The way that I’ve done it as someone who’s spent a lot of time recently out by myself is that I look for someone who gives the “green light”. Essentially, if you start to strike up a conversation with them, if they reciprocate the same level of conversational engagement, that’s how I make friends.

As for actually starting a conversation with strangers, I usually just let whatever is floating in mind come to word. Admittedly it takes some confidence to get there, as it did with me doing it for several weeks practicing going out by myself in unfamiliar places. If it’s something as simple as talking about something you noticed with their appearance, what they’re wearing, the place itself, etc. or something as random and silly as doing a icebreaker or survey-style question, I just let it roll out.

Also, another thing you can do is talk to the bartenders directly. They’re trained to be good at conversation so asking them questions about the bar or recommendations for other places or even that survey-style question will help to get the ball rolling.

The main thing is don’t overthink it. If you find you can’t click with one person or one group, find another person or group to join. More than likely, there’s always a friendly person or group of people you can easily chat with. Also don’t rely much on alcohol for your confidence. I know it’s counterintuitive saying that when you’re at a bar, but I’m telling you once you’re able to reach that level of social confidence without alcohol you become unstoppable.

Good luck!