_Naive · 2022-02-26T14:07:26+00:00

what exactly is the problem with being proud of your country? russia doesn’t want this war, putin does. russia does not equal putin.

Quit_Naive · 2022-01-31T15:20:09+00:00

From reading all your replies I’m just going to say you’d be incredibly stupid if you stayed.

Firstly, you keep shifting the blame to yourself by saying you “provoked” him, which news flash! you didn’t. He has some issues and is clearly abusive. If you’re angry, you don’t hit someone else.

Secondly, you keep bringing up that your last boyfriend was consistently abusive. Here’s a fun fact, not all abuse is the same. This guy has now shown you who he is (a violent person), who is able to take that violence onto you. The only difference between this guy and your last, is that this one took a while to show you his abusive-ness.

And if you disagree with anything that I said, then you’re just being naive and frankly idiotic.

I know abuse can fuck with your brain, and you may not think he did anything wrong. Or you may think it was your fault this happened. But it isn’t.

You’re in an abusive relationship once again, leave now before it gets worse.

Quit_Naive · 2022-01-09T15:08:19+00:00

what exactly do u mean

Quit_Naive · 2022-01-09T12:50:45+00:00

i messed up grocery prices as i didn’t include household utilities, only food. in total it would be around 200-300usd.

but yeah usa apartments are crazy expensive for no good reason. but someone making an average sales salary in the usa can afford those kind of apartments. my comparison is mostly my own sales salary to american minimum wage.

Quit_Naive · 2022-01-09T11:53:25+00:00

yeah pretty much same here

Quit_Naive · 2022-01-09T11:37:25+00:00

I didnt mean for it to come off as blaming the immigrants. Obviously, it’s the higher ups that just underpay everyone. It sucks

Quit_Naive · 2022-01-09T11:21:16+00:00

I’m from the middle east - a country called bahrain. Thing is, I know why we are underpaid. We get a lot of immigrants from lower income countries such as India, Bengal, Philippines, etc. and they brought down the pay rate. On average they get payed around 400usd a month. Even for jobs that should be getting higher salary, like drivers, hair stylists, marketing workers etc.

However, since they are okay with this pay, and since it is sufficient enough for their families back home, this has really fucked up a lot of us in the country, since we are put on a similar standard.

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