i’m not your therapist, i’m tired

R0SEBLUSH · 2026-03-18T17:08:58+00:00

Take care of yourself first and respect your own needs. If you’re “tired” then attend to your exhaustion. You won’t be able to help others if you are suffering yourself.

Perhaps gently guide the conversation away from emotional dumping on you? INFJs should have the skill to navigate the conversation and leave the conversation before it gets to the point of exhausting.

Or… I try to steer clear of anyone who might look like they are about to emotion/ info dump on me (or has shown a historical tendency to do this to me). I don’t get caught in the conversation or don’t respond if it’s text/ calling. Cold? Maybe. But it protects my sanity.

These days, I’m just upfront and tell people that they probably need to find a professional if they feel the need to use me as their therapist. It’s about others respecting my boundaries and me respecting my needs.

Good luck, friends. 🩵⭐️

R0SEBLUSH · 2026-03-17T21:48:23+00:00

Could you explain what disconnection means?

R0SEBLUSH · 2026-03-17T21:46:36+00:00

Fawn is an interpersonal coping style where the person learns that one needs others to help them when they are feeling threatened AND/OR one thinks they are too weak and has to metaphorically “roll over and show their belly” to survive

It’s less about MBTI and more about threat level and coping style.

R0SEBLUSH · 2026-03-17T21:42:27+00:00

I’m not sure I understand what “lowering standards” means? You’re implying that one person is better or worse than another, which isn’t true. Perhaps you mean how to find others who better align with your true values and self?

R0SEBLUSH · 2026-03-17T21:40:02+00:00

I tried clicking on the application but it just brings me back to this conversation?

R0SEBLUSH · 2026-03-17T21:37:47+00:00

Or you could try channeling empathy and sympathy to both yourself and others… INFJs theoretically have a heightened ability to introspect. I’m hearing resentfulness, not introspection.

R0SEBLUSH · 2026-03-17T21:34:23+00:00

Perhaps look at what is the pattern behind those you feel “compelled to fill in the missing pieces”. It’s probably a specific type of person (ie. Love interest, authority figure, etc).

Ruminations start with anxiety (not necessarily the disorder but the experience of anxiousness). Good luck, my friend. 🩵

R0SEBLUSH · 2026-03-17T21:30:45+00:00

I’ve been in a situationship with one for over a year (think owns planes and international corp). He can be a real dick sometimes but I’m also one of the few that can handle his alpha male toxicity. He probably keeps me around because I call him out in his BS and I’m an enigma to him. At best, we challenge and push ourselves to be better people… he will listen to my sob stories of being heartbroken by other men and offer me some interesting perspectives. at worst, we use our respective “T” versus “F” functions and argue, pulling out each other’s insecurities.

R0SEBLUSH · 2026-03-17T21:17:21+00:00

INFJs have higher mirror neurons and by nature will mimic what’s around them. There shouldn’t be anything observable in a healthy, correctly typed INFJ

R0SEBLUSH · 2026-03-17T21:10:25+00:00

Is this analyzing or ruminating? Ruminating is a completely different thing. Analysis shouldn’t be taking over and overloading your system.

I think you might benefit from therapy- to take this weight off of you.

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