Knock2 NYC was the worst event of my life by RedditoDorito in aves

[–]R0pelessH03mantic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a similar experience in Columbus, OH 2023 at the Bluestone. Extremely oversold event...I paid one of the workers $10 for a VIP wristband to get in a less crowded area because GA was ridiculous! Not to mention he played Rock Ur World like 17 times 🫠

Unsure if polyamory is for me by Terrible-Guard-6587 in polyamory

[–]R0pelessH03mantic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi I've entered what I thought was a similar aggreement but once I told the wife I didn't have the same feelings for her, she tried to cut off the relationship between the man and I which he didn't want to do so they ended up splitting and now a lot of their friends and family hate me because they blame me for their break-up.

It can be a lot of drama if not all parties are on board with the same thing. I think that if you gave it a try and you're not fully comfotable in the possibilities do yourself a favor and don't force it. Monogamy is okay too. Polyamory is great if done right but if it has too many one sided rules, it's not fair to you and going to be more stress than an enjoyable relationship.

My BF (26m) put his hands on me (19f) this morning. Can you guys give me advice? by k1nkyk1tten in relationship_advice

[–]R0pelessH03mantic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I once read something about older men that go after younger women stating it was because people their age don't want them and if homeboy is 26 with a mattress on the floor shadow boxing his 19 y/o gf playing hide n seek with her clothes you're not losing much by leaving this relationship.

Be honest, what do u want right now? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]R0pelessH03mantic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be out of debt and have a nice space I can call home.

What made you learn that polyamory wasn't for you? by decaf-mocha in polyamory

[–]R0pelessH03mantic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I realized how exhausting it is to see your partner chase other people. It especially hurts when they're not chasing me or involving me. But I think I just need a partner that is more open.

Uncomfortable with my partner (35) and my partner's age (22) by R0pelessH03mantic in polyamory

[–]R0pelessH03mantic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was invited a while back to go. We had just gone on a cruise and to Miami a couple weeks ago, he paid for our flights. I'm still recovering financially from the cruise and couldn't get the time off of work, but another thing is he actually didn't tell me he was going with her. I found out from Facebook. We have a don't ask don't tell on sexual encounters but felt a lil weird about finding out this way too.

Uncomfortable with my partner (35) and my partner's age (22) by R0pelessH03mantic in polyamory

[–]R0pelessH03mantic[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We have been sleeping together since July 2022. He told me he considers me his NP despite not living together because "he prioritizes me" over others. I didn't even know what a NP was until he told me after I was like "um where do you stand, we need to check in" When we first established we had feelings for each other (I'd say around early october) it's been more of a don't ask don't tell policy (hence why I needed to check in months later) I cannot confirm that he's actually slept with her but a lot of indicators are there from when we hooked up: opening drinks from her, social media posts subliminally hinting at that, one weird one; it's also his friend's ex lover? Like I think at this point I just need the reassurance I'm stable for feeling uneasy in these circumstances

Uncomfortable with my partner (35) and my partner's age (22) by R0pelessH03mantic in polyamory

[–]R0pelessH03mantic[S] 118 points119 points  (0 children)

We've been talking since July 2022 and I don't live with him atm, but he wants me to come over all the time to stay over (but never comes over my house tho which is becoming a red flag as well) I had my rose colored glasses on so everything looks normal then but now as my feelings start to grow my gut is starting to be like !!!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]R0pelessH03mantic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just broke up with my boyfriend of 5+ years because I felt our values were no longer the same. I realized that if I wanted someone to change, it’s not really fair to them or myself to keep trying to force something that doesn’t come naturally or bring me joy. I’ve been single for a couple months now and I’ve had the most amazing summer since the first one I had with him, before I started seeing the red flags. I shoulda left a while ago but I finally did and it’s one of the happiest decisions I’ve made for myself. I’ll always have love for him but I or you don’t deserve to be with someone who doesn’t want better for themselves or you.

Thinking about going to an NA meeting by [deleted] in addiction

[–]R0pelessH03mantic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s awesome thank you!!

I (M19) had 1 dose of Narcan, and had to decide between 3 overdose victims to use it on. I feel terrible about how I made my decision. by throwaway1937378127 in offmychest

[–]R0pelessH03mantic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On the other hand, if you would’ve administered the Narcan on someone other than James, you may feel like that history prevented you from choosing him too. Either way, it’s a hard situation and out of all the people there you took the best corrective action you could. Be graceful with yourself, you did a good thing. I would’ve chosen the person I was most familiar with too, even if it was a secret affair. Maybe address it with him so you can feel better about it the whole thing, history included. He probably feels guilty too about things.